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Have you ever felt pressured into sex acts?
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As has been alluded i have little sympathy for women who regret having done something or worse, decide to accuse a man of false rape.
With regards to the matter at hand though i have never really been pressured myself (largely because i tend to control the terms of my relationships) however i probably have put pressure on a woman from time to time. With one ex for example i wanted the other hole while she was on her period and probably pressured her into it. As it happened though, she enjoyed it a lot as i brought out a kinkier side.
With regards to the matter at hand though i have never really been pressured myself (largely because i tend to control the terms of my relationships) however i probably have put pressure on a woman from time to time. With one ex for example i wanted the other hole while she was on her period and probably pressured her into it. As it happened though, she enjoyed it a lot as i brought out a kinkier side.
I find sex painful. My partner has never pressured me, but I used to feel a fair amount of pressure or like I wasn't a good enough gf over it. For a while I didn't fully open up about it. I've previously suffered through as far as I can before giving in and needing him to stop or him noticing I'm holding back tears and stopping (I guess that's a bit of a mood kill). I've finally realised it's just not worth it and been brutally honest with him that i just can't do it.
No issues. We just make up for the lack of physicality by being disgustingly close emotionally
No issues. We just make up for the lack of physicality by being disgustingly close emotionally
Lots of the replies in this thread are disgusting TBH, its bang out of order to pressure dudes OR gals into sex acts
Original post by It's****ingWOODY
Yes, I've been pressured into and have pressured girls into such things, I feel. Sorry, but if you're sexually involved with someone and you haven't at least once done something you're not really comfortable with because it'd please your partner, then you're just selfish tbh.
Were you pressured by a man, by any chance?
Original post by verier
I am forced into sex acts by my boss everyday.
Yeah sorry about that I'll see you tomorrow
Original post by Kenneye_j
Yeah sorry about that I'll see you tomorrow
Excuse me?
Original post by verier
Excuse me?
You should very well know who I am... I'm your honey (aka. your boss). See you tomorrow bb <3 Bright and early (before the store opens)
I met a guy in a club and went home with him, I was reaaaally drunk - we were walking back to his and he started acting really erratic like getting really angry and aggressive and then calming down again, and I thought it was weird but I felt stuck with him at that point - didn't really know where I was, didn't know how to say I wanted to leave, was worried about him kicking off again and what might happen if I made him angry.
Anyway, I went back to his and we had sex (that was consensual although like I admit I was really drunk). But then he started being weird again and I tried to leave. I was looking for my phone and I couldn't find it anywhere and I asked him to help and he wouldn't. I was really confused and disoriented and I got back into bed and we had sex again. Afterwards he said he'd hidden my phone because he didn't want me to leave.
I don't know if he directly pressured me or if I felt pressured because I was intimidated? It was all really weird and I left in the early hours and cried in the taxi on the way home and felt disgusting the next day.
GIRLS: Sleeping around is ok if that's what you want to do. But since then I take precautions. I make sure I'm with friends who look out for me (and not the crap people I was with that night). I don't get with complete strangers. Maybe a friend of a friend, or someone I at least know. I don't go back to people's houses in places I don't even know. I don't think what happened was my 'fault' as such but there are a lot of my own behaviours that I have changed since that night!
Anyway, I went back to his and we had sex (that was consensual although like I admit I was really drunk). But then he started being weird again and I tried to leave. I was looking for my phone and I couldn't find it anywhere and I asked him to help and he wouldn't. I was really confused and disoriented and I got back into bed and we had sex again. Afterwards he said he'd hidden my phone because he didn't want me to leave.
I don't know if he directly pressured me or if I felt pressured because I was intimidated? It was all really weird and I left in the early hours and cried in the taxi on the way home and felt disgusting the next day.
GIRLS: Sleeping around is ok if that's what you want to do. But since then I take precautions. I make sure I'm with friends who look out for me (and not the crap people I was with that night). I don't get with complete strangers. Maybe a friend of a friend, or someone I at least know. I don't go back to people's houses in places I don't even know. I don't think what happened was my 'fault' as such but there are a lot of my own behaviours that I have changed since that night!
Original post by Rakas21
As has been alluded i have little sympathy for women who regret having done something or worse, decide to accuse a man of false rape.
With regards to the matter at hand though i have never really been pressured myself (largely because i tend to control the terms of my relationships) however i probably have put pressure on a woman from time to time. With one ex for example i wanted the other hole while she was on her period and probably pressured her into it. As it happened though, she enjoyed it a lot as i brought out a kinkier side.
With regards to the matter at hand though i have never really been pressured myself (largely because i tend to control the terms of my relationships) however i probably have put pressure on a woman from time to time. With one ex for example i wanted the other hole while she was on her period and probably pressured her into it. As it happened though, she enjoyed it a lot as i brought out a kinkier side.
