Can't attend lectures, can't socialise & depressed
It's finished. Uni is finished for me. I will be the first student in British history to spend four years in university with no friends. I can't even get up from my bed. I have to reach the drawer and drink rum and whiskey to keep me up through the day.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
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Original post by Anonymous
It's finished. Uni is finished for me. I will be the first student in British history to spend four years in university with no friends. I can't even get up from my bed. I have to reach the drawer and drink rum and whiskey to keep me up through the day.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
So sorry that you're feeling so low at the moment. You've just got to try and stick with it until this current low mood passes because you're worth it and things will turn out right in the end. Hope you feel better soon.
i'm gonna move this to mental health and hopefully you can get more advice there.
Have you spoken to your GP or university counseling service?
Have you spoken to your GP or university counseling service?
Original post by Sabertooth
i'm gonna move this to mental health and hopefully you can get more advice there.
Have you spoken to your GP or university counseling service?
Have you spoken to your GP or university counseling service?
I have tried them all and they are all useless. Also parents are have never been welcoming to my mental health so its hard to speak with them as in turns into mockery.
i'm upset that i actually have no one, hence things have gone bad
Original post by Anonymous
I have tried them all and they are all useless. Also parents are have never been welcoming to my mental health so its hard to speak with them as in turns into mockery.
i'm upset that i actually have no one, hence things have gone bad
i'm upset that i actually have no one, hence things have gone bad
What you have described with the not leaving your bed, drinking alcohol to get through the day and your mood sound like the symptoms of depression. Not like regular a bit lonely. I would advise talking to a different GP at the practice if the first one did not take you seriously. Do you have any other symptoms or are you having suicidal thoughts? How's your sleep and eating?
I can relate a lot to what you've written, I experienced similar at university, only for me I did end up hearing voices.
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Original post by Anonymous
So sorry that you're feeling so low at the moment. You've just got to try and stick with it until this current low mood passes because you're worth it and things will turn out right in the end. Hope you feel better soon.
I have to stick at it anyway despite i dont plan to work after uni. but thanks
Honest to God i wish there was a cure for autism and depression and anxiety. This is looking like a long painful year.
Original post by Sabertooth
What you have described with the not leaving your bed, drinking alcohol to get through the day and your mood sound like the symptoms of depression. Not like regular a bit lonely. I would advise talking to a different GP at the practice if the first one did not take you seriously. Do you have any other symptoms or are you having suicidal thoughts? How's your sleep and eating?
I can relate a lot to what you've written, I experienced similar at university, only for me I did end up hearing voices.
I can relate a lot to what you've written, I experienced similar at university, only for me I did end up hearing voices.
i tend to sleep 12 hours so wake up like 1 or 2pm. Eating is fine despite im ****ing lazy to cook.
Did you ever have friends or did you graduate when you was in uni?
Original post by Anonymous
It's finished. Uni is finished for me. I will be the first student in British history to spend four years in university with no friends. I can't even get up from my bed. I have to reach the drawer and drink rum and whiskey to keep me up through the day.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
You are by no means alone. I spent most of my school career friendless and not knowing most people's names and am a two times uni drop out (woop). Mental health issues and similar can affect anybody and can really bugger things up. There is help available though and it's best to seek help as soon as you realise there's an issue.
Talk to your unis student support and consider getting counselling. You can also check out mind.org and sane.org for info and advice on various mh issues and consider seeing your GP if you think you may have one.
No shame in getting support. Look after yourself.
Original post by Anonymous
i tend to sleep 12 hours so wake up like 1 or 2pm. Eating is fine despite im ****ing lazy to cook.
Did you ever have friends or did you graduate when you was in uni?
Did you ever have friends or did you graduate when you was in uni?
Oversleeping is also associated with depression. Can I ask what you do when you're not at class?
