Gay muslim coming out to family and very scared

Thank you both so much for your support xX

I think for now I will keep it to myself until I go to university maybe, I mean I don't have a bf or anything at the moment anyway. It's so awkward though because my brothers talk about girls and stuff and I'm just sitting there thinking about boys

Thanks for your replies. My fear though is that even when I am at university I am not independent because as soon as I leave if I don't have a graduate job instantly I'll have to go life back at my parents and I hope to have a boyfriend by then. At least when I am at university I can live my life how I want to though which is comforting.



You are saying I cannot be a Muslim because I sin? I believe in Allah and the prophet Muhammad pbuh that makes me a Muslim.

your gay

Classic.

there are people out there who quit porn and turned straight, and you're here telling me I'm ignorant. Do some research then speak, retard.

why did OP get banned?

You are ignorant.There are many brutal oppressive society's in the middle East where porn is not a common thing and the death penalty is enforced for being gay.If being gay is a consequence of porn then why are there still gay people in those societies? If you can simply turn straight then why didn't anyone do that when the Nazis were rounding people up in concentration camps and setting dogs on them?If being straight is as simple as not looking at porn then why are there animals like bonobos that display bisexuality and homosexuality? I suppose thats down to chimps looking at porn too? You are ignorant and that becomes clearer with every word you speak.Its you who should do some research.And FYI islam.com does not count neither do Christian websites.

what world are you living in? porn is everywhere and every single guy wanks multiple times a week mate. Nobody claimed being gay is a consequence of porn all I said was there are guys who quit porn and masturbation and turned straight. Nofap/noporn is a new phenomenon so how can you ask me about nazis and the concentration camps rofl. It's a new concept and clearly you're the ignorant one here so do me a favour and don't quote me again.

what world are you living in? porn is everywhere and every single guy wanks multiple times a week mate. Nobody claimed being gay is a consequence of porn all I said was there are guys who quit porn and masturbation and turned straight. Nofap/noporn is a new phenomenon so how can you ask me about nazis and the concentration camps rofl. It's a new concept and clearly you're the ignorant one here so do me a favour and don't quote me again.

Any sources to prove your claims or are we supposed to take your word for it?

I'll quote you if I want to.You are the one linking being gay to porn and saying that if men stopped looking at porn they would become straight.There is absolutely no evidence for that.Porn is everywhere now yes but historically it was not.You still had gay people then.You are just spouting rubbish.Porn has nothing to do with being gay.

you can find testimonials on r/nofap

I'm on nofap and have been following that sub-reddit for some time now. I haven't come across a single testimnoial from there.

Why don't you actually show some evidence for your claims? Let me guess: you can't find any.

why don't you google it yourself???

Hello all!

I'm a gay muslim and very proud, I never want to feel like I have to hide my sexuality but its very difficult because of my family, who are all practising muslims. I know the horrendous cruel treatment Islam prescribes for homosexuals and I think it's disgusting. Allah made me a homosexual and I'm not going to suppress my desire for a sexual relationship with another man for my entire life.

I believe at some point the quran has been changed and the hadiths are often such that "someone said that someone said that Muhammad said" and it sounds a lot like Chinese whispers.

The fact that my religion has these abominations in it makes me sick but I still do believe in God. Anyway I want to come out to my family but I am terrified they will physically harm me at worst and disown me, kick me out and never speak to me again at best. I live in the UK but I don't think that would stop my dad and brothers from probably severely hurting me because most Muslims are very intolerant of homosexuals and my family have always shown pure hatred for homosexuals and even wished death upon them when they see them on the news. Then I have my community to deal with and I fear being bullied / beaten up around my local area.

So what do I do? I'm 16 and it will still be some years yet until I am able to be independent so I feel trapped and it's starting to get me depressed. It would be a miracle if they supported me but I am certain they won't. I wish Muslims were more accepting and moved away from the old teachings that are just out of date now and not relevant to this era.

Any advice?

Hello all!

I'm a gay muslim and very proud, I never want to feel like I have to hide my sexuality but its very difficult because of my family, who are all practising muslims. I know the horrendous cruel treatment Islam prescribes for homosexuals and I think it's disgusting. Allah made me a homosexual and I'm not going to suppress my desire for a sexual relationship with another man for my entire life.

I believe at some point the quran has been changed and the hadiths are often such that "someone said that someone said that Muhammad said" and it sounds a lot like Chinese whispers.

The fact that my religion has these abominations in it makes me sick but I still do believe in God. Anyway I want to come out to my family but I am terrified they will physically harm me at worst and disown me, kick me out and never speak to me again at best. I live in the UK but I don't think that would stop my dad and brothers from probably severely hurting me because most Muslims are very intolerant of homosexuals and my family have always shown pure hatred for homosexuals and even wished death upon them when they see them on the news. Then I have my community to deal with and I fear being bullied / beaten up around my local area.

So what do I do? I'm 16 and it will still be some years yet until I am able to be independent so I feel trapped and it's starting to get me depressed. It would be a miracle if they supported me but I am certain they won't. I wish Muslims were more accepting and moved away from the old teachings that are just out of date now and not relevant to this era.

Any advice?