I'm Tamil and honestly I don't understand why everyone thinks arranged marriages are that bad?? There's a HUGE difference between arranged and forced.The reason why arranged marriages work so well for particular races, like Tamil, is because it's essentially just a screening process to find the right partner for you AND your family. Afterall, a marriage is also about two families becoming one. Your family would be trying to find another good family for you to marry into, they wouldn't want to get married to a toxic family! Also they'd try to find someone with an extended family that would blend well with your's. No one's going to find a randomer and tell you to marry them. You're probably going to be presented a number of different choices and you'd get to talk to them and meet them to see if you'd both be compatible (almost like blind dates, unless ofc you've seen the person's pic before). Now this can either be a very quick process or a relatively long one, you are going to be settling down for life with this person afterall - it requires a lot of thinking and consent!Arranged marriages isn't a bad thing and I wish people stopped looking at it in a negative way. If you don't like the person your parents have chosen, it's perfectly fine for you to say no! ARRANGED is not the same as FORCED. Two very different concepts.