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How can I ever be wanted sexually?

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Original post by Anonymous
Yes, but being wanted sexually is just as important as being wanted for your personality.


which do u think is more important , be honest
Original post by Retired_Messiah
Am guy, nobody gives a **** about your boobs being small


Were you not gay or something. Excuse me if I this was someone else I must be thinking off.
If your biggest concern about your appearance is small boobs then really you've nothing to worry about.

Most guys already have such an exaggerated opinion of what they think girls' boobs "should" look like that the vast majority of boobs will be "small" in their opinion. So forget about it. Guys will find you attractive for other reasons. In fact they'll have to - any guy who only want sex with girls who have boobs like pornstars will be in for a very long dry spell....
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Original post by zero766
Work on things you can change, and if you can't change it, then you just have to learn to accept it.

If you seriously have very little chest at all and say you're skinny, your issue may be that you're underweight. If you put some weight on it could add some to your chest area.

Also, going to the gym to get better glutes is not at all weird, you go for the reasons you want to go. You certainly wouldn't be the only woman there for that reason. Who knows, you may find it to be a new hobby of yours or meet some guys there. The main thing is to do what YOU want to do.

Saying you look like a kid sounds like you have self-esteem issues. Not to mention, whether you have good or bad facial features is largely opinion, you will be a harsher critic of yourself than others would.

Finally, don't forget you're only 18. It is a very young age, as much as our sexualised society wants you to believe everyone is sleeping around like a porn star when they hit adulthood, it just isn't true. Easily 50% of your peers will be in the same situation, and there is no rush.

Everybody has a match. You'd be lying if you told me you'd never seen somebody with a partner that you thought was punching above their weight. I highly doubt you're as bad as you think though...


I don't know what I can change physically other than aiming to have a bigger ass.

No, it's average for my height. But it still makes me look underweight. I don't have much of an appetite so get full quite easily as well.

The gym isn't my atmosphere I'd feel very uncomfortable going there. Although, I did once have a group exercise sessions and apparently I was doing squats wrong which just put me off.

Yea, as in physically I have the attributes of a kid. I think it's quite largely accepted that a wide nose is not beautiful amongst other features of mine.

It's usually men that get with women that look way better than them. Not the case usually for uglier women and better looking men. But that's probably because men care quite a lot about looks.
I know that guys get really turned on if you're confident in yourself. If you're happy with your body and having fun thats gonna make guys sexually attracted to you.

However, at every suggestion someone gives you for you to love yourself you bat it down and find an argument against it, even after guys saying small boobs aren't a problem; to you it clearly is. So all I've got to say really is you've got to give yourself the time and attention to love and be proud of your body, because then other people will to and you won't feel embarrassed.
Original post by anarchism101
If your biggest concern about your appearance is small boobs then really you've nothing to worry about.

Most guys already have such an exaggerated opinion of what they think girls' boobs "should" look like that the vast majority of boobs will be "small" in their opinion. So forget about it. Guys will find you attractive for other reasons. In fact they'll have to - any guy who only want sex with girls who have boobs like pornstars will be in for a very long dry spell....


No, there's actually a lot more :frown:

Yea and the shock when they see mine. Nothing.

I just feel like they wouldn't want me sexually like in the bed.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 32A and small 5"1 and 18 years of age.

There's more to a relationship than just personality and that's a given. I just feel like I'd fall on this side of it.

I just hate my breast sizes and would want them to be at least one or two cups bigger :frown:


If you are worried about your breast size ruining your confidence or mental wellbeing you can always meet with your local GP and discuss and they may be able to help subsidise a breast enlargement surgery x

And honestly you don't worry about breast size its not important. I'm a guy and value personality more!
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Original post by NKSSSSS09
If you are worried about your breast size ruining your confidence or mental wellbeing you can always meet with your local GP and discuss and they may be able to help subsidise a breast enlargement surgery x


It's still way out of my budget for someone that is 18.
Original post by NKSSSSS09
If you are worried about your breast size ruining your confidence or mental wellbeing you can always meet with your local GP and discuss and they may be able to help subsidise a breast enlargement surgery x

And honestly you don't worry about breast size its not important. I'm a guy and value personality more!


