She's cut me off (f***ed up situation, beware)

Sorry but that doesn't give him the right to be a ****.

Entitlement issues much? You can't leave someone you admit cares about you hanging on mate. And then expect her to not be sleeping with other people when you treat her like that. That's just ****ed up, as you say. Perhaps show some respect and tell her how you feel. When we bottle things up, that adds to confusion. And don't expect her to wait around, she has a right to be happy and you're denying her that by keeping her hanging on.

I don't think you are trying to understand the situation.
He told her he doesn't have strong feelings for her after he lost his mum, now I might be wrong here but if I lose my mother I would be in despair and extremely sad and I doubt I would be emotionally stable to dedicate my "full love" to someone, even my boyfriend.
I think it is a reasonable human reaction for someone who has lost a family member to be closed out and cold towards other people. What she should have done as a loving girlfriend is been there for him and give him time and space to heal and regain his emotional stability, and she did not.
Of course, I was not there and have not first hand witnessed it, and as you said- there are always two sides to a story, but from what we have I can clearly see where he is coming from.
She got with him after she broke up with her ex-boyfriend (of 5 years), she was with him for 1 year and now she is with someone else. Maybe it is just me but if I truly loved someone and separated I'd want some sort of a break so I can move past it. It seems to me that this girl does not really know what love is(and who does, actually?), but is more latching on to whoever boy is available and willing to put effort and emotion into her. I have done that, I have been there and this is something very familiar to me.
It is sad for me to say but I truly feel like she did not have "strong feelings" for him, judging that not long after she started to sleep around, but rather has an attachment disorder. To be honest most people do. We often don't want to be alone. Some people go and make friends, others go and get boyfriends/girlfriends to pass time, it's normal.

Anyway, as other forumers have told you it is best to get over her and move on. At least the person above was right for one thing - you are "loving" her now because she is not yours. Don't obsess over her or stalk her on facebook just try and spend time and effort in hobbies and frineds rather than focusing on her.

I have told her.

So in your book, losing your mum makes you a ****?
mmmkay

I know. I'm trying my best but I'm still clinging to hope she'll break silence after some time, because that's what happened when we had a row before we started seeing each other. But then again, she was a loner then and her bf wasn't paying her much attention.

So in your book, losing your mum makes you a ****?
mmmkay

Yes well I have had lots of experience with what are quite frankly f**kboys who won’t properly commit to you until they see you moving on with other men. I have sympathy for him losing his family member but nothing else.

Also I think you are confusing this situation with one where a loving relationship has already been established. I my husband lost a family member I would love and support him and give him all the space that he needs, but we have already established that we love and care for each other deeply. This is not the case, the relationship “started to blossom into love” for her but he told her he didn’t feel the same way, quite frankly she owes him nothing.

The best thing he can do is give himself time to properly grieve his mother, and leave relationships out of it for a while.

Do you honestly think that is an argument? What a pathetic attempt. Clearly I was referring to his behaviour, it can't be excused because his mother passed. People deserve respect no matter what the scenario. If a girl doesn't see a future with me and I'd told her I wanted one, firstly I wouldn't expect her to wait around for me and secondly I wouldn't expect HER to be the one to get in contact first. I'd want to know they see a future, if not let me move the hell on. OP has a lot to learn, and he needs to stop being selfish and imagine if this was him being treated like that.

did you try any specific positions when sleeping with her?

Are you taking the piss or do you genuinely want to know? lol

Mainly missionary.

She has an attachment disorder.

What's with all the f**k boy nonsense? Yes the sex was good, but so was the cuddling, and her sense of humour, and the way she looked to one side when she was shy. Does loving her make me a f**k boy?


Also, I can see plain as day she has an attachment disorder, because what these people do is they will love you when they are "in the moment" with you, but as soon as other people come along, whether its friends or lovers, they will drop you at the drop of a hat.

Do you know what it's like to fall in love with someone who is actually incapable of loving anyone?