Just found out my GF is a prostitute/Escort
My head is all over the place right now and I feel like jumping out a window. So for the past few months, my Czech GF of 5 years has been going away from home for about 3-4 days every other week, (She studies for the other 3). She told me that she had been missing family and friends back home and so was making regular visits to combat her homesickness. We live together in a comfy flat and have a fairly decent standard of living, I receive a decent amount in my student loan and also work 15 hours a week, and up until recently she was working 1 night a week behind a bar.
Well, she went 'away' again on Wednesday, and until last night I assumed she was visiting family in the CR as usual. Last night whilst looking for some headphones, I came across a cheap, basic phone tucked away in her wardrobe. Curious, I turned it on...and wasn't prepared for what I saw. Tonnes of messages and conversations between a pseudonym name and men, discussing sexual services, prices, bookings and locations, all dated on dates that she had previously been away, with her last response to a message being a couple of weeks ago. The address given for all of them was a place in Denmark (I wont say any more). I immediately did a google search of escorts in the respective city and on one of the sites, clear as day, was a profile of my girlfriend, with a whole bio on how she does GFE, oral with a condom, full sex, dinner dates and incalls and outcalls.
In a state of total shock, I called her up on facebook and told her that I know what she is doing, and as soon as I did, she hung up and blocked me on messenger and barred me from her normal phone and the number listed on her profile.
I havn't heard from her since then, and I am in pure emotional agony right now. ..I can't even explain how that feels.
As I said, I am totally messed up right now. I really love this girl and we had our whole lives planned ahead of us (We were going to move to Canada once we finished our educations). I can't believe she has done this...I honestly feel like she has died and that I am mourning her loss, whist also being hurt and disgusted
I guess I am venting and trying to organise my thoughts, but I would also greatly appreciate any thoughts that are to be offered on what I should do and how I can compose myself. There is still a massive urge to try and pull her back here and sort it out because I have so much love for here, but surely I can't do that.
Well, she went 'away' again on Wednesday, and until last night I assumed she was visiting family in the CR as usual. Last night whilst looking for some headphones, I came across a cheap, basic phone tucked away in her wardrobe. Curious, I turned it on...and wasn't prepared for what I saw. Tonnes of messages and conversations between a pseudonym name and men, discussing sexual services, prices, bookings and locations, all dated on dates that she had previously been away, with her last response to a message being a couple of weeks ago. The address given for all of them was a place in Denmark (I wont say any more). I immediately did a google search of escorts in the respective city and on one of the sites, clear as day, was a profile of my girlfriend, with a whole bio on how she does GFE, oral with a condom, full sex, dinner dates and incalls and outcalls.
In a state of total shock, I called her up on facebook and told her that I know what she is doing, and as soon as I did, she hung up and blocked me on messenger and barred me from her normal phone and the number listed on her profile.
I havn't heard from her since then, and I am in pure emotional agony right now. ..I can't even explain how that feels.
As I said, I am totally messed up right now. I really love this girl and we had our whole lives planned ahead of us (We were going to move to Canada once we finished our educations). I can't believe she has done this...I honestly feel like she has died and that I am mourning her loss, whist also being hurt and disgusted
I guess I am venting and trying to organise my thoughts, but I would also greatly appreciate any thoughts that are to be offered on what I should do and how I can compose myself. There is still a massive urge to try and pull her back here and sort it out because I have so much love for here, but surely I can't do that.
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Original post by JokesOnYoo
Did she think she looked like a slut?
Picture of her?
Picture of her?
Is this in regard to your thread wanting to know if the girl you like is a slut? Because if so, then no...she does not look like a slut, she is very attractive and takes pride in her appearance but in an elegant way. If you are instead saying it to troll me then **** off pal.
Original post by goggleyed
Oh man that's terrible...
...do you happen to know what the phone number to her secret phone is?
...do you happen to know what the phone number to her secret phone is?
Are you seriously having a laugh at this right now? **** you.
