Really want a threesome but my boyfriend doesn't...

Yeah, I guess that's what it is. It's a shame that we can't agree on it, though. But there's nothing I can do I guess. We don't really talk about it anymore because he gets super angry.

And that's probably always going to be the case.

For future reference, if there should be a next time, try and bring it up early/before you're committed. You'll likely have more success

I'd be offended if my boyfriend asked me if I wanted a threesome - that's disgusting!!!!!

Don't convince him. If you force him into it it WILL ruin your relationship. I don't think a threesome has to do that but it will only work if both partners are the right sort of person and go into it happily and with open eyes. I absolutely couldn't watch my boyfriend **** another girl even if I was involved, it would ruin our relationship 100% but I know some people really enjoy it. Obviously you're on different wavelengths here but there's no way to get him to do it without causing more problems.

Suggesting a threesome is not the problem at all, there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Suggesting a guy you really like that your both friends with and he knows you like him is a dick move. Maybe more "random" person so there is no strings attached, as otherwise you might as well be single or get in a relationship with this other guy.

Would you feel comfartable if he asked to have a threesome with one of your hot female friends that your'e threatened by? I would think not.

Some abuse on here is OTT but yeah, just dont be a dick

I think you're being a bit selfish, if I'm being completely honest. You want your boyfriend to agree to a threesome so you can sleep with someone else and escape guilt or consequence. The fact that you won't take no for an answer and feel you should "convince" your boyfriend shows how little regard you have for his feelings or wellbeing.

I'm not sure how that would work since I'm not into girls but I'd still agree to it, I'm sure we would work something out. But he's not interested in any kind of threesome


I don't think you've seen my most recent post so will just repeat myself - I gave up on the idea now.

Well, what's wrong with that? We see people we'd happily **** almost on everyday basis. What's wrong with just taking what you want, instead of fantasizing about it?

Perhaps you should have a foursome instead? Not only is it more ambitious and adventurous than a threesome, it enables both of you, respectively, to choose one other person with whom to have sex. I find it quite baffling when people get hurt/ offended when their significant other suggests having sex with other people. It's pretty obvious (or so one would have thought) that being in a relationship doesn't suddenly kill off any attraction to other people, let alone a desire to sleep with them. Your request and frankness are more honourable than cheating on your boyfriend; at least you respect him enough to be honest about your desires. Monogamy is a social construct and is simply not in the natural human condition. It is one of those things we've had to force ourselves—unsuccessfully, for the most part—to adopt and adapt to. However, as feminism, female empowerment, greater LGBTQ+ rights, etc., and broader [L]iberal values continue to take hold in society, we are going to see a gradual—if not exponential—recession in monogamous relationships and marriages. Rather, we'll slowly adopt "monogamish", in the words of Esther Perel, relationships. Of course, this makes a lot of people uncomfortable and upset, but when you look at the academic literature and statistical analyses in this area, it soon becomes apparent that monogamy is slowly dying. Returning to your dilemma, I would advise you to suggest a foursome and ask your boyfriend to think about it carefully and in a measured manner, failing which you should probably end this relationship and explore your sexuality and sexual fantasies a little bit further as a single individual.

Lol, OP is going to end up cheating with this guy

thot alert

You want us to give you advice on how to coerce your boyfriend to have sex against his wishes?

Sounds a little rapey.

You're in a relationship. I shouldn't really need to explain mate.

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