Unemployed & Depressed AF. No Longer A Man, Just A Waste

Make a start. That's all any of us can do. Dump the weed, a little bit at a time if necessary. Don't expect everything to come together today or tomorrow or this week. One step at a time. Do something you enjoy every day, something different each day. Distract yourself with all life has to offer. You are in a fantastic position with your first class degree - believe in yourself and know things will change soon. It's a cliche but some of our biggest, most lifelong learning curves will come from those times when we struggle; think of this as an enforced learning holiday.

This is all easier said than done my friend! I was in this position a year ago, except I wasn't drinking or smoking. That First Class degree is a waste in this country - I was born here but I am starting to look abroad. How do you know I am in a fantastic position? Smoking weed every week, drinking every week and agencies taking the piss is a fantastic position to be in?

Sorry, but this is what I am facing. Maybe I am being too harsh to you or to myself - it's just that people keep annoying me on the employment thing

Sorry I wasn't trying to be lecturing or patronising, just encouraging. I wouldn't agree any degree is a waste; you can probably do better than relying on agencies tbh. You need to get out there and make the jobhunt a full time job keep knocking the door literally everywhere that vaguely interests you and make contacts.

retrain then get an apprenticeship.

Hi,

So basically, a few months ago - my life was going well. I was so happy in life - like literally I was proud to call myself a grown man. I was working for a top company, was making decent money (sure it wasn't top pay) but it came with happiness and my life was busy. I enjoyed the working life, wearing a nice suit and tie to work everyday - having the good banter with my coworkers.

However, all good things come to an end - and well I soon became redundant and unemployed. This was due to the fact that I was only there on a contract and I planned to apply for other places whilst I was there.

Now, I am unemployed and looking for jobs. I have a First Class degree and some experience. Been putting so many applications and all I have been getting is rejections and false hopes! I've been getting a bit unhealthy and my parents have been nagging and annoying me everyday. I don't blame them BUT IT IS NOT MY FAULT! I have been applying every ****ing day and yet no ****er wants me. I've been getting depressed and now I smoke a bit of weed. The thing is, I was always against it and recently when people found out, they were disappointed in me. I am worried people are going to judge me.

Unemployment is killing me. No more friends and happiness.

Hi,

So basically, a few months ago - my life was going well. I was so happy in life - like literally I was proud to call myself a grown man. I was working for a top company, was making decent money (sure it wasn't top pay) but it came with happiness and my life was busy. I enjoyed the working life, wearing a nice suit and tie to work everyday - having the good banter with my coworkers.

However, all good things come to an end - and well I soon became redundant and unemployed. This was due to the fact that I was only there on a contract and I planned to apply for other places whilst I was there.

Now, I am unemployed and looking for jobs. I have a First Class degree and some experience. Been putting so many applications and all I have been getting is rejections and false hopes! I've been getting a bit unhealthy and my parents have been nagging and annoying me everyday. I don't blame them BUT IT IS NOT MY FAULT! I have been applying every ****ing day and yet no ****er wants me. I've been getting depressed and now I smoke a bit of weed. The thing is, I was always against it and recently when people found out, they were disappointed in me. I am worried people are going to judge me.

Unemployment is killing me. No more friends and happiness.

Have you thought about starting your own business?
You have a degree, so you can try starting one in that field

Yeah, I've always wanted to start a business as it runs in my blood too

Thing is, I am in my early 20s but I don't have much working experience.

There are many others like you- educated degree holders struggling with unemployment, nagging parents and subsequent depression in their early 20's. I personally know many people who have experienced something similar.
There's even a Reddit page called the 'Lost Generation' dedicated to this endemic. It's quickly becoming the quintessential life experience of millennials.

I'm sorry that there is not much advice I can offer. I hope you find some sort of comfort knowing that you're apart of a generational cohort that is experiencing something similar and that there isn't anything wrong with you as an individual, that has lead to this experience.

Perhaps you should spend more time on drafting applications instead of sending them out for as many roles as possible? Just keep applying and eventually you will hear back from someone. Or perhaps think about applying for a masters (Student Finance England now offer loans for post-grad study)

I actually have a job but with the rip off rents and having grown up in London I simply can’t justify moving out for independence. I don’t think I value it at £700 a month when my take home is maybe £17k a year, any advice?

Same actually, I have a well paid government job but I cannot afford to move out.

I have spoken to many graduates who are currently in their first jobs. Most of them are still living under their parents roof. There is no shame tbh, everyone's doing it. Again, it's a generational thing that defines millennials.

Only advice I can give is to save up, focus on developing your career and increasing your salary and move out in your late 20's/ early 30's when you can afford it. No point in wasting 700 on rent.