Hey,
So I have an awful mother and I just need some validation that I'm not crazy for thinking her views aren't appropriate, because she always reduces them down to opinions. And maybe some coping strategies because living at home is driving me mad.
We argue basically everyday because I find her intolerable. I'd move out but I'm on barely 700 pounds a month (TA salary) and can't afford typical rent with my car, contact lenses, phone, petrol, food (I pay £100/month rent at home). I'm hoping to goi back to university in a couple of years to do my doctorate because I did psychology and you can't make a career out of it unless you study more, so will be able to get away again then.
A little about her:
-She turns the tv over if a black, Indian or Eastern European comes on TV. She screams 'knew it' before doing this every Wednesday when a certain news reporter is always on and swears a lot/ makes comments about 'another one being in our country' if they're Indian.
- She was born in India and lived there for 7 years as a child, hates that other people move to the UK but seems to think it's ok for the British to go over to other countries whenever we like.
- She thinks Hitler has the right idea, and he shouldn't have been so hated for having opinions - ignoring the blatant mass genocide that came with these!
- She fully supports Trump, closing borders to Mexicans and the xenophobia towards muslims.
- If she hears someone speaking Polish, Lithuanian etc in a supermarket she audibly huffs so that they hear and has even loudly pronounced they should be out of her country before.
-- Belives being gay is okay but they shouldn't throw it in our faces (so really she believes it isn't ok, if they have to hide away), and gender dysmorphia and sex changes are caused by mental illness and not legitimate problems people have. As a psychology graduate, I couldn't disagree more.
- Belives in the chemical castration of Africans, Chinese and Indians as a means of cpopiltion control.
- Thinks disabled people should be killed at birth.
Believe it or not, I'm actually quite close to her and have always been. But, I'm a very liberal person and could not care less about a persons sex, gender, colour, creed etc, and go from working at a school and embracing everyone's differences and encouraging people to be who they are, to coming home and having everything that should be accepted in the 21st century metaphorically **** on. It's really straining our relationship. I can try and ignore her thoughts and accept our differences, but when she's screaming bloody murder in public because someone in a hijab has walked past her it's hard! I understand it's someone's prerogative to have an opinion, but please can someone tell me that they are with me in believing opinions can be wrong?! She says I'm a bigot; surely the bigot is her?
I just cannot get through to her that her views are not okay. I don't understand how someone like me could have come from someone like her!