Trying to make new friends but mainly girlfriends..

Sorry, Im no writer and basic grammer is always a struggle for me.

I will take on your advice, I have heard that advice before to be honest. My logic being, being completely honest right from the start. But yes I can see that being a bit ****ing weird.
Also I do have many things to talk about. I think I said they were my main interests. I'm sure I mention quite a few interests, my problem is almost having to many so I tried to keep it to just 1 or 2 (and them being what I mainly do)

And I'm 24 and I do mention a lot more interests... (Edit)

Please, please ignore that comment. That person is an absolute idiot.

Okay I honestly just hate the conflict anyway, and I have been told that I avoid it constantly. So my logic is to try and reason with said person.
Thank you

I know. I mean don't take any of it on board, that's all.

We're weirdly SO similar until you said you avoid conflict. :P

Okay I won't. I mean I'm not just going to meet people and say I have mental health issues, anxiety and really insecure but yea.

Hahaha, its because I want to make people happy and normally if you are in a conflict someone is unhappy (Its stupid I know). You will only see me argue if its something I feel VERY strongly about, and even then I'm still reserved.

Yeah well that's common sense. But tell them early on so they know what they're getting. It's actually a great way to weed out the shallow pricks.

Im glad to hear it. What are you interests and hobbies?

Music and languages(Polish and Spanish)

I like that approach very much. Let me just figure out how to have a conversation with someone first then I will.

I'm exaggerating slightly, I can handle a bit of small talk, but I can never start a conversation unless I actually have something to say to them e.g. shopkeeper, or at work where I would have to deliver PC's to people. Otherwise its people speaking to me and me responding rather than a conversation...(I hope this makes sense)

It just takes me a while to get comfortable with someone, but having similar interests means that immediately I have something to talk about with them (though even then It can be daunting).

I appreciate your advice, you seem very nice.

Yes it makes sense bc that's EXACTLY what I'm like. We're spirit animals. I think life experience and not giving a **** will be our antidote lol. A man on this group course I was on (he was an activity leader/worker) asked me about myself, I can't remember exactly what was said but I did mention I was shy (probably not shy but something deeper like introversion) and didn't know what to say most of the time (I'm so quiet for the same reason as you, I need to know what that person is like, trouble is not many people have time for you unless you're loud and interject) and all he said was there's nothing wrong with that, you just think there is in so many words. That's so true, why are we wrong for not being extroverted and socially comfortable? It's not wrong, I think once I realised that I was more comfortable with who I am. We shouldn't try to fit around social convention, when actually a lot of loud socially comfortable people do have positive things to say about people like us. We're reserved and thoughtful about what we say, we listen and adapt. We're just not quick and overtly charismatic. Boohoo. Good luck mate.

Not to be patronising but I've always liked this quote for this train of thought:
The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. Bertrand Russell.

Hi, first time posting on here and incredibly nervous to even be doing this. I honestly am just struggling to find new friends, especially people who are intersted in similar things. I suffer from anxiety a lot, especially around girls, I'm insecure so I always think I'm not good enough anyway and I over think things, also I don't drink so that means I cant just go meet people in a pub, and normally turn down any offers of going to a pub even for a social chat. All these make me just give up on finding anyone. I would go in to my whole mental health issues but as I said to my counsellor, I would have to explain my whole life.
I had a close friend recently who I can finally share my problems with but she honestly abandoned me. So if anyone is interested in video games and anime let me know. I do have many other interests e.g. art, photography, waking, random facts, films and many other things but video games is my main passion. I hate to do this here because I feel like this is not the most suitable place but I have tried meetup and stuff like that, but It always seems to be people 35+ and I was hoping to meet people my age, and girls really because how can you get a girlfriend if you dont know any girls. And this isnt me looking for a date, honestly looking for some friends that I can rely on, but if something happens naturally then good, if not I have gained a friend so a win/win.


So if you like playing WoW, overwatch or any game really let me know. Or if you like anime and want to speak to someone else who is socially awkard.
And I apologise for this, if this is not a suitable place for this.