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My girlfriend watches way way dirtier porn than myself, in fact we both watch all types of porn, all the time...whether we're together or not. Sometimes watching porn during sex is fun too.
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I was on the same thinking two days ago, and for your thread it proves something there are elements of truth, watching porn is a part of cheating!! Psychologists can help us on this.
Original post by GokuBlackmasu
Video chatting/sexting is cheating!

Your boyfriend should just wait to be with you and have sex or mastubate about you.


I think what qualifies as cheating depends on what two partners agree. If I've told him I don't class it as cheating then he's not cheating on me by watching porn. Besides, if cheating was to just think about other people then I'm constantly cheating when I find celebrities or other men attractive. Even if I don't say anything.
Original post by Catsarefamily
I don't believe you can claim that you love someone and are loyal to them if you watch porn.

By watching porn you're allowing yourself to be sexually aroused by another (wo)man therefore you're cheating.

I also believe that thinking/talking about another person sexually or romantically is also cheating.

You can't think/talk about another person and say that you're loyal to your romantic partner.


You really need to lighten up. I have been in very loving relationship for 12 years, we are engaged.

We both enjoy watching porn together and apart. My fiance loves it when I tell him I've been watching porn, its not considered cheating. Being aroused is not something you have a lot of control over, you may become aroused if you see an attractive person walking down the street, they may not be your partner but that's not cheating either.

My partner likes to talk/think about women on tv that he finds attractive and I do the same. He may like to fantasise about these women. Thinking and talking is not doing so not cheating.

If you continue to believe all these things are cheating and therefore a reason for ending a relationship, you are going to find it very difficult to keep a partner and if you do end a relationship for any if these reasons, they will tell their friends, word will get around and trust me, they won't touch you with a barge pole.

Do not go into a relationship with these unreasonable expectations, you will be forever disappointed.
Original post by GokuBlackmasu
Thinking that a dream is cheating is over the top but mental cheating is real!


It depends on what you consider cheating.
Original post by GokuBlackmasu
Porn IS cheating!


I'm not the OP but I agree with them!
If your boyfriend really loved you he wouldn't to look at anyone else...
As the OP said when you're watching porn you're allowing yourself to be aroused by someone other than your romantic partner.
That's cheating! It means you're not being loyal...
If you're thinking about another person you're cheating!
If you talk about another person you're cheating!
The only thing that isn't cheating is if your body gets aroused by itself and you're not doing anything. That's not your fault.


It's not a problem if he looks at someone else in a sexual manner. It's not an issue to me if the thought crosses his head now and again. I believe it happens to anyone. It's actually going along with one's desires that's wrong - and that's only if the person is someone he knows ie a friend. Watching porn to me is just a way of releasing sexual frustration at that time. Now, I'd much rather that than satisfying his desires with another person irl.
Definalty suffering from underlying insecurcurity issues
This thread is full sad old people who are anxious to think of excuses to why porn is fine. So childish. It is sickening.
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It'd be fair enough if your partner's on call to satisfy you sexually, but most relationships aren't like that.
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Original post by hippieglitter
You really need to lighten up. I have been in very loving relationship for 12 years, we are engaged.

We both enjoy watching porn together and apart. My fiance loves it when I tell him I've been watching porn, its not considered cheating. Being aroused is not something you have a lot of control over, you may become aroused if you see an attractive person walking down the street, they may not be your partner but that's not cheating either.

My partner likes to talk/think about women on tv that he finds attractive and I do the same. He may like to fantasise about these women. Thinking and talking is not doing so not cheating.

If you continue to believe all these things are cheating and therefore a reason for ending a relationship, you are going to find it very difficult to keep a partner and if you do end a relationship for any if these reasons, they will tell their friends, word will get around and trust me, they won't touch you with a barge pole.

Do not go into a relationship with these unreasonable expectations, you will be forever disappointed.


