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Will I ever find someone who likes me

I'm in year 9 and so many people are in relationships. I feel like I'm the only one who won't ever get a date, have a first kiss, lose virginity etc.
I'm also taller than most people, have a big nose, and other insecurities although I have a nice figure (which I don't show off because I don't wear tight clothes). I feel like the only way to fit in is to wear short skirts and loads of makeup.
I just think that everyone judges me and all the boys love the girls with long hair and filled in eyebrows. On a Friday night I can be found at home reading instead of drinking at parties, which makes me feel like a complete loser. Idk what to do with myself anymore. I also wish boys would get to know a girl before assuming she isn't relationship material and I bloody hope they grow up before adulthood!

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you're IN YEAR 9. You've never been in a relationship, how would you even know? people at that age don't take relationships that serious and you shouldn't get into a relationship if u dont feel good about yourself.
Probably.
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The odds are ever in your favour.
You shouldn't even be worrying about this at your age.
you are in year 9, you are 13. I am 17 and never been in a relationship either. Focus on your books, enjoy your friends and family and forget about boyfriend!!! Just continue to do you girl and the right person will like you for that!! A ll these boys who are liking the ""pretty girls"" dont know what they want yet. Honey, just forget about those babies and when the time comes, you will find a man who will sweep you off your feet, I promise!!!! Personally your Friday night is my ideal Friday night as well so you are not alone:biggrin::biggrin:
Original post by Anonymous
I'm in year 9 and so many people are in relationships. I feel like I'm the only one who won't ever get a date, have a first kiss, lose virginity etc.
I'm also taller than most people, have a big nose, and other insecurities although I have a nice figure (which I don't show off because I don't wear tight clothes). I feel like the only way to fit in is to wear short skirts and loads of makeup.
I just think that everyone judges me and all the boys love the girls with long hair and filled in eyebrows. On a Friday night I can be found at home reading instead of drinking at parties, which makes me feel like a complete loser. Idk what to do with myself anymore. I also wish boys would get to know a girl before assuming she isn't relationship material and I bloody hope they grow up before adulthood!


Don't let your lust control you. Meditate, it's better than being a b*tch to your emotions. :biggrin:
you are basically me, I'm 5ft 10 which is taller than average for a girl, I never show my figure either like to college I wear the same thing everyday like jeans, long massive jumpers and a massive coat coz I'm too cold to give a damn and I have a buzz cut as well so....Don't worry be happy coz every little thing is gonna be alri!!!:wink::wink:
Original post by Anonymous
I'm in year 9 and so many people are in relationships. I feel like I'm the only one who won't ever get a date, have a first kiss, lose virginity etc.
I'm also taller than most people, have a big nose, and other insecurities although I have a nice figure (which I don't show off because I don't wear tight clothes). I feel like the only way to fit in is to wear short skirts and loads of makeup.
I just think that everyone judges me and all the boys love the girls with long hair and filled in eyebrows. On a Friday night I can be found at home reading instead of drinking at parties, which makes me feel like a complete loser. Idk what to do with myself anymore. I also wish boys would get to know a girl before assuming she isn't relationship material and I bloody hope they grow up before adulthood!


I just read everything thoroughly.

I recommend you don't become a attention seeker, girls who dress like that were already labelled sluts and hoes by the boy groups i knew (after 3-4 years near the same people i knew everybody... so yh). Trust wear a long skirt (they look nice). Grow your hair out (Bob cuts tend to suit small girls better). Don't overdo the make-up (otherwise your face will look powdery asf).
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Original post by Loluwa-Temi
you are in year 9, you are 13. I am 17 and never been in a relationship either. Focus on your books, enjoy your friends and family and forget about boyfriend!!! Just continue to do you girl and the right person will like you for that!! A ll these boys who are liking the ""pretty girls"" dont know what they want yet. Honey, just forget about those babies and when the time comes, you will find a man who will sweep you off your feet, I promise!!!! Personally your Friday night is my ideal Friday night as well so you are not alone:biggrin::biggrin:


Lol thanks I hope you're right :redface:
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Lol thanks I hope you're right :redface:


Don't worry, I am!!:tongue:
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I just read everything thoroughly.

I recommend you don't become a attention seeker, girls who dress like that were already labelled sluts and hoes by the boy groups i knew (after 3-4 years near the same people i knew everybody... so yh). Trust wear a long skirt (they look nice). Grow your hair out (Bob cuts tend to suit small girls better). Don't overdo the make-up (otherwise your face will look powdery asf).


Yeah I have a longer skirt, mid length hair and no makeup, I just feel pressure from social media and stuff to do the opposite. I believe I should to get a boy cause they're only interested in those sorts of girls :frown:
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah I have a longer skirt, mid length hair and no makeup, I just feel pressure from social media and stuff to do the opposite. I believe I should to get a boy cause they're only interested in those sorts of girls :frown:


What the penis finds pleasant, will never be the same as what the heart finds pleasant.

Meditation is the way to controlling emotions sis, don't let the lust engulf you.

I wish you a good day. :smile:
***** ur too young to be thinking bout that ****, wait till ur at least in year 11 jesus chirst, boys ur age r stupid and only care bout certain girls, its even worse if you live in a rough area, ur problem might just be socialising with boys or with people, talk to them, make friends with them, find boys who like to read, put make-up on and try to fit in, just dont change completely, try to be unique
Original post by Loluwa-Temi
Don't worry, I am!!:tongue:


Will the boys ever mentally mature though?!
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Will the boys ever mentally mature though?!


I don't know if you know this but girls mature faster than boys and we do hit puberty earlier than boys as well. Boys do mature eventually but not all boys are thick shits!
Original post by Loluwa-Temi
I don't know if you know this but girls mature faster than boys and we do hit puberty earlier than boys as well. Boys do mature eventually but not all boys are thick shits!


Well I guess that’s good to know 😂 thanks
You're only in year 9!!!!

I guess that makes you only 14 years old!

Chill out, you've got plenty, plenty of time to find someone you like.

Just relax, focus on your studies, bettering yourself, do things that make you happy and have fun.

As you get older you can try online dating, speed dating, joining clubs out of interest, meeting men through your hobbies, through meet ups, through education, through your network and by going out.

Good luck
My guess is that you will never find love. You will be single forever and you will rot alone at the end of your life. Even your friends and family will leave you. You are destined to be sad.
Love happens when you least expect it to happen. Stop worrying,

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