Gross. Coming from someone who had (past tense) a friend who falsely accused a man of sex and went to prison for it... so I understand that it happens and it's disgusting. But your second paragraph; dude what is up with you.
This is beyond stupid.
""There was one time when one of the girls, who was 14, was really upset and said to me, 'I sucked his **** and he doesn't love me - he told me he loved me and he doesn't.'"
Maybe I was just smart as ****, but at 14 years old I knew right from wrong, what to do and what not to do. It seems in the modern day we wrap teens in cotton wool, as if they haven't got a single brain cell in their head
""There was one time when one of the girls, who was 14, was really upset and said to me, 'I sucked his **** and he doesn't love me - he told me he loved me and he doesn't.'"
Maybe I was just smart as ****, but at 14 years old I knew right from wrong, what to do and what not to do. It seems in the modern day we wrap teens in cotton wool, as if they haven't got a single brain cell in their head
I would never pressure someone into doing a sex act. I can't think of anything less arousing than having sex with someone who isn't into it. Should be about pleasure for both people. Some of the replies on here are worrying.
I have been pressured before, I still said no, yet he did it anyway. It caused me to have a lot of resentment around sex for quite a while, and I still have some issues around certain things.
I have been pressured before, I still said no, yet he did it anyway. It caused me to have a lot of resentment around sex for quite a while, and I still have some issues around certain things.
Yes quite a few times. Again the BBC only reports from one end of the gender spectrum and even saying a truism that guys also get pressured into sex and you'll be attacked and abused on-line.
Its the last taboo. My last girlfriend followed me around the house (my house!) demoing sex. I had to get up in 4 hours for work so didn't' want to. She became very aggressive and threatened me and that has continued by phone long after the break up. This is what guys have to cope with. They get away with it because there is a pass and they can then claim its them that are being pressured when its simply not the case. I recognise that it happens a lot to grill but you can just refuse. Its your right. If you refuse if you're a guy you will get your c... in a blender if you don't' get out of there super fast.
Its the last taboo. My last girlfriend followed me around the house (my house!) demoing sex. I had to get up in 4 hours for work so didn't' want to. She became very aggressive and threatened me and that has continued by phone long after the break up. This is what guys have to cope with. They get away with it because there is a pass and they can then claim its them that are being pressured when its simply not the case. I recognise that it happens a lot to grill but you can just refuse. Its your right. If you refuse if you're a guy you will get your c... in a blender if you don't' get out of there super fast.
Original post by Ella-keturah
I would never pressure someone into doing a sex act. I can't think of anything less arousing than having sex with someone who isn't into it. Should be about pleasure for both people. Some of the replies on here are worrying.
I have been pressured before, I still said no, yet he did it anyway. It caused me to have a lot of resentment around sex for quite a while, and I still have some issues around certain things.
I have been pressured before, I still said no, yet he did it anyway. It caused me to have a lot of resentment around sex for quite a while, and I still have some issues around certain things.
All power and respect to you for standing up.
Original post by HelpMe??
society disagrees
No. The Hegemony of ideologues disagrees. half of 'society' is male so we do understand. There is a myth that men have to be controlled and watched. Pressure and sex assault are horrendous and wrong (obviously) but they are still statistically speaking (facts students) very rare. Always take that into consideration. The teacher on the BBC report is conflating her experience of talking to a small group of girls (whist she shouldn't be talking about sex with anyway as its grooming) for a general rule about society. This is where rational thought and observational research ends and hysteria begins.
Original post by Anonymous
I find sex painful. My partner has never pressured me, but I used to feel a fair amount of pressure or like I wasn't a good enough gf over it. For a while I didn't fully open up about it. I've previously suffered through as far as I can before giving in and needing him to stop or him noticing I'm holding back tears and stopping (I guess that's a bit of a mood kill). I've finally realised it's just not worth it and been brutally honest with him that i just can't do it.
No issues. We just make up for the lack of physicality by being disgustingly close emotionally
No issues. We just make up for the lack of physicality by being disgustingly close emotionally
the pain will pass if you have a genuinely caring partner. Used to be painful for me. It might be a physical issue - have you asked a doctor? If not then most guys are not obsessed with penetration. Lots of other nice things to do which are much nicer and fulfilling as I am sure you will find.
Yes, at college. A girl wanted to suck my penis if I gave her a bag of Skittles sweets! 
A lot of guys give out that kind of pressure without necessarily even saying it clearly - it's like an assumed thing with some (by no means all) men that if you show any kind of friendliness or even just not actively be hostile, it means you are available to be used for sex. There's also a heck of a lot of pressure to perform extreme sex acts from a number of blokes, having had their fantasies activated by the deluges of webporn, they want to play it out in real life. I've been around guys who were definitely claiming to be not satisfied with 'regular' sex and demanding something weird or hurtful or extreme. It's like an illness with some and there is definitely a need for recovery therapy from porn.
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