Tempted to hire an escort

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With respect I feel this is a very reductionist view on sex that has been echoed throughout this thread. If probably by people who would like to use an escort so are trying to make themselves feel better about it.

Regularly engaging in sex for money negatively impacts your relationships and also places you at higher risk for mental health issues.

Also, the reality is you *dont* know the grounds upon which these girls have ended up doing the work they are doing. Don’t think that just because she is an “escort” she isn’t doing it to escape some hardship in her life. So you may be with someone who, as you suggest, chooses to make their money that way. But there is a risk you will be paying to be with a women who is emotionally (and possibly physically) damaged from her life circumstances. You may fantasise and hope that they would be honest with you but let’s be serious here.

Anyone who could take this risk, and risk exploiting the latter in such a way *is* scum, *is* morally inferior, and *does* deserve to be told it in such a harsh manner as this.

I will leave it there now, I have spent a long day arguing points on this thread and I feel that I have made myself abundantly clear and justified my views enough. I won’t continue to reply for the sake of fuelling the likes of Napps ad hominem arguments.

But thanks all for a fun day!!

Your opinion is worthless as you have had ons. You are "scum and morally inferior" in your own words.

Reply 141

IamJacksContempt

Original post by del1rious

I really don’t understand how we now live in a world where taking a dim view on men who hire prostitution are considered medieval in their way of thinking. Prostitution was actually very popular in medieval times FYI. Your attitude is quite sweet, but let’s call a f**king spade a spade and accept that men who pay women for money are morally weak and pathetic.

You're a guaranteed fatty.

Reply 142

calsmith12

Original post by del1rious

Why are you acting like such a brat? If OP wants to hire an escort then that's up to him, you don't need to act like a sanctimonious saint just because you disagree with his lifestyle. You're acting as if he's taking advantage of an underage, vulnerable young girl; an escort is of legal consent age and he has every right to use her services without virtue signalling buffoons like yourself insulting him.

Reply 143

yudothis

Original post by del1rious

And to all those who have argued against me, I hope you enjoy feigning acceptance when and if your own daughter comes home and announces she is going into this profession!!

Ahahahahaha

Reply 144

Anonymous #9

oml moral superiority XD If he wants sex let him have it as long as its consensual then what's the problem? However dude maybe whats shooting you in the foot with people around is that you are so intent on just the act- it can put people off a bit if you're only interested in sex with them. You are at no disadvantage in life having not had sex in a while, there are people who have never done it as someone said above. If you are using tinder etc be more blunt about what you are interested in. In uni a lot of ppl have a dry patch with relationships because work and nightlife is sporadic. There are plenty people who are looking for sex without commitments but you communicate that. At the same time if you are looking for something more maybe you shouldnt see sex as the method? What exactly are you looking for?

Reply 145

michellincaptain

Original post by del1rious

Could you please tell me how you would feel is your mother or sister were a prostitute?

Not good, however, even if I didn't like it there'd still be nothing immoral about it.

Reply 146

SirMilkSheikh

Do it. Don't bother jumping through hoops, trying to impress a girl like a circus monkey so that she sleeps with you. Skip all that bullsh*t and rent a girl on the market for a cheap price. It's easy to do and saves a lot of time.

Reply 147

SirMilkSheikh

Original post by del1rious

If I found out that a guy was pathetic enough to hire an escort I would stay away from them for good. I don’t know why any self respecting person would even contemplate this. More to the point, why do you think you are entitled to sex?

Thank you very much indeed.

Reply 148

yudothis

Original post by michellincaptain

Not good, however, even if I didn't like it there'd still be nothing immoral about it.

It's not really immoral for the sellers. Whatever puts food on the table. But those buying it most certainly are.

Reply 149

Anonymous #10

v. tempting to do this but I wouldn't personally. Why should you have to pay? Just be patient.

