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Truly in love, echoing sentiments of “neither can live without the other” (according to the both of us, essential condition of whichever option we choose, is that we stay together)
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1542 miles between us (different universities)
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6-month-long relationship in total (engaged 3 months in), has always been long distance from the beginning
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Female (me) is 18 and male is 19 years old
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Secret relationship (racist parents on my side, no chance of us meeting with their permission, nor even calling easily whilst at home)
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Degree is 6 years, male unable to cope with long-distance pressure without it being described as emotional torture
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Cannot see each other during most holidays, even if I’m in the same country, because of my parents (+he lives 200 miles away during non-term-time)
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Significant financial costs (travel expenses), without my parents knowing, thus it actively is not within the budget I’ve been given, other financial sacrifices are made & quality of life in other areas may be lower
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Financial cost for parents (6-year degree, £84,000+ costs, shipping me resources, flights), then will have to elope after 6 years either away, even after they have done so much for me
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Communication is disconnected and distant via phone/texting, especially after just meeting, causes more explosive arguments without being able to help each other heal properly afterwards, more potential emotional scarring without face-to-face contact
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Worst-case scenario - Risk of discovery part-way through degree, will be given ultimatum, him vs parents/degree, then when I choose him I can no longer continue degree either way due to being unable to shoulder financial degree costs without parent’s support
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If I do drop out, then my own unhappiness initially over feelings of inadequacy, feeling of being a burden (though he wouldn’t think so), limiting my own career & earning potential, giving up my own long-held ambitions, facing the scorn of my friends/family/society for being a “irresponsible college dropout” whilst he continues degree, intellectual pursuits/pride are a significant source of my happiness and this may hamper this by a large degree (though can do another degree I’m less passionate about whilst there, though more personal financial debt)
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Truly in love, echoing sentiments of “neither can live without the other” (according to the both of us, essential condition of whichever option we choose, is that we stay together)
•
1542 miles between us (different universities)
•
6-month-long relationship in total (engaged 3 months in), has always been long distance from the beginning
•
Female (me) is 18 and male is 19 years old
•
Secret relationship (racist parents on my side, no chance of us meeting with their permission, nor even calling easily whilst at home)
•
Degree is 6 years, male unable to cope with long-distance pressure without it being described as emotional torture
•
Cannot see each other during most holidays, even if I’m in the same country, because of my parents (+he lives 200 miles away during non-term-time)
•
Significant financial costs (travel expenses), without my parents knowing, thus it actively is not within the budget I’ve been given, other financial sacrifices are made & quality of life in other areas may be lower
•
Financial cost for parents (6-year degree, £84,000+ costs, shipping me resources, flights), then will have to elope after 6 years either away, even after they have done so much for me
•
Communication is disconnected and distant via phone/texting, especially after just meeting, causes more explosive arguments without being able to help each other heal properly afterwards, more potential emotional scarring without face-to-face contact
•
Worst-case scenario - Risk of discovery part-way through degree, will be given ultimatum, him vs parents/degree, then when I choose him I can no longer continue degree either way due to being unable to shoulder financial degree costs without parent’s support
•
If I do drop out, then my own unhappiness initially over feelings of inadequacy, feeling of being a burden (though he wouldn’t think so), limiting my own career & earning potential, giving up my own long-held ambitions, facing the scorn of my friends/family/society for being a “irresponsible college dropout” whilst he continues degree, intellectual pursuits/pride are a significant source of my happiness and this may hamper this by a large degree (though can do another degree I’m less passionate about whilst there, though more personal financial debt)
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