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Girl i am seeing would rather spend valentines day with someone else

Okay so we have been dating for a while and have hit it off quite well. However, she tends to prefer having guy friends which i don't really pay much notice too except when I asked about maybe doing something today, she said a guy friend of hers is inviting her out. I believe guys and girls can be friends and all but come on, a guy friend would not just invite a girl out for valentines day would they? Or am i overthinking?

Reply 1

the bear

if she is your girlfriend then she should not be doing this :naughty:

Reply 2

StriderHort

Yeah sounds kind of starkly like she doesn't consider you an item.

Reply 3

Leslie Knope

Original post by Anonymous

Man up and move on

Reply 4

xXLXx

You should chat to her about it and see where it goes. also you should tell her how you dont like her having guy freinds

Reply 5

Ray_Shadows

Original post by TheGirlFelonXxXx

Man up and move on

great new pic x

Reply 6

Leslie Knope

Original post by Ray_Shadows

great new pic x

Lol thanks x
Thought it would suit my username and me as a whole
Her stance is amazing tho

Reply 7

Ray_Shadows

Original post by TheGirlFelonXxXx

Lol thanks x
Thought it would suit my username and me as a whole
Her stance is amazing tho

yeh definitely , have a happy valentine whoever u with x

Reply 8

Monclér

If a girl I was dating did this to me especially on Valentines day knowing some next dude could potentially be pumping on her on the side.

I wouldn't stick around for very long.

That's a straight violation!

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 9

Leslie Knope

Original post by Ray_Shadows

yeh definitely , have a happy valentine whoever u with x

Nah Im spending mine with friends and family, to me Valentines is just another day

Reply 10

Ray_Shadows

Original post by TheGirlFelonXxXx

Nah Im spending mine with friends and family, to me Valentines is just another day

ah i wish i had friends who weren't in relationship to chill with , they got their own plans with their gf :frown:

Reply 11

Hopefully1

I guess it depends on how long you've been dating and how committed the 'dating' is.... and how often you actually see each other.

So, I feel life you've been dating pretty regularly for 6+weeks then yes, she should be spending her Valentine's Day with you. But, regardless if she feels she is 'dating' you as well then yes, of course, she should be with you this day. You definitely have reason to be irritated and perhaps upset. And, unfortunately, I don't think if she was really into you she'd be wanting to spend this day with a 'buddy', to be honest. I see a big red flag here. Just because things seem to be going well with her doesn't mean that she is a stable person who makes the right decisions. She maybe the girl who self-sabbotages herself and relationships - or flits from one relationship to the next. Sorry, I know that is not what you want to hear.

Best of luck - really.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

mate if your girlfriend is really your girlfriend and she's doing that, drop her.
- advice from a girl

Reply 13

username5319484

Original post by Anonymous

mate if your girlfriend is really your girlfriend and she's doing that, drop her.
- advice from a girl

mate this thread is 4 years old

Reply 14

username5445420

Original post by Anonymous

mate if your girlfriend is really your girlfriend and she's doing that, drop her.
- advice from a girl

don't bump old threads.
- advice from a boy

Reply 15

username5445420

Original post by hungrysalamander

mate this thread is 4 years old

Reply 16

Popsdonut

Original post by sufys12

yeah its an old thread unless the user creeates another thread then u can reply

Reply 17

kianalmao

Original post by sufys12

don't bump old threads.
- advice from a boy

bored asf sorry

Reply 18

NonIndigenous

Original post by Anonymous

Total bs lol. Sh/t on that.

Either she's playing you, or part of her brain is missing if she can't see why her behavior would come across as odd/inappropriate towards you.

Maybe it's one of those 'tests' that some women like to do, except ... this one's overstepping a mark. I can tolerate a few stupid games like this, but toying around with polyamory (which your situation is alluding to), cheating, drugs, or dropping overtly provocative sexual innuendos during conversations just to see my reaction... nope. She's got problems beyond what my nerves have patience for.

I heard of one girl who invited her ex bf to her anniversary date with her current bf. Would you believe that. It's one of those anecdotes from Reddit.

(edited 2 years ago)

Reply 19

username5445420

Original post by NonIndigenous

Total bs lol. Sh/t on that.

Either she's playing you, or part of her brain is missing if she can't see why her behavior would come across as odd/inappropriate towards you.

Maybe it's one of those 'tests' that some women like to do, except ... this one's overstepping mark. I can tolerate a few stupid games like this, but toying around with polyamory (which your situation is alluding to), cheating, drugs, or dropping overtly provocative sexual innuendos during conversations just to see my reaction... nope. She's got problems beyond what my nerves have patience for.