Reply 150

Anonymous #11

The real problem with the OP's idea is not the moral stuff about prostitution. The real issue *for him* is this: by getting a prostitute, you confirm how useless you are at talking to women, which 1) will make you feel worthless, 2) allow you to continue to avoid the problem (which is that you have poor communication skills) 3) guarantees that you will keep having this problem AND 4) when you finally do try to connect with a woman, it will be that much harder. [Also, if any self-respecting woman finds out in the future, she'll never sleep with you; then again, not every woman has high self-esteem...]

Your time would be better spent learning from friends who get along well with women (both as friends and sexually) and/or making some female friends first, then getting their help. You'd be amazed how many women will be keen to help you if you are open and straightforward with them about the problem you are having.

Trust me when I tell you that guys who never learned how to talk to women end up being 30, alone, deeply frustrated (because either they can only get girlfriends 'online' or they lose their girlfriends quickly because they don't communicate) and they're often miserable. Don't end up becoming one of those guys.

Reply 151

yudothis

Original post by JoshDawg

I don't think you realise how much of a female dog you're acting like here. Kicking off that he says he thinks he's entitled to sex when he isn't. He says he wants sex and is willing to pay for it, and you're acting like a snooty biatch.

You've taken a thread that was never about you or hurtful to anyone personally and decide to attack OP about it.

Since you are mad already, may I ask when you replied was it your time of the month or are you frustrated you cant find anybody??

Starts with calling her a "*****", oh sorry, tries to disguise it as "female dog".

Says op didn't say he is entitled, proceeds to say op just thinks it's his right to buy a woman's body.

Closes with the classic, immature "is it your time of the month".

I pity whatever woman falls for your sorry miserable sexist ass.

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 152

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Yudothis

I can tell that you are very highly strung regarding this subject matter, you have a specific view point that borders on insulting in some of your replies.

i don't doubt that you have come into contact with some bad experiences however, there is another side to this and I really suggest that you visit your local Spearmint Rhino club and afterwards ask yourself who is exploiting who? I have seen men lose £1,000 a night in those clubs. The women love the power, are expert in manipulation and know exactly what they are doing.

One girl I know who works on the counter at NatWest bank mon-Friday, works two nights at Rhino, Thursday and Saturday and clears c £2,500 net cash per week some of which she declares as a self employed dancer. Frankly, if I had her body I would do the same!!

Yes, you can stand on your moral high ground and say it's disgusting men paying for adult services and Yes without doubt a high level of regulation being introduced in the UK would be a brilliant move. The adult industry will not disappear overnight, you might not like this fact but women would not offer the service if men didn't want to buy and I would be first to vote for proper regulation rather than how it is now. Equally, there are also male escort services for girls so it's not all men doing the buying.

If the OP wants to buy this kind of service, or take a weekend to Amsterdam to enjoy the sights that's really his business - not all adult workers are at the bottom of the chain, chasing blow jobs for £10 a go to fuel a drug habit - some are driving serious incomes through lap dancing, escorting and other services and know exactly what they are into.

Actually met a girl (not via paid sex I might add!) she wanted me to put a digital modelling portfolio together but that's another story

Anyhow, Very similar to your experience she was working two nights at Rhino and clearing c £2,500 per week and also doing 4 daytime service visits a week at £350 per time. C £ 1400 per week

She openly admitted that she preferred daytime visits as she had a child and had to arrange paid babysitter on those two nights and said it was tiring at the club as her feet hurt by the end of the night. !!!

The daytime visits she found easy, yes she knew what the expectation would be but said some were regular clients and she could fit this around other things. In her mind she tried to treat it like a one night stand

Her intention was to work two to three years top banking the cash and then buy her house outright so her and child were financially sorted.

Further she got into dancing via a friend at Uni ! This is when she started!. I would class this girl as VERY attractive, and VERY smart.

I have posted this as there is always two sides. You could argue she is morally wrong, you could argue the men are all pigs using her service but she does not pass judgement, she sees it purely as a job to do. Without doubt she see it as a business transaction and laughs that most guys that first see her are nerves as hell!

Reply 153

yudothis

I don't judge the girls that do it. Not sure why you would think that. I used to be very pro sex work after I read freakonomics and saw the power and riches some women can achieve through sex work.

