my wife says I will "lose her" if go to hospital

Dump and divorce her pronto.

Dump and divorce her pronto.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Your wife should be supporting you and helping you to beat your depression. Try sitting her down and talking to her face to face tell her that you need her support to get better. I hope things work out for you.

It’s not the way to go about it tbh
It’s better to talk about it first to see if the problems can be sorted out before jumping to any conclusions, especially divorce.

As if it's that easy.

She doesn't sound very supportive, however that may be her way of dealing with the situation, she may be angry she can't do anything to help you and maybe doesn't understand what you must be going through.

If you haven't already, sit down and fully tell her eveerything you're feeling, and that you need her to be supportive because it obviously doesn't make you eel any better when she gets angry. If she loves you, she'll have to be more supportive and if you love someone you want to be supportive towards them anyway. Imo i feel like she's probably just as worried as you are.

Hope this helps in some way

I've tried sitting her down and talking to her but she never wants to, she always has something better to do. When I'm feeling really crap just having a conversation with someone helps, although its hard to think so I prefer if they lead the conversation but she refused telling me she doesn't want to talk and if I want to I can talk to her and she'll answer (ie read twitter on her computer and grunt at me), but when I feel that bad thinking is hard, I don't see why she doesn't help me then screams at me other times.

She's "tried" to be supportive for the past 10 years and I think she's just fed up of it. I told her before I didn't want to marry her because of my depression and she told me she'll always be there for me but now it's like she's just not.

I have depression and a couple other things and last night was not good. My wife shouted at me for a couple of hours telling me how if I keep this up I will end up in hospital and will "ruin everything". She said I'll lose my job, lose her, and end up having to move back in with my mum.

I thought marriage was meant to be about supportive each other, not threatening to leave. I don't know what to do. My doctors have told me I need to consider hospital, in the past she's told me I should be in hospital, but now she comes out with this. Wtf am I meant to do? I love her and don't want to lose her but I can't live like this. I think she just expects that if she shouts at me enough everything will get better. I don't know if her threats are serious or if she's trying to scare me.

We argue almost every day now, we haven't had sex in ages, and I'm scared of my marriage falling apart. We've been married for 5 years.

I don't know how to fix this.

I have depression and a couple other things and last night was not good. My wife shouted at me for a couple of hours telling me how if I keep this up I will end up in hospital and will "ruin everything". She said I'll lose my job, lose her, and end up having to move back in with my mum.

I thought marriage was meant to be about supportive each other, not threatening to leave. I don't know what to do. My doctors have told me I need to consider hospital, in the past she's told me I should be in hospital, but now she comes out with this. Wtf am I meant to do? I love her and don't want to lose her but I can't live like this. I think she just expects that if she shouts at me enough everything will get better. I don't know if her threats are serious or if she's trying to scare me.

We argue almost every day now, we haven't had sex in ages, and I'm scared of my marriage falling apart. We've been married for 5 years.

I don't know how to fix this.

She is being very unreasonable and borderline abusive. Have you considred seeing a therapist? If talking to people makes you feel better then seeing a therapist could benefit you a lot someone who will listen to you and lead the conversation. I can't really give you much advice on your relationship with your wife I'm afraid but from your description it sounds like you'd be better off away from her even if it's only temporary as your health improves.

Surely she should be encouraging you to get support.. Is there anyone else you can talk too?

I see a psychiatrist and psychologist. My psychologist wanted to call 999 at our last appointment to arrange for me to go to hospital but I begged him not to. And last night I was considering it but then she was telling me how I'd lose everything, when just last week she was threatening to have me sectioned if I didn't take my medication. I don't understand.

Yeah, I currently see a psychologist and talking to him helps. But like late at night or outside of my scheduled appointments I can't talk to him. I just don't understand why she won't talk to me and her computer is so much more important on those times when I'm really, really struggling.

This sounds incredibly abusive and controlling, does she act like this over any other issues?