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Does anyone else believe that porn is cheating?

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Original post by Catsarefamily

I don't believe you can claim that you love someone and are loyal to them if you watch porn.

By watching porn you're allowing yourself to be sexually aroused by another (wo0man therefore you're cheating.

I also believe that thinking/talking about another person sexually or romantically is also cheating.

You can't think/talk about another person and say that you're loyal to your romantic partner.

Nah, I think it's fine. My bf and I are at different unis so I wouldn't mind him watching porn during the week when he can't see me :tongue:

:tongue:

(or to get new ideas). I know that him watching porn doesn't mean that he loves me any less or is any less attracted to me.

i honestly think it is cheating because at the end of the day even though its not a face-to-face thing you are still looking elsewhere(online) for some kind of gratification which is wrong if you are already in a relationship.

Plantagenet Crown

Not at all. Being in a relationship doesn’t make you blind and once you get used to your partner’s body it’s normal to fantasise about other people. So there’s nothing wrong with using your imagination or porn to aid that and it’s not cheating by any stretch of the imagination.

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I object to porn for many reasons ( not relevant to discussion)
One of them is not because it’s cheating
It isn’t
Cheating would be being involved in some type of sexual act with another person
I’ve been married for 27 years and I’m pretty sure both my husband and myself have looked at other people! What’s wrong with admiring another person?
Would we ever act on it? No. Never. Neither of us are cheats

I feel if someone has a certain fetish (or something like that) that the other does not want to be involved in, then porn is not cheating if only being used for that fetish.
If someone watches a specific person in porn then that is quite different as it means, they either like that person more than their significant other or they feel unsatisfied by their partner. If it is because they like them more it is not cheating but I would definitely split up with them if they obsessed over a person in the porn industry and in real life too. If it is because they are unsatisfied then there are lots of things to go into. They may really love you and are just satisfying their desires by watching porn and not cheating on you with another person who is willing to do something your not. This would be much better than them cheating on you in real life.

People have different desires, kinks and other stuff that some may not want or be able to satisfy.

Original post by Blackstarr

i honestly think it is cheating because at the end of the day even though its not a face-to-face thing you are still looking elsewhere(online) for some kind of gratification which is wrong if you are already in a relationship.

If the other person in the relationship is not agreeing to have sexual relations or is not able to then obviously you are going to do something else to take pleasure. At least it is not cheating with another person in real life behind your others back. They will still most likely love you but it is human nature.

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Original post by Plantagenet Crown

Not at all. Being in a relationship doesn’t make you blind and once you get used to your partner’s body it’s normal to fantasise about other people. So there’s nothing wrong with using your imagination or porn to aid that and it’s not cheating by any stretch of the imagination.

Using your imagination is cheating as well! Fantasizing is cheating as well!

Plantagenet Crown

Original post by Catsarefamily

Using your imagination is cheating as well! Fantasizing is cheating as well!

Troll.

OP

[QUOTE=monkeyman0121;74143314]I feel if someone has a certain fetish (or something like that) that the other does not want to be involved in, then porn is not cheating if only being used for that fetish.
If someone watches a specific person in porn then that is quite different as it means, they either like that person more than their significant other or they feel unsatisfied by their partner. If it is because they like them more it is not cheating but I would definitely split up with them if they obsessed over a person in the porn industry and in real life too. If it is because they are unsatisfied then there are lots of things to go into. They may really love you and are just satisfying their desires by watching porn and not cheating on you with another person who is willing to do something your not. This would be much better than them cheating on you in real life.

People have different desires, kinks and other stuff that some may not want or be able to satisfy.

If that's the case they should just accept that their partner isn't into that stuff and not look at it online.

No lmao how would porn be cheating its not like you're taking part in the activity itself. :redface:

:redface:

In my opinion,
Whether it's cheating or not, is basically just a label to name the impact.

Put the label aside. Put the fact that to some it seems like insecurities, and to others it's a crystal clear concept.

Surely the bottom line is if your partner is deeply upset by it - you stop it or you accept you can't and terminate the relationship, regardless of whether it's coined 'cheating' or not?
Doesn't that in essence mean that if it's cheating or not is subjective towards the individual(s) in context?

Original post by Catsarefamily

If that's the case they should just accept that their partner isn't into that stuff and not look at it online.

That would be worse depending on how important it is to them. They would most likely start generating some sort of hate or disrespect for their partner because they won't satisfy them in that way.

I would rather have a stable and equal relationship where we both love each other and don't hate each other because of things the other won't do for them. I wouldn't mind them watching that sort of stuff as it is what they like to do it is sort of the same for other things like gaming and sports. All of them would affect the other person because they would get less attention because of them but it would also mean that the attention that the other is getting is positive and real.

I’m female and I watch porn almost daily. Doesn’t mean I’m a cheat? It’s a load of rubbish! I love my boyfriend.

It's****ingWOODY

Original post by Catsarefamily

I'm not.

You're either ridiculously insecure or a troll. Which is it?

No, thats just ****ing dumb. Men and women both watch it

OP

Original post by Anonymous

I’m female and I watch porn almost daily. Doesn’t mean I’m a cheat? It’s a load of rubbish! I love my boyfriend.

Yes, it does, you're getting aroused by other people so in my opinion you can't really love your boyfriend as you watch porn...

Original post by Catsarefamily

Yes, it does, you're getting aroused by other people so in my opinion you can't really love your boyfriend as you watch porn...

That's your feeling on the matter; that love equals sex and any sexual attraction to anyone other than your partner equals lack of love.

That's not everyone's feelings, neither right or wrong in your situation you'd have to make it apparent to your partner how you felt about it. Although you have to consider your putting your restrictions on a relationship without being open to make accommodation yourself.
For a lot of people knowing their partner watches porn isn't a betrayal to them in their opinion and as long as all parties are aware of that, there's nothing wrong with having that within the boundaries of that relationship.

Romantic/sexual relationships aren't a one size fits all thing.

Ganjaweed Rebel

I don't watch porn and feel much better for it.

By better I mean extremely horny.

That's.... not cheating. Having romantic and sexual activity with someone else while you're already in a relationship is cheating. That's it.

Personally I would say yes it is cheating

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