However, that's not the issue here, the issue is the fact that men think it's alright to rent a woman's body. There's forums online of men who use whores. I suggest some of you read some of those accounts. Pretty chilling. And it's all nice and dandy to talk about educated high class call girls. But that totslly ignores the fact that throughout the world a very large number of women are forced into it, even trafficked. The proportion of women who were abused who work in porn or prostitution is far higher than any other job women do. The levels of ptsd of ex sex workers are otherwise seen in soldiers. Not any other job women do.

It's a slap in the face of every prostitute in he street to talk about your high class escort acquaintance who is getting filthy rich.

And as I said, the bottom line is men who use whores. Not women who choose to (or not) be whores.

Reply 154

dirtyoldwomen

oh boo hoo try being 91 and still a virgin

Reply 155

FloralHybrid

Original post by lucas9696

Hi I am 21 and at uni and I have only ever had sex once and that was quite a while ago. It is frustrating me that I can't find anyone. I have tried joining societies to meet people which didn't really work. I tried going out to clubs more and I have only managed to get with one person in a club and even that didn't go further than a kiss. I have joined tinder and met people off there and nothing came of that. People have told me that I am attractive guy so I don;t really know why I can't meet anyone. So I am tempted to hire an escort for an hour. I don;t know if I should or not. Does anyone have any advice?

Goodness me there’s a lot of fighting on here.

All I can say is, sex is not even close to the same if you’re comparing someone you care about versus someone you’ve just met and paid for. It’s really, really not worth it. Not to mention, as those have mentioned above, it’s supporting an entirely corrupt system of unhappy people.

Get yourself out there. Keep dating, you might find a casual relationship, or something more. But you won’t find what you’re looking for in the presence of an escort.

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 156

ruby FUKER

Just have a **** in the back of a volvo while watching people walk past.

Reply 157

BionicPinkyBear

However, that's not the issue here, the issue is the fact that men think it's alright to rent a woman's body. There's forums online of men who use whores. I suggest some of you read some of those accounts. Pretty chilling. And it's all nice and dandy to talk about educated high class call girls. But that totslly ignores the fact that throughout the world a very large number of women are forced into it, even trafficked. The proportion of women who were abused who work in porn or prostitution is far higher than any other job women do. The levels of ptsd of ex sex workers are otherwise seen in soldiers. Not any other job women do.

It's a slap in the face of every prostitute in he street to talk about your high class escort acquaintance who is getting filthy rich.

And as I said, the bottom line is men who use whores. Not women who choose to (or not) be whores.

Well the fact is that the men are the ones supporting the women as much as you dont like it- women profit from the way men think, its easy to victimise the women but its never in black and white. Of course theres women who are suffering from the industry but equally there is those that succeed form it and that is why the issue is difficult to solve. So its a bit pointless to be venting on an online forum about your SJW views because unless you can guarantee that real action will take place to solve the issue why cause unnecessary chaos? To tell off one male for thinking about hiring someone, what about the older more sadistic males who regularly abuse the women they hire, this is most likely to be the case in third world countries? How will argueing right here and now stop that from happening?

Reply 158

yudothis

What a *****y attitude you have. "Shut up because you as an individual won't have any impact".

If everyone was silenced by the likes of you, no one would speak up and nothing would ever change.

Reply 159

Scrax

To reply to the original sender it is up to you what you do. There are all kinds of escorts. There are escorts who are very professional and do their work out of choice and provide a good service, and of course there are the ones who are dodgy, who are being exploited and who come from poor countries. I did my year abroad in Germany where prostitution is legal and viewed very differently than the UK, there are legal brothels and many single men think nothing of going to one every now and then. On my 21st birthday in Hamburg I had a private lap dance paid for me, I suppose the women was a prostitute. We had wound up at a night club with a group of guys that I was living with in a flatshare at the time, and they arranged it behind my back. All I can say is that it was a very professional and enjoyable experience at the time, but I would have to be in a similar situation to do it again, i.e. it isn't something I'd do sober.