Seriously - I could have written this. This is my family to a damn tee!
My mum is stingy with everyone, even herself. and in her scenario its because shes always had to be due to growing up with little money so its not really her fault. my dad however is the worst, its like he doesn't even love his damn children because we're not his number one priority. he doesn't even get us low quality stuff, for a long time he just straight out said no if he thought we didn't need it. like stationary for school - he'd say stuff like 'don't they give out pen/pencils in school? surely you can borrow one from someone' and if by some miracle he actually did buy some pens he'd expect them to last and would throw a fit if he found out that the extremely cheap pens he bought for you were broken/had gone missing!
so with his own wife and kids it was always no, no, no or cheap tat and then when we started making our own money it was 'well why can't you buy it for yourself?' but with my cousins or aunties and uncles - no word of a lie - he literally throws thousands of pounds at them. even when they're not asking, he wants to buy their love/respect/admiration so he'll just randomly ask them 'whats wrong? do you need something? tell me, no matter what it is I'll buy it for you'!!! and if they say no he pushes them into saying yes, always saying 'money is no problem, ask for anything'. and so naturally because his family are equally as stingy and hate buying stuff for themselves they convince their children to go to my dad whenever they need something. so if they ask my dad to buy hair gel he won't just buy them any hair gel, he'll get the high quality stuff. and of course he'll buy them 2-3. we get **** all! they get professional brands!!
and its not just money. there was a time we had a tub of ice cream in our house, we had asked him to buy one and amazing he bought it for us. then my young cousins came over and started playing, they ate dinner at our home and we made the mistake of telling them that we had ice cream for dessert. and like sweets are a rarity in our home so we were really looking forward to having some dessert that day. but my cousins dad suddenly came over and said they had to go home and my cousin kept saying 'we haven't had ice cream yet' so heres me thinking my dad was going to quickly give him a bowl of ice cream but nooooo, he gives him the whole tub to take home with him! seriously me and my brothers were screaming at him, saying why are you giving him the whole thing and he just kept shushing us. MADE. MY. BLOOD. BOIL. I know its just ice cream but it was the ****ing unfairness of it all! thats why his kids hate him, hes never cared much for us so in return his kids don't care a damn about him. honestly he can go to hell.