Is it normal for my mother to expect birthday and Christmas presents?

this is basically all she contributes to my finances.

a parent should help their children at university unless they can't... I got no trust fund from them

she basically doesn't contribute to my maintenance while at uni

The real world is a dreadful place that I am very unwilling to join.

Can't cook. Cleaning is a bit absurd at my age. ... She has lived off her parents her entire life, I'm more responsible and plan to work. I don't need money.

You're wondering why people are assuming things about you, it's because you're sounding like an ungrateful, awful person.

Once you're 18 you are no longer your parent's responsibility. She doesn't have to contribute anything. Anything she does is by her own choice and good nature.

No, a parent shouldn't be expected to financially support their adult child. As I said above, if your parent does then that's their choice. I'm not given money by my parents, however I know my dad will help me out if I get in a situation. Also, with the trust fund, don't expect your extended family to be giving you money. That's a horrible view to have that your grandparents owe you financial support. Again, it's out of the kindness of their hearts that they chose to save money for you.

Because she has no obligation to! Stop expecting people to hand you money just because you feel you're owed it.

Well tough, you have no choice. You're in the real world. You have to earn your own money and spend it wisely. Stop moaning and get on with it.

Why can't you cook? There's no excuse unless you're physically unable to learn. Why is cleaning "absurd" at the age of 20? Also, you've been moaning about how your mum doesn't give you any money for university, so you can't moan about her living off her parents when you sound like you want to do the exact same thing.

I'll earn enough to spend stupidly

I don't have to excuse myself with you for being unable to cook. I can build an LBO model on Excel (sort of) and translate Latin/Ancient Greek. I guess you can't yet I'm not calling you out for that.

I have cleaners for my uni apartment and at home so I definitely don't clean.

I simply expect a person who has lived off her parents her entire life to be comfortable with the idea of contributing something towards my maintenance.

The fact that you are breathing the same oxygen as me is a disgrace and I feel sexually, mentally and physically violated.

I'm a 20 years old undergraduate. It feels wrong to me that she expects presents from her child, at this age, especially given that after I've turned 18 hers haven't been particularly special (usually worth a couple of hundreds) and this is basically all she contributes to my finances.

Furthermore, it's unpleasant to give her presents because she is ungrateful and usually unsatisfied with my gifts. This is why I'd rather avoid it.

You have a job guaranteed and lined up to pay you this great salary, yes?

Yeah, because those things are just as important as knowing how to feed yourself healthy meals, right...

You didn't answer my question. Why is it "absurd" for a grown adult to clean? You don't need to do your own cleaning at the moment, but at some point in your life you will, so tell me why a grown adult shouldn't clean.

Um, no. Just because her parents were willing to give their child money out of their own good nature does not mean your mother has to do the same for you. Generosity isn't in your genes, you know. You should not expect to have the same lifestyle as your mother.

What? Where did the idea of me being an SJW even come from?

It's virtually certain that I'll be in a high paying role.

...to avoid cooking.

It's absurd for an adult to clean a house as a gift to his parents.

I pay people to do my cleaning now and I'll certainly do so in the future.

I would expect her to give her child the same she has received from her parents. It's only logic.

You were so offended by my apparently innocent use of free speech to feel sexually violated.

OP is right about that, nobody should expect gifts. However, it's his attitude to expecting money from his family and expecting to be handed things on a plate etc. That's what's awful. Also his disgusting attitude towards his mother who, without her, wouldn't be where he is now.

No, I said guaranteed job. You're saying virtually certain, therefore it's not guaranteed that you'll be rolling in money.

Why is it so important to avoid cooking? What's so bad about it?

What a horrible child you must have been! I guess if your parents become unwell in old age that you'll just dump them in a care home and never see them, because it's "absurd" for a child to do anything for their parents! Jeez... I feel so sorry for your parents, having a child so ungrateful that they're refusing to do things for them. You realise your parents got you to where you are now right? Without them cleaning you, bathing you, teaching you to read, walk, talk, learn about the world, teaching you concepts and facts, you wouldn't be in your current place?

Certainly, huh? With this amazing job that's not even guaranteed? You may have these wonderful prospects, and good for you, but it's not guaranteed. You never know when something will go seriously wrong. You could be hit by a car tomorrow and end up forever injured unable to work to earn as much money as you want.

No, that's the opposite of logic. I don't even understand how you could possibly think this.

Wait, so anyone who feels sexually harassed is a feminist SJW? I honestly don't understand why people are so quick to liken things to feminism or social justice. For all you know, I could be a racist woman beater who idolizes Hitler.

That's my family ethic. It's what I'll do with my children and what my ancestors have always done. You don't know about my relationship with my mother.

I get it, you don't know how the world works. I was born in the right family, I'm responsible and I study finance so as a matter of fact, I'll be alright. I'll not be "rolling in money", even 100k (my starting salary will probably be less, but not by far) doesn't sound like that much to me. Concerning humans, virtually certain is as certain as it gets. I could even say "guaranteed", of course there could be a nuclear war, a socialist revolution, or some other catastrophe, but it's highly unlikely.

Your unideal social background evidently blinds you to rationality or makes you incapable and unwilling of understanding my perspective. I perfectly realise that disadvantaged people probably don't understand entitlement and inheritance.