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So, I have a problem. I have a boyfriend for year and a half. He told me he does not watch porn. I said okay, but one day found on his laptop '18 year old wet ****' .. I felt awful. Because, I'm 18 years old like.. you have that from me why do you need to look elsewhere. But I tried to be reasonable, I know he has to get off sometimes, and I said i will send him my photos, videos, anything he needs! He said he wouldn't watch it again. Later on I found that he looked his exes profile on facebok, and I was like whhhhhy dude can you stop hahah like the girl was sending him messages all the time back when we just started dating and I dont feel comfortable if he checks up what's hapening with her life. He promised he wont look at other girls that he had something with. I said okay. It was rough. I cried and cried and felt like i am not giving him what he needs. 3 months passed since that. And. Ah. he opened history to delete it cause internet was slow, and I saw he was checking facebook of a girl he had sex with before.. I really dont get it. Why do you need to look at them. I see him every day. I dress up for him, make his fantasies come true, i have a ton of lingerie, i can be dom i can be sub, i am very open to new things. I have sex with him 5 times a week, send him nudes, everything...
I started crying and he said that he just forgot that he looked at that and he wont ever do it again
what do you think should i believe him? that he wont do such a thing to hurt me and make me dissapointed again?
It is possible to still be friends with his exes. But you need to have a conversation with him and tell him exactly how his behaviour makes you feel so he can truly understand, Just crying isn't good communication. You need to be really clear and say what you're feeling.
Dump him. If he's making you cry and not staying loyal, what's the point of this relationship?
Original post by Anonymous
So, I have a problem. I have a boyfriend for year and a half. He told me he does not watch porn. I said okay, but one day found on his laptop '18 year old wet ****' .. I felt awful. Because, I'm 18 years old like.. you have that from me why do you need to look elsewhere. But I tried to be reasonable, I know he has to get off sometimes, and I said i will send him my photos, videos, anything he needs! He said he wouldn't watch it again. Later on I found that he looked his exes profile on facebok, and I was like whhhhhy dude can you stop hahah like the girl was sending him messages all the time back when we just started dating and I dont feel comfortable if he checks up what's hapening with her life. He promised he wont look at other girls that he had something with. I said okay. It was rough. I cried and cried and felt like i am not giving him what he needs. 3 months passed since that. And. Ah. he opened history to delete it cause internet was slow, and I saw he was checking facebook of a girl he had sex with before.. I really dont get it. Why do you need to look at them. I see him every day. I dress up for him, make his fantasies come true, i have a ton of lingerie, i can be dom i can be sub, i am very open to new things. I have sex with him 5 times a week, send him nudes, everything...
I started crying and he said that he just forgot that he looked at that and he wont ever do it again
what do you think should i believe him? that he wont do such a thing to hurt me and make me dissapointed again?


Porn is perfectly natural. Even within a relationship. Don’t feel bad, and don’t make him feel bad for watching it. It’s not a reflection that you’re not satisfying him.
Reply 4
i told him that it bothers me and explained why, he said okay that he understands.. but i told him after i caught him doing that, bcs i didnt know before he told me he doesnt and i believed... now he swears he doesnt but its hard for me to trust...
Reply 5
my problem is how to trust him that he will change and not do it again
he isnt talking with them or anything but the fact that he wants to check out their profile is killing me
he is now with me
he didnt have serious relationship with any of them, it was like 3 months or less
Reply 6
so people i learned the biggest lession of all time. he left his phone at my place. when i figured out i called his grandma because he was with her. he panicked that i will read his messages or look at his phone generaly (i know he is not hiding anything i am always looking when he is doing sometjing on it and he always shows me whatever i want). but now i felt how *****y it is when someone who you love the most has no trust in some situations, when he thought i would do sometjng behind his back.
i am doing this to him every time when i ask him to show history or ask him is did he looked something online even tho he promised he will not. i am doing the not believing him thing.
that will stop now
trust is the most important and beautiful thing for two people

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