Original post by Anonymous912
Is this in regard to your thread wanting to know if the girl you like is a slut? Because if so, then no...she does not look like a slut, she is very attractive and takes pride in her appearance but in an elegant way. If you are instead saying it to troll me then **** off pal.
Picture of her?
Original post by JokesOnYoo
Picture of her?
Take a hike.
This is a terrible situation and I really feel for you man. No one wants to hear things like this and no matter what advice people give you, you alone have to make some very difficult decisions but you need a clear head to do so.
You need some time to work out what to do from here. Since she has clearly blocked you it's difficult to sort anything out. As you both have a place together that needs to be sorted out soon. One of you needs to move out as it would be impossible to both live together considering the situation.
Some time apart from her will allow you to see where you want to go from here. Of course she has a story to tell about why she does work as an escort but in any relationship there needs to be honesty and trust which has clearly been eroded.
This lack of honesty and trust could affect future relationships which I worry about. You can't keep all of these emotions hidden and I would try to speak with friends/family that you trust who won't open their mouths about things to others and more importantly won't judge you. This situation is not your fault so don't look at it that way.
Yes you could get back with her 'if' things changed but you both need to talk through a lot of things and right now I don't think that is the best thing to do. Again once trust/honesty has been taken away it's very difficult to get back. Any talk with her now is likely to be angry and emotional which often gives bad results.
One thing you do need to do is get tested for STD's. Yes, everyone hates going to the doctors/clinic but it's important you get tested.
I wish you all the best in whatever decisions you make from here. Good luck!
You need some time to work out what to do from here. Since she has clearly blocked you it's difficult to sort anything out. As you both have a place together that needs to be sorted out soon. One of you needs to move out as it would be impossible to both live together considering the situation.
Some time apart from her will allow you to see where you want to go from here. Of course she has a story to tell about why she does work as an escort but in any relationship there needs to be honesty and trust which has clearly been eroded.
This lack of honesty and trust could affect future relationships which I worry about. You can't keep all of these emotions hidden and I would try to speak with friends/family that you trust who won't open their mouths about things to others and more importantly won't judge you. This situation is not your fault so don't look at it that way.
Yes you could get back with her 'if' things changed but you both need to talk through a lot of things and right now I don't think that is the best thing to do. Again once trust/honesty has been taken away it's very difficult to get back. Any talk with her now is likely to be angry and emotional which often gives bad results.
One thing you do need to do is get tested for STD's. Yes, everyone hates going to the doctors/clinic but it's important you get tested.
I wish you all the best in whatever decisions you make from here. Good luck!
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Original post by Anonymous912
My head is all over the place right now and I feel like jumping out a window. So for the past few months, my Czech GF of 5 years has been going away from home for about 3-4 days every other week, (She studies for the other 3). She told me that she had been missing family and friends back home and so was making regular visits to combat her homesickness. We live together in a comfy flat and have a fairly decent standard of living, I receive a decent amount in my student loan and also work 15 hours a week, and up until recently she was working 1 night a week behind a bar.
Well, she went 'away' again on Wednesday, and until last night I assumed she was visiting family in the CR as usual. Last night whilst looking for some headphones, I came across a cheap, basic phone tucked away in her wardrobe. Curious, I turned it on...and wasn't prepared for what I saw. Tonnes of messages and conversations between a pseudonym name and men, discussing sexual services, prices, bookings and locations, all dated on dates that she had previously been away, with her last response to a message being a couple of weeks ago. The address given for all of them was a place in Denmark (I wont say any more). I immediately did a google search of escorts in the respective city and on one of the sites, clear as day, was a profile of my girlfriend, with a whole bio on how she does GFE, oral with a condom, full sex, dinner dates and incalls and outcalls.
In a state of total shock, I called her up on facebook and told her that I know what she is doing, and as soon as I did, she hung up and blocked me on messenger and barred me from her normal phone and the number listed on her profile.
