My boyfriend has a huge issue of me having a solo profile picture

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We were long distance until this month when we finally moved into the same city. Until now I've had him in my profile pictures on WhatsApp and Facebook because, in all honesty, I was super excited about having a new guy in my life and I just found it cute.

Now I don't think there is much point to it, we see each other every day anyway so I don't get anything out of having him in my profile picture. It's actually confusing to have two people representing the profile for one person. I have a foreign, unisex sounding name so I had people refer to me as 'he' a few times, thinking it was him that they were talking to. Most importantly I really don't like the idea that now there is an absolute rule that my profile pictures all have to have him in them.

So I changed it to a solo picture of me to see how he responds. I even made it hidden from timeline so that it would be a quiet change without anyone thinking we argued or broke up. He said he was deeply offended by it and removed all of pictures with me from his timeline. When I said removing me like that is actually akin to a breakup he said he doesn't care and it's all or nothing for him, I am not entitled to a presence on his profile if I don't have him in my profile picture.

Honestly now I wish I never started this tradition in the first place because he takes it the wrong way. In his defence, most people on his list who have SOs do seem to put profile pictures together 90% of the time. He thinks I am trying to act single if I don't have him in my profile picture since all those with bfs/gfs do have it.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We were long distance until this month when we finally moved into the same city. Until now I've had him in my profile pictures on WhatsApp and Facebook because, in all honesty, I was super excited about having a new guy in my life and I just found it cute.

Now I don't think there is much point to it, we see each other every day anyway so I don't get anything out of having him in my profile picture. It's actually confusing to have two people representing the profile for one person. I have a foreign, unisex sounding name so I had people refer to me as 'he' a few times, thinking it was him that they were talking to. Most importantly I really don't like the idea that now there is an absolute rule that my profile pictures all have to have him in them.

So I changed it to a solo picture of me to see how he responds. I even made it hidden from timeline so that it would be a quiet change without anyone thinking we argued or broke up. He said he was deeply offended by it and removed all of pictures with me from his timeline. When I said removing me like that is actually akin to a breakup he said he doesn't care and it's all or nothing for him, I am not entitled to a presence on his profile if I don't have him in my profile picture.

Honestly now I wish I never started this tradition in the first place because he takes it the wrong way. In his defence, most people on his list who have SOs do seem to put profile pictures together 90% of the time. He thinks I am trying to act single if I don't have him in my profile picture since all those with bfs/gfs do have it.

One person doesn't simply exist to make the other person happy or protect their feelings.

loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool. What a reaction. My sister doesn't even have facebook or any social media at all

Why don't you use a facebook cover photo of both of you to compromise?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We were long distance until this month when we finally moved into the same city. Until now I've had him in my profile pictures on WhatsApp and Facebook because, in all honesty, I was super excited about having a new guy in my life and I just found it cute.

Now I don't think there is much point to it, we see each other every day anyway so I don't get anything out of having him in my profile picture. It's actually confusing to have two people representing the profile for one person. I have a foreign, unisex sounding name so I had people refer to me as 'he' a few times, thinking it was him that they were talking to. Most importantly I really don't like the idea that now there is an absolute rule that my profile pictures all have to have him in them.

So I changed it to a solo picture of me to see how he responds. I even made it hidden from timeline so that it would be a quiet change without anyone thinking we argued or broke up. He said he was deeply offended by it and removed all of pictures with me from his timeline. When I said removing me like that is actually akin to a breakup he said he doesn't care and it's all or nothing for him, I am not entitled to a presence on his profile if I don't have him in my profile picture.

Honestly now I wish I never started this tradition in the first place because he takes it the wrong way. In his defence, most people on his list who have SOs do seem to put profile pictures together 90% of the time. He thinks I am trying to act single if I don't have him in my profile picture since all those with bfs/gfs do have it.

I don't like cover pictures with faces in them. I suggested putting our pictures together in my 'Featured Photos' box so that it could still be seen that I have a bf for anyone interested in that bit of information, but then he twists it and asks me why I want a single picture 'so bad'.

Ask him why he's being such a child? lol

You are 2 people, not 1. Never forget that. Be yourself and don’t let him tell u what to do. He sounds insecure and possessive as a result.

I already did. He says being with him necessiates a profile picture together, and that I shall either take it or leave it. Yeah I'm serious.

We see each other as soulmates and do many things together, but I am not willing to give up all my friends or personal interests for his sake.

Just out of interest, would you think a couple argued if you saw one of them change from a couple profile picture to a solo picture?

We see each other as soulmates and do many things together, but I am not willing to give up all my friends or personal interests for his sake.

Just out of interest, would you think a couple argued if you saw one of them change from a couple profile picture to a solo picture?

The argument would be pity and suggestive of a toxic relationship. I can sense he loves you but lacks some level of emotional intelligence.
He wants to be in in your profile pic to make sure everyone can see you are together.
But showing off love and marking your girl as territory like that is a very primitive instinct.
But i guess humans are humans.
People at TSR will hate your bf because he isnt perfect (no one is). So ppl will still call him a ****.

However, if you love him. Gotta deal with imperfections and compromise. Good luck with tour bf

You shouldn't have to compromise you are. What is special in a relationship is having two different people. You can do things together but you can be two separate people too.

I don't see why it is important to have couple profile photos. It is just a photo. I don't do it and lots of my friends are the same. I would rather focus on the relationship rather than something little like a profile picture. I wouldn't think you had problems if one of you changed it to a solo picture.

Why not keep some social media profile pictures of the two of you, but other pictures solo? This should keep him happy but also giving you the freedom to post your own photos that you like.