Friends psycho ex

Recently I started getting to know my housemates friends and we were at one of their houses on Friday for pre-drinks before heading into town. He lives with his ex (but it's very complicated) and 2 others. I barely knew anyone there so I was just sat awkwardly because I didn't even know peoples names. Anyway the guys ex made everyone go around and say their name so she knew who we were (even though I was the only one she didn't know). My housemate told me a lot of bad stories about the messed up things she's done and some of them were quite bad. However on the night out she was talking to me quite a lot and at one point kept sharing her drink with me. She then put her arm around me and moved me away from my friends and started dancing with me and it was just me and her. I was tempted to go for it and kiss her but because of what my housemate told me about her and because she is the ex of one of my new friends I didn't bother and I walked away.

Do you think I should have went for it to see what could happen or not?

It was a good choice to avoid the kiss in my opinion, the stories may be false and just exagerations so it is best to get to know her a bit better first. But if the stories were true and you get into a relationship with her it might end up going wrong.

It really depends on what the things that she did were. Like, were they illegal, or unfaithful...? And how long ago did she do these things, and what might've been the reason behind the things she did, and has she changed since she did what she did?

She accused the guy of doing things he didn't do (hurting her etc) among a few other things such as possessive behaviour. It was all fairly recently and I don't know if she's changed since I've only met her once

But, just a warning: If this was all very recent, then there's a good chance that the girl is just looking for a rebound relationship to fill the hole in her heart that your friend left.

I'm not saying that this is definitely the case, though. How recent exactly was the break-up?

It was around a month ago and it was her that ended the relationship.
And most of the stuff wasn't exaggerated because some of their housemates told us exactly what happened.

And do you particularly want a relationship with this girl? Or are you just looking for a relationship in general?

A relationship in general really but, I don't really know how to explain it but when I met her there was something about her that intrigued me I guess so yeah I guess I'd like to see what could happen between us

If you would like to see what would happen, then go and see. Don't entirely rely on what your mate says about her, though. Get to know her for yourself.

Yeah but the thing is, all my mates that night told me to stay away from her. If I actually end up seeing her again, which I doubt anyway since I don't think I'll be back at her house drinking anytime soon, if I talk to her and see what happens I think all my mates will react badly which would make things awkward between me and them which would mean I probably wouldn't be going out with them again so I would probably need to consider that.

If your friend is living with his ex, then maybe she isn't that bad after all to be around. Have you considered that?

Her bad behaviour started in September but they signed for the house months before that

Oh, I see. So they aren't living together intentionally.

Still, do think things through. Stop by at your mate's place maybe, and spend some time with this girl and get to know her in the day.

I would but it would seem weird since he isn't really a good friend and I've only met him a couple of times. He is more a friend of my housemate

Ah, ok. Do you have this girl's number? If the two of you were about to kiss, then there are definitely some feelings there. If you text her or do run into her again, ask her out on a little date.