But it's also a combination of having ugly facial features.
Original post by Anonymous
It's still way out of my budget for someone that is 18.


Yes its a very expensive surgery. But if you go thru your GP you may be able to get it fully paid for by the NHS. I've heard about a few girls who their breast size (being too big or small) have effected their mental health, social life and sex life so they were paid for by the NHS to have this surgery in full.

Worth trying to find out more! Hope you're okay just PM me if you need help w/ anything else! x
Original post by Anonymous
But it's also a combination of having ugly facial features.



don't put yourself down! I bet you don't!
Original post by NKSSSSS09
Yes its a very expensive surgery. But if you go thru your GP you may be able to get it fully paid for by the NHS. I've heard about a few girls who their breast size (being too big or small) have effected their mental health, social life and sex life so they were paid for by the NHS to have this surgery in full.

Worth trying to find out more! Hope you're okay just PM me if you need help w/ anything else! x


As much as I would want too. You often hear about botched surgeries. And it's not something I'd feel comfortable doing.
Original post by NKSSSSS09
don't put yourself down! I bet you don't!


It's so easy to give empty words but you haven't seen what I look like to give a fair judgement.
I much prefer short girls and tits are a secondary feature. What's more important is a pretty face, hair, nice ass and "cool girl" style of dress.

Breast enlargement is pretty cheap. I think you may also be able to do it with the topical solutions Volufiline or VoluPlus up to 18% bigger. Look into that.

If you want to be attractive. Go down the gym and start copying what all the other girls do, tonnes of glute and quad work looool.
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Original post by Anonymous
As much as I would want too. You often hear about botched surgeries. And it's not something I'd feel comfortable doing.


Botched surgeries are very rare. Thats why you have to find someone reputable and good at it! Its pricey but for a something to make you feel happy will be priceless!
Original post by RockyDennis
I much prefer short girls and tits are a secondary feature. What's more important is a pretty face, hair, nice ass and "cool girl" style of dress.

Breast enlargement is pretty cheap. I think you may also be able to do it with the topical solutions Volufiline or VoluPlus up to 18% bigger. Look into that.

If you want to be attractive. Go down the gym and start copying what all the other girls do, tonnes of glute and quad work looool.


Yea but I dont have a pretty face either. And would much rather get nose surgery.. But at this point I might as well just do surgery all over and feel like a fraud in my own body. Wouldn't most men be also bothered by having surgery done. Breast surgery does sound like the worst. How much does it cost? I'd rather try to enlarge it in other ways than surgery.

I'm just afraid I'd be doing it wrong at the gym due to previous experience..

Original post by NKSSSSS09
Botched surgeries are very rare. Thats why you have to find someone reputable and good at it! Its pricey but for a something to make you feel happy will be priceless!


I've read a bit about the procedure and I don't feel like it's something that I could do.
Work on that derrière instead
@RockyDennis volufiline sounds interesting do you know of anyone that has done it?
Original post by Anonymous
Yea but I dont have a pretty face either. And would much rather get nose surgery.. But at this point I might as well just do surgery all over and feel like a fraud in my own body. Wouldn't most men be also bothered by having surgery done. Breast surgery does sound like the worst. How much does it cost? I'd rather try to enlarge it in other ways than surgery.

I'm just afraid I'd be doing it wrong at the gym due to previous experience..


I slept with a girl who had fake breasts (she told me she just had them done). I didn't have any problem with it personally. Men don't seem to have a problem with any of the Instagram girls who almost all have their noses and tits done.

Every girl is living a lie. They won't even step foot outside of their house without being covered in face-altering makeup, or height-altering heels. I wouldn't worry about being a "fraud"...

You can use volufiline like I said, but I doubt you will be satisfied with the increase. I would probably get the surgery if I had such concerns - HOWEVER, I'd focus more on my face and stuff first and foremost. You want to be getting your hair done NICE, copy the prettiest most popular girls you know, dress like them, do makeup like them, copy the way they dress. That will make an enormous impact.

You can't really go wrong in the gym. Hire a personal trainer if you want. Try to get a female one, they'll have you doing tonnes of glute work until you have a killer ass - which is a WAY more important feature than tits.
Work with what you got. Read some threads where some guys drool over intelligent girls (from what the comments sounded like).

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