Long distance relationship problem

If neither of you want to move, what happens in the future? Do you remain in a lifetime long distance relationship? If you love each other, you need to compromise on what you both want. What is making you and your partner unwilling to move?

I mean neither wants to move and my decision is do I just move or do I end it.
Neither wants to leave family or culture.

I mean neither wants to move and my decision is do I just move or do I end it.
Neither wants to leave family or culture.

I don't really see what the issue here is NI is so close and it's so cheap to fly between the two countries. So it's kind of rubbish to say you wont be able to see family as you could literally fly off for the weekend for under 70 quid with return from Gatwick and even cheaper if you flew from Manchester or Birmingham. If you say your relationship is that serious that you would be engaged were it not for the distance then you guys seriously need to think about what you actually want from this relationship if this little bit of distance is a problem. You won't be seeing your family everyday you'll have work anyway (supposedly) and you would in theory be busy with other things in your life.Unless you guys are planning on living with your parents. Culturally there is not much of a difference between England and NI (from what I've experienced) except the NI seem to dislike protestants or catholics depending on which side of the fence you sit.

damn talk about settling... just find someone in your own area mate

I was in this situation with a partner who lived in Canada. I ended it when it became clear that we were never going to close the distance.

Settling? How?

dating someone in a different country. thats desperation for a girl right there

Flying over for one day every once in a while isn’t the same as seeing them nearly every day and it’s not cheap to fly because we’d have to fly from Heathrow. The family thing is more about when we have kids really, they’d grow up not really knowing my family that well. Also there’s a massive difference in culture between NI and the south of England, and the education system is better in NI. Also we would have to live cramped in his house in England, we couldn’t afford a place to live like we could here. Plus I can’t move until 2020 anyway because I’m doing a masters here that includes 9 months working in Boston, USA. So I don’t know what we’d do in the meantime. 😣

Are you happy with your decision or do you ever regret it?

I don't see why you would fly from Heathrow as you can get cheaper flights to Belfast from either Luton Gatwick etc. so you are choosing the more expensive option of Heathrow. Also the family thing you are only then thinking about your family if he moves over to NI wouldnt your kids never see his family either then? Personally, i dont really find it an issue for your kids to not see either grandparents everyday and don't see a reason for it unless you are planning on dumping them on your parents as babysitters since day care is expensive so I'd understand that. Plus with skype, facetime, facebook video call, google there many ways your future kids could talk to them still. Is the education in NI seriously that much better then in England? I only ask as i've studies in neither as i grew up abroad in an international school. It sounds more then that you want a cheap house which would be larger then what you'd be able to get for the same price comparatively in England. But have you also considered that England has better job opportunities then NI? BTW I hope this doesn't sound argumentative I'm just saying what ever is coming into my head. Regarding you going to Boston could he do some volunteering maybe for that time period or get a temp job there to be with you, or just do long dist again as whats 9 months by this point ahaha.