I havn't heard from her since then, and I am in pure emotional agony right now. I have never wanted to kill somebody so much in my life, and I don't mean kill her, I mean kill those dirty ****ing old *******s who are using the body of the girl I plan on marrying for their own sexual gratification. Just thinking about the fact that right now, some random, fat slob could have his **** in the mouth that I have passionately kissed so many times...I can't even explain how that feels.
As I said, I am totally messed up right now. I really love this girl and we had our whole lives planned ahead of us (We were going to move to Canada once we finished our educations). I can't believe she has done this...I honestly feel like she has died and that I am mourning her loss, whist also being hurt and disgusted and wanting to murder those ****ers dead.
I guess I am venting and trying to organise my thoughts, but I would also greatly appreciate any thoughts that are to be offered on what I should do and how I can compose myself. There is still a massive urge to try and pull her back here and sort it out because I have so much love for here, but surely I can't do that.
Well, she went 'away' again on Wednesday, and until last night I assumed she was visiting family in the CR as usual. Last night whilst looking for some headphones, I came across a cheap, basic phone tucked away in her wardrobe. Curious, I turned it on...and wasn't prepared for what I saw. Tonnes of messages and conversations between a pseudonym name and men, discussing sexual services, prices, bookings and locations, all dated on dates that she had previously been away, with her last response to a message being a couple of weeks ago. The address given for all of them was a place in Denmark (I wont say any more). I immediately did a google search of escorts in the respective city and on one of the sites, clear as day, was a profile of my girlfriend, with a whole bio on how she does GFE, oral with a condom, full sex, dinner dates and incalls and outcalls.
In a state of total shock, I called her up on facebook and told her that I know what she is doing, and as soon as I did, she hung up and blocked me on messenger and barred me from her normal phone and the number listed on her profile.
I havn't heard from her since then, and I am in pure emotional agony right now. I have never wanted to kill somebody so much in my life, and I don't mean kill her, I mean kill those dirty ****ing old *******s who are using the body of the girl I plan on marrying for their own sexual gratification. Just thinking about the fact that right now, some random, fat slob could have his **** in the mouth that I have passionately kissed so many times...I can't even explain how that feels.
As I said, I am totally messed up right now. I really love this girl and we had our whole lives planned ahead of us (We were going to move to Canada once we finished our educations). I can't believe she has done this...I honestly feel like she has died and that I am mourning her loss, whist also being hurt and disgusted and wanting to murder those ****ers dead.
I guess I am venting and trying to organise my thoughts, but I would also greatly appreciate any thoughts that are to be offered on what I should do and how I can compose myself. There is still a massive urge to try and pull her back here and sort it out because I have so much love for here, but surely I can't do that.
lel, i'd say i feel for you, but this is incredulous asf.
Bro if you're being legit; dump her, the fact that you've been dating her 5 years and still ain't married her speaks for itself. Most people i knew would date for a year at most then decide whether to dump or find another more suitable candidate for marriage - since that's what having a girlfriend means.
Quite obviously you played yourself by stagnating for so long.
Original post by Jang Gwangnam
date for a year at most then decide whether to dump or find another more suitable candidate for marriage - since that's what having a girlfriend means.
No, relationships are different things to different people, they are not definitively a sounding board for marriage.
You need to sit down with her in a more calm moment and talk this through, how long has she been doing this, why has she been doing this? Even if there's a defensible reason for doing it (this will be a matter of perspective, personally I'd only be able to understand it for something like needing quick money to help an ill relative), why did she not discuss that reason for you and find something you were comfortable with as well? Mature conversation but honestly I don't see a way back for you two.
Also, get yourself checked out for STDs, she might claim to be clean and safe with it but you still need to know
Original post by Anonymous912
Why are you angry at the men and not her? She is supposed to be your girlfriend. Have the men even done anything wrong?
Very strange.
You dumped a porn star? Friendship! Over!
