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i never had a gf and valentines day is coming up

how do I get a gf. I'm confident, intelligent (I'm just in higher classes), I guess I look a little decent, and I'm what you call a nerd (hey I'm proud of that though). I like this girl and I want to ask her out on valentines day but I'm scared to ask. I have always been rejected and I'm scared it's just going to be the same as always. I'm not desperate and I don't chase girls bc that's weird but its gotten to the point where i'm used to it when they say "no" and I don't get emotionally affected either. so can I get some advice since valentines day is coming.

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You buy one at the G.E. like everyone else does.
Reply 2
Just ask her
i have never had a boyfriend. but indont care.
Reply 4
Original post by awkwardshortguy
You buy one at the G.E. like everyone else does.

I live in the us so I don't know what a G.E. is and why would you buy a girlfriend, that's just creepy.
Reply 5
Original post by Twiiiiinx
i have never had a boyfriend. but indont care.

I know but I want to experience what having someone to care about you really is besides only a mother and also get affection from them as well.
i feel that too sometimes.
Armus, you need to sort out all your self contradictions.
You SAY you're not desperate. But you've set yourself the target of getting a girlfriend within the next week. That's desperate. Set yourself the target of getting a girflriend by Valentines Day 2021.
You SAY you're intelligent, and you want a girlfriend, but you never approach anyone that you find attractive - which is just plain stupid and self-defeating.
You SAY you don't chase girls. But you DO - in your head. Very much so. Stop chasing them in your head. Get to know a few as platonic friends. IE simply widen your circle of friends to include some females. From there nature will take its course and you will end up with a girlfriend from one or more of them - if you are worth having as a boyfriend. If you are not worth having as a boyfriend, use your intelligence to analyse why and then change yourself.
Valentine's Day is aimed largely at heterosexual couples and so by opting out you can feel superior for not engaging in this commercial event.
Valentines Day is an overrated commercialised load of rubbish.

(and no, I'm not a bitter singleton!)
Reply 10
Try argos brides?
Just chill bro,no offence but you would be used to now.
Reply 12
Just ask her
Reply 13
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Armus, you need to sort out all your self contradictions.
You SAY you're not desperate. But you've set yourself the target of getting a girlfriend within the next week. That's desperate. Set yourself the target of getting a girflriend by Valentines Day 2021.
You SAY you're intelligent, and you want a girlfriend, but you never approach anyone that you find attractive - which is just plain stupid and self-defeating.
You SAY you don't chase girls. But you DO - in your head. Very much so. Stop chasing them in your head. Get to know a few as platonic friends. IE simply widen your circle of friends to include some females. From there nature will take its course and you will end up with a girlfriend from one or more of them - if you are worth having as a boyfriend. If you are not worth having as a boyfriend, use your intelligence to analyse why and then change yourself.

I knew this girl for 4 years now and I talk to her every day so I'm not desperate. I am intelligent on subjects but not socially, and how am I supposed to talk to new girls that are hot without stuttering or embarrassing myself. also, about 3/4 of my friends are female and how am I supposed to meet new people without knowing anything about them.
Reply 14
Original post by (:)^2
Try argos brides?


i have never heard of an argos bride
Str8 up ask her out. 'lets grab some drinks or get a coffee or something' ygm. Free advise, i got all the girls. Any time bro
Original post by Castra
Just ask her


If it were that easy, there wouldn't be introverts.
Original post by ArmusP
I knew this girl for 4 years now and I talk to her every day so I'm not desperate. I am intelligent on subjects but not socially, and how am I supposed to talk to new girls that are hot without stuttering or embarrassing myself. also, about 3/4 of my friends are female and how am I supposed to meet new people without knowing anything about them.
Armus, first of all, congratulations on recognising that you have a challenge and for coming on here for advice. Recognising that there's an issue is the first step in overcoming it.

Secondly, do you argue with your teachers at school?

There are more self-contradictions in your reply to me.
You say you're "intelligent on subjects but not socially". Well use your intelligence to get intelligent on the subject of socialising then.

You talk to attractive new girls without stuttering or embarrassing yourself by talking to new attractive girls. That's how. As simple as that.
Try to stop treating attractive young women any different to how you treat the rest of the human species. Put yourself in the shoes of a beautiful woman. They will get men hitting on them all time. They will also get men being timidly nervous around them all the time. What they want is to be liked and respected for what they have on the inside, and not just for how they look on the outside.

How do you think you should meet new people that you know nothing about? With enthusiasm and positivity? Or with fear, trepidation and negativity?

If 3/4 of your friends are female, then forget about stupid targets such as asking someone out on Valentines day. Just let your friendships evolve naturally.
Original post by Twiiiiinx
i have never had a boyfriend. but indont care.
You sai you don't care, but you posted twice in the same thread about it.

The lady doth protest too much, methinks :holmes:
You sound like a great person just be yr self. I believe in when the time is right it will happen

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