No, I didn't make friends, I didn't know the names of people on my course, I rarely went to class, and gave in most of my work late. Somehow I graduated, but with a 2:2 I know I should have done better. People often underestimate how much loneliness can affect a person.
what kinda rum and whiskey do you drink though
I spent 4 years at uni too without any real friends
Original post by Bang Outta Order
what kinda rum and whiskey do you drink though
Scottish whisky and dark rum.
Sometimes Hennessy as well
Original post by Sabertooth
Oversleeping is also associated with depression. Can I ask what you do when you're not at class?
No, I didn't make friends, I didn't know the names of people on my course, I rarely went to class, and gave in most of my work late. Somehow I graduated, but with a 2:2 I know I should have done better. People often underestimate how much loneliness can affect a person.
No, I didn't make friends, I didn't know the names of people on my course, I rarely went to class, and gave in most of my work late. Somehow I graduated, but with a 2:2 I know I should have done better. People often underestimate how much loneliness can affect a person.
Drink by myself, xbox, watch porn, go on tinder, speak to cam girls (yes i pay them) look at sex ads.
I mean i obviously don't wanna do that, i would go to lectures if i had i found out the cause why i'm socially inept. Uni is pointless for me anyway because i gave up my main career ambition as a teacher because of me being a mute person. i don't care if i graduate with a third class honours. After uni, i'm gonna be a recluse or continue in my summer job as a waiter.
At least you have graduated whilst i'm on the blink of giving up. Does your depression still affect you or your feeling alright?
Original post by study beats
I spent 4 years at uni too without any real friends
Bravery.
By choice or couldn't blend in with people?
couldn't blend in with people..
actually I am sure that no one could blend in with the kind of people at my university
actually I am sure that no one could blend in with the kind of people at my university
Original post by Anonymous
It's finished. Uni is finished for me. I will be the first student in British history to spend four years in university with no friends. I can't even get up from my bed. I have to reach the drawer and drink rum and whiskey to keep me up through the day.
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lol I used to that with weed.
Btw I wasn't too good at socialising at uni either. Cus of ADHD lel. Spent a lot of time smoking weed in my room and dropped out haha.
Original post by Anonymous
It's finished. Uni is finished for me. I will be the first student in British history to spend four years in university with no friends. I can't even get up from my bed. I have to reach the drawer and drink rum and whiskey to keep me up through the day.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
I don't know what to do, every module i do seems mostly on group work and i have no friends in these lectures. I'm an introvert, i don't talk during group work and i'm an easy target to get ****ed by it. Simply put, i don't even know most of them or their names. I have spent two years in uni in oblivion, I have failed to make friends, i have failed to find societies i can blend on. This is the first time this year, i don't speak to anyone in a week.
I don't know what to do, i am expected to fail this year and i am too scared to attend lectures. People just look at me when i attend and even one of the lecturer i bet personally doesn't even want me to be there. An autistic seriously doesn't belong in university.... I'm afraid i will go down the road of my former autistic friend who couldn't cope with uni and later got diagnosed with psychosis.
Ah you beat me to it. Oh well, second ain't bad.
I'm similar though - don't attend lectures, don't and can't socialise, depressed (though less so very recently for some reason, seems only temporary though).
Original post by IrrationalRoot
Ah you beat me to it. Oh well, second ain't bad.
I'm similar though - don't attend lectures, don't and can't socialise, depressed (though less so very recently for some reason, seems only temporary though).
I'm similar though - don't attend lectures, don't and can't socialise, depressed (though less so very recently for some reason, seems only temporary though).
do you wanna drop out or do you think you will stay on.
I'm getting weakened as days goes by
Original post by Anonymous
do you wanna drop out or do you think you will stay on.
I'm getting weakened as days goes by
I'm getting weakened as days goes by
Nah I've sort of learned to live with it. I don't know how, I guess just because there's no other option. The degree is very easy (getting a first is a total breeze, even without going to any lectures) and again, there's no other options for me, so I'll continue to enjoy the lack of responsibility I have at uni before I get totally screwed over when I leave, unable to find a job and will probably enter spiralling depression.
