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Original post by Four Queue
Also what about male escorts? Are they getting used for someones sexual urges too?


Yep. As with female escorting, there's basically no market for 'non-sexual escorting'.

You know the vast overwhelming number of clients for male escorts are men, don't you?
Original post by lucas9696
I'm sorry but that is compete rubbish. Women are also involved in the one night stand so it isn't just men and most people my age have them. It's not something that should be looked down upon. It's 2 people having fun


The women who do it are gross too
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Original post by del1rious
The women who do it are gross too


Most people of a certain age have at least one one-night stand. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Like I said it's 2 consenting adults having fun
Original post by yudothis
Bought consent is not consent.


Of course it is. The 'free' in consent is about liberty, 'free as in speech', not whether there's money involved.

a large proportion of sex workers are trafficked or forced into it originally.


Citation needed, and if it doesn't cover the majority of escorts - in the UK that's indoor workers, working alone - then it doesn't count.

You might want to look at how many people forced into it that the UK's biggest ever investigation into sex trafficking, Operation Pentameter 2, found.

Original post by yudothis
Ah the males dream delusion. The woman who just loves sex so much she decided might as well get paid for it.


No. For most, sex work is work, just as stacking shelves or serving burgers is work.
Original post by lucas9696
I'm sorry but that is compete rubbish. Women are also involved in the one night stand so it isn't just men and most people my age have them. It's not something that should be looked down upon. It's 2 people having fun

The difference is that many women are secretly hoping that it will lead to love and commitment. The guys are not. I think women are hurt much more by one night stands than men. However, you are quite right, it is entirely their choice. Girls do not understand that a man who will sleep with them will not necessarily want to commit to them. They all go for the most attractive guys and the most attractive guys will happily sleep with all of them! It makes them think they are more attractive than they really are so they readily reject average guys.The trouble is that when girls are young and beautiful they can find someone to have sex with (in the context of a 'relationship if they think themselves above one night stands) easily and they don't understand that it is much more difficult for guys. They talk about love but don't really care about how men feel or what is important to them. They don't truly love a guy; they just want a guy who makes them feel good - until they find someone who makes them feel better. Look for a girl who actually cares about you, but you are unlikely to find one at uni. In 8 to 10 years the same girls who rejected you will suddenly decide that you are a good bet for a long term relationship but by then you may not want them. You should know that I am a lot older than you and that therefore my perspective is somewhat different. I probably would have shrieked the same stuff as the girls on here at their age. But now I have a very happy husband so have a somewhat different perspective!
Original post by lucas9696
Most people of a certain age have at least one one-night stand. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Like I said it's 2 consenting adults having fun


I myself have done it, I still think I was gross for doing it.
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Original post by del1rious
I myself have done it, I still think I was gross for doing it.


Well that's your opinion and you are entitled to it. I don't think it's gross at all as long as you are safe and use protection.
Original post by del1rious
I myself have done it, I still think I was gross for doing it.


After all the moral high ground you took aswell, couldn't make it up. :rofl:
Original post by del1rious
I myself have done it, I still think I was gross for doing it.

I do agree with you, however, even if you are in a 'long term relationship' and will go on to another 'long term relationship' after this one doesn't work out, it is still kind of gross. Once you have had a few relationships you will feel just as used as if you'd had a bunch of one night stands. Even if you only have one long term relationship that lasts years you will feel pretty used if he doesn't want to marry you when you want to get married. Choose wisely now and take a second look at some of the 'average guys'. The ones you are into may not be as into you as you think.
It is gross to get with an escort and I second your revulsion, however, guys are not evil for having a strong sex drive. It is way stronger than girls' and they have to deal with it all the time with no relief. Imagine trying to diet whilst having chocolate cake waved in your face and your friends eating all around you all the time. Plenty of girls fail that challenge but deride boys who struggle with no relief from the sex drive. I don't think escorts are the answer, I think marrying young is. That is not going to happen any time soon so it leaves many young men in a really difficult place. Disclaimer - I am probably twenty years older than you.
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I say do it! A bit of life experience, you can always look back and laugh about it as an old man.
Original post by yudothis
Because he thinks with money he can buy a woman's body. Irregardless of whether she "willingly" wants to sell it.


He can.

Original post by yudothis
Bought consent is not consent.

Moreover, she wasn't explicitly talking about trafficked women. Either you are intentionally being blind, or you are hugely naive, but a large proportion of sex workers are trafficked or forced into it originally.


It is.
I think you should only hire an escort for the experience not for the actual sex...stick to Tinder bro.
Original post by unprinted
Of course it is. The 'free' in consent is about liberty, 'free as in speech', not whether there's money involved.



Citation needed, and if it doesn't cover the majority of escorts - in the UK that's indoor workers, working alone - then it doesn't count.

You might want to look at how many people forced into it that the UK's biggest ever investigation into sex trafficking, Operation Pentameter 2, found.



No. For most, sex work is work, just as stacking shelves or serving burgers is work.


Yea, just like serving burgers. Lmfao
Original post by Laissez‒faire
He can.



It is.


You "can" do a lot of things.

No, it really isn't.
Original post by yudothis
You "can" do a lot of things.

No, it really isn't.


So he can?

If she willingly does it, without coercion and is over the age of consent it's not rape, it is quite simple.
You don't need an escort you just need to learn to go a different way about it. And maybe go for the girls who are more likely to
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Original post by Lemon Haze
I think you should only hire an escort for the experience not for the actual sex...stick to Tinder bro.


I've had tinder for ages and while I get matches, nothing has actually happened. I have met 3 people for a drink and that is it.
Original post by Laissez‒faire
So he can?

If she willingly does it, without coercion and is over the age of consent it's not rape, it is quite simple.


Let us change it to thinks he has a right to rather than can. And it's rape.

Sex requires consent. If you need to pay money, there is no consent.
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Original post by yudothis
Let us change it to thinks he has a right to rather than can. And it's rape.

Sex requires consent. If you need to pay money, there is no consent.


There is. Consent is just permission or an agreement to do something. If she willingly takes the money he offers she gave consent.
Original post by Laissez‒faire
There is. Consent is just permission or an agreement to do something. If she willingly takes the money he offers she gave consent.


Yes. The money. Not him.

You are essentially saying you are happy for women's body (and men's for that matter) to be commercialized. And not even just the image of the body but the body itself.
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