Sex Hurts, Advice?

See a doctor, maybe?

Relax- when you're worried you tense up and that makes it harder/ more painful
"Warm up"- your body will be more ready for it
Start small- get used to smaller things like a finger
Use lube- friction doesn't help
Check you're otherwise well- things like thrush can cause painful sex. You should be able to recognise anything like that by irritation, smell or discharge.
Consider seeing a doctor or visiting a sexual health clinic for more advice. I know it's a bit awkward, but it could be a huge game changer for you so it's worth it.

Btw, it can take a fair while to get responses in the health sections cos people don't visit here quite as much or don't feel like they would be able to help. Don't worry about going a few hours with no response- it's normal.

So, I've always had a fear of anything inserting into me, whether that be a tampon, my finger, anything.

But I'm now in a relationship of 5 months and sex is on the table. We've tried three times so far and I've obviously been nervous both times. Every time it felt like a wall was being broken inside of me, like a tearing pain (almost like I'd imagine breaking the hymen would feel like but then it's happened ever time?) He's also said it's quite a struggle to get it in so I don't know if this is normal but he said it's like a push.

So far it's only gone about half way in and I can't bear the pain like I've basically screamed in pain each time and asked him to stop.

It's not that I don't want it, I do, but I get scared and it almost feels like my vagina closes up on me just before we go to do it.

Please help, any advice would be so useful because right now I feel so alone.