This sounds hugely similar to my relationship (4 years so not quite as long as yours!) :h: We trust each other completely in all aspects of our lives and I know that just because he points at the TV and tells me he thinks that actress is hot, or sometimes might watch porn, he's not going to then go out and try to sleep with her/someone, and vice versa. I personally think we have a healthy way of doing things and some people on this thread seem to have incredibly unreasonable expectations of a relationship.
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Original post by Dragon5555
This thread is full sad old people who are anxious to think of excuses to why porn is fine. So childish. It is sickening.


And why is that then?
I'm not going in to whether porn is morally right or not, just about whether it is considered cheating, and I strongly believe that it is not. I also believe that if you are going to say to your partner that they have cheated if they have watched porn or even just become sexually aroused by someone else, then you're in for a long road of troubled relationships.
We all have many different desires. It is the power of will that makes one strong and the other weak. If something becomes a norm it does not mean it is the norm we need. Why is it that a very long time ago marital rape was accepted? Things change and despite being foolish now people will eventually sort their heads out.
Original post by GokuBlackmasu
Porn IS cheating!


I'm not the OP but I agree with them!
If your boyfriend really loved you he wouldn't to look at anyone else...
As the OP said when you're watching porn you're allowing yourself to be aroused by someone other than your romantic partner.
That's cheating! It means you're not being loyal...
If you're thinking about another person you're cheating!
If you talk about another person you're cheating!
The only thing that isn't cheating is if your body gets aroused by itself and you're not doing anything. That's not your fault.


Why are you so vehmently opposed to other people watching porn.

Focus on your own genitals...
No. Obviously it's not nice to think about your parter cumming thinking about someone else but it's not cheating IMO, most people do it. I'd only really be upset if they chose porn over actual sex or were watching porn whilst I was there to satisfy them.
Original post by Catsarefamily
I don't believe you can claim that you love someone and are loyal to them if you watch porn.

By watching porn you're allowing yourself to be sexually aroused by another (wo)man therefore you're cheating.

I also believe that thinking/talking about another person sexually or romantically is also cheating.

You can't think/talk about another person and say that you're loyal to your romantic partner.


I believe you are talking rubbish, if I get a semi watching a sex scene on tv did I cheat on my fiancé? NO
Original post by paul514
I believe you are talking rubbish, if I get a semi watching a sex scene on tv did I cheat on my fiancé? NO


Haha exactly.

There is something called fantasy. I wonder when you all see a good looking person on the beach for example, you’ll think “oh **** I can not think like that because it is cheating”? Porn isn’t necessary in a relationship but definitely not in the category of cheating.
Nah *****, you just gotta find a person who thinks the same. Me and my boyfriend both feel that that’s cheating and we don’t do it and there ain’t a problem. Everyone’s different don’t tell other women to lighten up just because you enjoy porn.Get a grip.
Original post by Catsarefamily
I don't believe you can claim that you love someone and are loyal to them if you watch porn.

By watching porn you're allowing yourself to be sexually aroused by another (wo)man therefore you're cheating.

I also believe that thinking/talking about another person sexually or romantically is also cheating.

You can't think/talk about another person and say that you're loyal to your romantic partner.


I think that in todays society we are deluged with pornographic content that it is so mundane to most, especially to men. Sex is used to sell just about anything, you can't check the news without seeing a suggestive popup or advert. Its seen as a right of passage to watch porn for boys, more so than girls anyways. However, it is scientifically proven that this over exposure to pornographic content makes it seem increasingly mundane, so it gets more and more taboo just to peak an interest. Which is why the most searched categories are as close you can get to children and incest without being illegal. Its so normalised however that most people don't see anything wrong with it.

I wouldn't be a fan of my partner watching lots of porn, but I think it depends on the couple and their boundaries. Its about being open and honest, your partner might not be watching porn for simply the obvious but also due to insecurity, education (although I wouldn't recommend getting that from porn lol) and boredom.

I think that paying for an onlyfans or personalised porn content is a different matter as you are paying for a specific person's content made at your request. But again, its so normalised nowadays. I wouldn't like to be in a relationship with anyone that was overly interested in that stuff, but someone else might, its personal preference.

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