Original post by Anonymous912
My head is all over the place right now and I feel like jumping out a window. So for the past few months, my Czech GF of 5 years has been going away from home for about 3-4 days every other week, (She studies for the other 3). She told me that she had been missing family and friends back home and so was making regular visits to combat her homesickness. We live together in a comfy flat and have a fairly decent standard of living, I receive a decent amount in my student loan and also work 15 hours a week, and up until recently she was working 1 night a week behind a bar.
Well, she went 'away' again on Wednesday, and until last night I assumed she was visiting family in the CR as usual. Last night whilst looking for some headphones, I came across a cheap, basic phone tucked away in her wardrobe. Curious, I turned it on...and wasn't prepared for what I saw. Tonnes of messages and conversations between a pseudonym name and men, discussing sexual services, prices, bookings and locations, all dated on dates that she had previously been away, with her last response to a message being a couple of weeks ago. The address given for all of them was a place in Denmark (I wont say any more). I immediately did a google search of escorts in the respective city and on one of the sites, clear as day, was a profile of my girlfriend, with a whole bio on how she does GFE, oral with a condom, full sex, dinner dates and incalls and outcalls.
In a state of total shock, I called her up on facebook and told her that I know what she is doing, and as soon as I did, she hung up and blocked me on messenger and barred me from her normal phone and the number listed on her profile.
I havn't heard from her since then, and I am in pure emotional agony right now. I have never wanted to kill somebody so much in my life, and I don't mean kill her, I mean kill those dirty ****ing old *******s who are using the body of the girl I plan on marrying for their own sexual gratification. Just thinking about the fact that right now, some random, fat slob could have his **** in the mouth that I have passionately kissed so many times...I can't even explain how that feels.
As I said, I am totally messed up right now. I really love this girl and we had our whole lives planned ahead of us (We were going to move to Canada once we finished our educations). I can't believe she has done this...I honestly feel like she has died and that I am mourning her loss, whist also being hurt and disgusted and wanting to murder those ****ers dead.
I guess I am venting and trying to organise my thoughts, but I would also greatly appreciate any thoughts that are to be offered on what I should do and how I can compose myself. There is still a massive urge to try and pull her back here and sort it out because I have so much love for here, but surely I can't do that.
Well, she went 'away' again on Wednesday, and until last night I assumed she was visiting family in the CR as usual. Last night whilst looking for some headphones, I came across a cheap, basic phone tucked away in her wardrobe. Curious, I turned it on...and wasn't prepared for what I saw. Tonnes of messages and conversations between a pseudonym name and men, discussing sexual services, prices, bookings and locations, all dated on dates that she had previously been away, with her last response to a message being a couple of weeks ago. The address given for all of them was a place in Denmark (I wont say any more). I immediately did a google search of escorts in the respective city and on one of the sites, clear as day, was a profile of my girlfriend, with a whole bio on how she does GFE, oral with a condom, full sex, dinner dates and incalls and outcalls.
In a state of total shock, I called her up on facebook and told her that I know what she is doing, and as soon as I did, she hung up and blocked me on messenger and barred me from her normal phone and the number listed on her profile.
I havn't heard from her since then, and I am in pure emotional agony right now. I have never wanted to kill somebody so much in my life, and I don't mean kill her, I mean kill those dirty ****ing old *******s who are using the body of the girl I plan on marrying for their own sexual gratification. Just thinking about the fact that right now, some random, fat slob could have his **** in the mouth that I have passionately kissed so many times...I can't even explain how that feels.
As I said, I am totally messed up right now. I really love this girl and we had our whole lives planned ahead of us (We were going to move to Canada once we finished our educations). I can't believe she has done this...I honestly feel like she has died and that I am mourning her loss, whist also being hurt and disgusted and wanting to murder those ****ers dead.
I guess I am venting and trying to organise my thoughts, but I would also greatly appreciate any thoughts that are to be offered on what I should do and how I can compose myself. There is still a massive urge to try and pull her back here and sort it out because I have so much love for here, but surely I can't do that.
