Met a girl lately, not sure how to proceed

How much older?

One thing I find kind of strange is how she was telling you what your weak traits are and how to improve. That's kind of condescending isn't it?

If it’s three years then that’s perfectly fine I think, but it depends on how old you are in comparison the her.

You’re 15 ‘n she’s 18? Mm, nah.

She’s 27 & you’re 24 maybe.

It depends on what stage of life you’re both in, you also need to compare/measure your level of maturity to hers..

Soooo...... I think it depends on how old you are. I know a very successful relationship where the girl is 4 years older than the guy but they are both graduates and have their own careers but it works for them. Their age is a non-issue at this point.

I have three friends that are dating guys that are a year younger than they are..... is that an acceptable age difference or would you not date anyone older than yourself?

Bro you turning down Pussay like that?!
You need to grab it.....
I mean grab the opportunity of course

Yeah we are both in our 20s, both graduated from university.

We just so so much in common and I feel so confident and myself around her. Even though I politely friendzoned her, I still like her and feel that over time I may ask her out. I know she loves me deep down and she was giving me so much advice and made me feel so much better!

But the thing is, couldn't I just fix the weaknesses she has pointed out and ask her out? Like say, "I admit that I am romantically attracted to you"

I recently met a girl through a mutual friend and a small group of us have been hanging out.

The mutual friend and this girl are just friends and are not romantically linked to one another. But lately, I've developed some feelings for this girl, and to my surprise the girl has done the same. We both found that we have so much in common and like each others personalities. I can tell she really likes me, and it wasn't until a friend asked me in front of the group if I "liked" her or wouldn't mind going out with her, that I knew that she perhaps liked me. At the time, I said that I wasn't too sure and her friend said I can take my time deciding, because the friend liked me as a person and so did her boyfriend.

This girl is a couple of years older than me, and I kinda friend zoned her politely privately, on a small date a few days later. Told her that I would disappoint her if I was her man, and she seemed a little upset. We seemed to then tell each other, how we sort of liked each other and what not. But then, she literally told me that I was handsome and some of my weak traits. Like what I could do to improve myself and look good.

I felt bad friend zoning at the time, but a part of me still likes her and I think deep down she likes me. What should I do? I just felt she was slightly older than me, and she kept denying that I could disappoint her.

Never been in a relationship before

you're obviously not that into her

by the way you were talking about the 3 year gap being too big i thought you were like 15 or something but you say you're in your 20's...


nah mate, you're obviously not that into her if you would friend zone her like that. The 3 year gap is not fooling nobody..

And it shows.

That was really clumsy and hurtful friend zoning her and telling her that you'd disappoint her. You rejected her!

Be honest. Contact her this morning. Tell her that you've never been in a relationship. Tell her that you realise that you made a huge mistake in pushing her away. Tell her that you expect to make plenty more mistakes with her, but that you're willing to try your best to learn from them. Tell her that you'd love to see her when she's next available as you do so enjoy the times that you're together. Tell her one highly specific thing that you love about her.

Yeah I did apologize to her about it all.

Yeah we have agreed to meet up sometime soon, and I might just tell her then. Tbh, it was her friend who brought up the whole topic of dating one another - NOT HER. But still, she has been telling me all my weaknesses and how to improve myself. She has also told me my good bits as well, so does that mean she still likes me? We were messaging one another on WhatsApp for a good few hours

You have to realize that if it was her friend bringing up the whole dating topic she was doing it on behalf of the girl you like. Girls don't just bring that up without first discussing it. I would imagine that they (the two girls) previously discussed this before anything was ever said to you. Then if you were texting for 'hours' - yea - she's interested. Girls don't text their buddies for 'hours'.

Gret news! Well done!

The troble with messaging her at this stage of your relationship is that you lose tone of voice and facial expression. So you might say something well intentioned that gets misunderstood and poisons your relationship.

Better to keep the messaging to a minumum. To simply arranging to the mechanics of meeting up, whilst adding the odd, highly specific and true compliment.