What should I do?

I'm a Muslim female.. I am questioning my sexuality..

I find my views regarding this situation conflicting. To a certain extent homosexuality doesn't feel right to me.. Like sometimes I have days where I'm like nah I can't do that, it doesn't feel right. But then I also feel attracted to women and I know I would be happy with a woman but it's against my religion. I just feel like there's no right way for me.

Either I follow religion (and not be myself), that's what I tried doing but it resulted in me feeling suicidal, I used to pray for these feelings to "go away", I thought it was a phase but it can't be a phase when Ive been feeling like this for many years.

Or I get into a relationship with a girl to explore and not feel completely okay with it.. It's like whatever I decide, I'm never going to be 100% happy.

Any advice on what you would do if you were in my situation? Please take both sides into consideration I.e. being a muslim and questioning sexuality..

I think ABSOLUTELY DO NOT do anything that would make you feel suicjdal or unhappy. You can’t accelt and come to terms with your feelings if you dint know exactly what they are so explore and maybe reach out to people in the Muslim LGBTQ community (google it maybe and see who comes up) for advice. At the end of the day if you believe in guys religion and believe your god is all loving and fair and such things then you should be able to see that he would accept you and love you. Religion can be important but nowadays it can be difficult to follow 100% as times change but it doesn’t make you any less religious if you still believe and find comfort in your religion and religious rituals

This is a difficult topic to discuss because you have to take more than what you find attractive straight away into consideration.

First of all if you don't feel 100% comfortable with being in a relationship with a certain person, then you should not be in one at all regardless of the gender.

Secondly, if you find a person attractive but their personality is not your match, then it will be a big 'turn off'. However, some people might not seem your 'type' at first but then they display actions that you find attractive, so you fall for them.

Lastly, I wouldn't worry about it too much at the moment. At the end of the day, there is a difference between having a crush or falling for someone. You could end up in a situation where you are attracted to both genders but the person you are with is male.

I know how you're feeling, I can help you 100%

How can you help?

How old are you?

There are an increasing number of Muslims coming out as gay but who are finding peace in both their religion and their sexuality.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/world-europe-40802538

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05740sx

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-england-birmingham-40569328/gay-muslim-s-journey-to-same-sex-marriage

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-england-birmingham-40569328/gay-muslim-s-journey-to-same-sex-marriage

"To those who are Muslim and believe you can't be gay or an emancipated woman at the same time as being Muslim, I would say: you can't be homophobic, misogynistic, Judeophobic and pretend to be Muslim," he replies."Because Islam means being at peace with yourself and others. So that would be an oxymoron, it would be a contradiction."

I'll check those links out.

The last two sentences yes! Islam is about peace. Islam means to respect yourself and other individuals even if you don't agree with their actions!!

Difficult topic to discuss even more difficult to go through.... I think if I explore with a woman, I'll be able to know how I truly feel, if it makes me happy, I can continue. if it makes me uncomfortable, I can leave it and I'll know how I feel about the whole situation. Right now, I feel as though I would like to get to know a woman..

Yeah for me personality is a huge deciding factor. I've always said I want someone who is understanding and caring. I feel as though these qualities are more commonly found in women rather than men hence what makes me even more attracted to women.

It's hard not worrying about it now cause I just feel suffocated and restless.. but it's even more difficult trying to find someone.. I've been in love with a girl before so I know the difference between a crush and falling for someone. And I agree with the last sentence, but right now I don't want to think about men. I want to try and find a woman..

21

I'm not being rude or anything but aren't you a bit too young for this. I mean you're feeling suicidal for not having a girlfriend? This is not even about your sexuality or your religion

I know its really difficult because if you speak to Muslims they'll tell you to forget about it and its a sin, and at the same time if you speak to non-Muslims they'll tell you to leave your religion and do whatever you want.

Far from feeling suicidal because she doesn't have a girlfriend, my main impression of this situation was that she felt suicidal because she felt that her sexuality is in conflict with her religion (and attempts on her part to deny her feelings for her religions sake left her feeling suicidal).

1. Not really true- I am not Muslim and my advice was to put her in contact with charities and articles etc which supported and explored being Lesbian/Bisexual/Gay and Muslim.

2. It's not right to just stereotype all non-Muslim people as all being fundamentally anti-Islam.

3. It is also not right to stereotype Muslims as all being fundamentally anti-gay (a large percentage of the British Muslim community are very supportive of the LBGT community, within and outside of the Muslim community!).

There is a lot of help out for non-heterosexual Muslims (but your advice seems to boil down to "Forget about everything and don't bother talking to anyone (I don't know)".

I'll check those links out.

The last two sentences yes! Islam is about peace. Islam means to respect yourself and other individuals even if you don't agree with their actions!!

1. Not really true- I am not Muslim and my advice was to put her in contact with charities and articles etc which supported and explored being Lesbian/Bisexual/Gay and Muslim.

2. It's not right to just stereotype all non-Muslim people as all being fundamentally anti-Islam.

3. It is also not right to stereotype Muslims as all being fundamentally anti-gay (a large percentage of the British Muslim community are very supportive of the LBGT community, within and outside of the Muslim community!).

There is a lot of help out there for non-heterosexual Muslims (but your advice seems to boil down to "Forget about everything and don't bother talking to anyone (I don't know)")

Islam also forbids homosexuality.
You should not be homophobic but that doesn’t mean you can be homosexual.