Okay, I know it's really hard for you right now. You want her. But listen, you are in a stage of shock and this is the first stage. Wait a few weeks for you to think more rationally. But the fact of the matter is that this girl that you love has caused you pain and she has lied to you and she has cheated on you probably hundreds of times.You fell for the wrong one and taking her back will never be the same. Also, she didnt even apologise. She just blocked you as if she didnt care. My advice: leave her for good. Its the best for you. She doesnt care. Believe me.
Good luck. It gets better.
Original post by Wilfred Little
Why are you angry at the men and not her? She is supposed to be your girlfriend. Have the men even done anything wrong?
Very strange.
Very strange.
I've actually noticed this a lot with people. Happens a lot with people and their cheating partners too, they get angry at the other person and not their partner.
The root problem lies with the girlfriend and her profession. Something OP will have to discuss over.
Original post by UWS
I've actually noticed this a lot with people. Happens a lot with people and their cheating partners too, they get angry at the other person and not their partner.
The root problem lies with the girlfriend and her profession. Something OP will have to discuss over.
The root problem lies with the girlfriend and her profession. Something OP will have to discuss over.
I get being angry at the other man/woman, but this guy is entirely angry at the men. Can't see anything that suggests she's been forced into escorting so the men haven't done anything wrong imo, hardly as if they know she has a boyfriend. Whereas she has put this guy's health at risk and lied to him, yet he wants to kill the men?
you might want to get checked for STD's
I'm so sorry, this is horrible. 5 years is a long time.
I echo Sumo's post, you need to make decisions.
If you can talk to her at any point, it may help with your personal closure to find out why she did this. It's up to you if you decide to forgive her, but personally I don't think staying together is a good idea. The fact she hung up on you when you found out and can quite happily deceive you really isn't a situation that will easily patch up.
As for the guys...yeah they hired your girlfriend so they're not gonna be high on your list of favourites, and I understand that. But I imagine none of them had any clue what she was doing and, to be fair, they're terrible if they did but they wouldn't have been doing it if she didn't give them the chance. She is at fault for deceiving you, and your anger at the idea of other men being with her is understandable but misguided towards the men instead of at her.
Figure out whether you want to stay or leave, be firm with her if you want to leave and don't let her worm her way back. Things like this will irreparably ruin your trust in that person, possibly in general, and you don't need that.
You deserve someone who loves you wholly. Focus on yourself, explain to family or friends what has happened so they can support you.
Again, I'm very sorry and I hope you'll be okay.
I echo Sumo's post, you need to make decisions.
If you can talk to her at any point, it may help with your personal closure to find out why she did this. It's up to you if you decide to forgive her, but personally I don't think staying together is a good idea. The fact she hung up on you when you found out and can quite happily deceive you really isn't a situation that will easily patch up.
As for the guys...yeah they hired your girlfriend so they're not gonna be high on your list of favourites, and I understand that. But I imagine none of them had any clue what she was doing and, to be fair, they're terrible if they did but they wouldn't have been doing it if she didn't give them the chance. She is at fault for deceiving you, and your anger at the idea of other men being with her is understandable but misguided towards the men instead of at her.
Figure out whether you want to stay or leave, be firm with her if you want to leave and don't let her worm her way back. Things like this will irreparably ruin your trust in that person, possibly in general, and you don't need that.
You deserve someone who loves you wholly. Focus on yourself, explain to family or friends what has happened so they can support you.
Again, I'm very sorry and I hope you'll be okay.
I knew this story wouldnt end well when I read 'my czech gf'. Well okay, it was actually when I read the thread title, but had I not done so then I would have gleaned the information as to how the story would likely end from your girlfriend's nationality.
Original post by awkwardshortguy
I knew this story wouldnt end well when I read 'my czech gf'. Well okay, it was actually when I read the thread title, but had I not done so then I would have gleaned the information as to how the story would likely end from your girlfriend's nationality.
lol i totally know where you are coming from, the stereotype doesn't exactly lie when it comes to Czech woman.
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