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Feeling disconnected..

I just feel disconnected from everything and everyone.. I'm not close to my family so I barely speak to them. My friends are busy a lot of the time with uni/work so I barely see them.. I just feel like I have no one.. I'm currently doing my Masters and I feel like I should have waited a year once I finished my undergraduate degree rather than going straight into it.. this is because I feel like I'm wasting time but I just feel so disconnected.. What do I do?
Original post by Anonymous
I just feel disconnected from everything and everyone.. I'm not close to my family so I barely speak to them. My friends are busy a lot of the time with uni/work so I barely see them.. I just feel like I have no one.. I'm currently doing my Masters and I feel like I should have waited a year once I finished my undergraduate degree rather than going straight into it.. this is because I feel like I'm wasting time but I just feel so disconnected.. What do I do?

Do you feel disconnected from your surroundings or from yourself? If so, you may be experiencing dissociation. It's not a great feeling, but it does pass.
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so lonely, it might be worth speaking to a therapist at your university or a professor about this. Try joining a group activity or getting a part-time job and it will get you more social interaction. Other than that, there must be at least one genuinely caring acquaintance you have at university, who might be more willing to have a coffee with you than you thought. Just ask?
Sadly these moments can happen from time to time, I've been there too and it's important to know that you're not alone.

Lots of people handle this differently. Sometimes if I feel lonely or without anyone to talk to I watch a good TV show, I can relate to characters easy and usually shows with a lot of dialogue such as Suits or House of Cards can keep me very entertained and give me social satisfaction without socialising (weird, right?). I guess for yourself I would recommend finding something that makes you happy and can keep you busy.

You mention that you're not close to your family so you don't speak to them, have you tried looking at that the other way around? Do you feel that maybe you're not close to your family because you don't speak to them?

Lots of people do exactly what you're doing now and go straight from undergrad to postgrad. Maybe you feel now that a gap year would have been nice, but you're already on your way to your masters to the best thing you can do is keep your chin up and look only forward and not backward. Think of all the great opportunities you'll get and the satisfaction of completing your Masters!

TSR is a good location to talk to and meet new people. Forums are usually great for that. Perhaps there's student groups on the same course as you that you could join? Any games groups? Study groups? Perhaps even campus-related activities. Even outside of education there could be local things for you to join in on such as small clubs.
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It's okay, after you obtain your degree, connect with whomever whenever you want; it might take a while before you find a job.

Also, I feel the term you're looking for is not "disconnected" but it is "lonely". Everyone feels down and lonely at some point even when they have a million friends. Remind yourself that everyone is always going to be there for you and carry on with your studies with a positive and clear mind. Even if you want to socialise wholeheartedly right now, the timing isn't the best for your sake.
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Original post by banoffeee
Do you feel disconnected from your surroundings or from yourself? If so, you may be experiencing dissociation. It's not a great feeling, but it does pass.
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so lonely, it might be worth speaking to a therapist at your university or a professor about this. Try joining a group activity or getting a part-time job and it will get you more social interaction. Other than that, there must be at least one genuinely caring acquaintance you have at university, who might be more willing to have a coffee with you than you thought. Just ask?


I feel disconnected from everything.. may be even myself. How can I overcome this?

I currently go counselling but it's like once in a while.. it's too long of a wait plus it's short term so I can't really rely on that. I work part time too. I felt like getting busy would help but it doesn't..

No genuinely caring acquaintance at my current uni. They just like using me for my work
Original post by Anonymous
I feel disconnected from everything.. may be even myself. How can I overcome this?

I currently go counselling but it's like once in a while.. it's too long of a wait plus it's short term so I can't really rely on that. I work part time too. I felt like getting busy would help but it doesn't..

No genuinely caring acquaintance at my current uni. They just like using me for my work

Hmm that's tough. Do you have any siblings?
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Original post by banoffeee
Hmm that's tough. Do you have any siblings?


I do have siblings but there's about 8-10 years age gap between me and my 2 brothers and my sister has disabilities so it's just not the same. Really wish I had another sister..
Original post by Anonymous
I do have siblings but there's about 8-10 years age gap between me and my 2 brothers and my sister has disabilities so it's just not the same. Really wish I had another sister..


Maybe try talking to your siblings cause at least you can usually rely on them.
I know what you mean about feeling lonely and disconnected, I often feel like that too I guess. But we need to learn to rely on ourselves unfortunately, try to become your own best friend.
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Original post by Anonymous
Maybe try talking to your siblings cause at least you can usually rely on them.
I know what you mean about feeling lonely and disconnected, I often feel like that too I guess. But we need to learn to rely on ourselves unfortunately, try to become your own best friend.


Nah they make things worse so I'd rather not speak to them anymore than I already have to.. Yeah I suppose will have to be my own best friend.. Any tips on how to do that??
Original post by Anonymous
Nah they make things worse so I'd rather not speak to them anymore than I already have to.. Yeah I suppose will have to be my own best friend.. Any tips on how to do that??


Take yourself out and speak to yourself
Original post by Anonymous
Nah they make things worse so I'd rather not speak to them anymore than I already have to.. Yeah I suppose will have to be my own best friend.. Any tips on how to do that??


Just think about what your priorities are in life then focus on them I guess.

Don't be hard on yourself, look after yourself properly. Make efforts to be the best you can be so you feel more confident.

Think about maximising your own pleasure in life, that's what it's mainly about. I mean that's what most people do.

Eventually you'll run into people you can hang out with, I guess people value you more when you give less of a **** lol.

Don't worry too much, no one has it sorted, and everyones just basically making it up as they go along lol.

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