girlfriend doesn't get horny?!

Are you not happy with initiating sex all the time? Some people just have a lower sex drive and maybe she's the type to wait for you to initiate things with her.

Do some online research on sex. The David Shade website is an OK place to start. the gist of a lot of online advice is: make love like a lesbian. Not all the time, but a higher proportion of the time than most men.

Start trying some of the things you read about.
Adjust what you do according to what really presses your beloved's pleasure buttons.

Also, are you in good physical shape? If not exercise your body a bit more and cut down a little bit on the calories.
Do you still make the effort to dress up and groom yourself well - or have you gotten to the stage of taking her for granted?

Hi everyone,

Myself and my girlfriend (both 24) have been together around 2 and a half years. At first sex was great, was always exciting and both agreed the best we had had.

The sex topic has come up a few times, I must enforce that we are very happy together, we always laugh, joke and just have fun together, personality wise it's really great. However she recently told me she doesn't get horny, the only way she gets in the mood is from when I start trying it on with her and get her going that way.

It's quite *****y for me as she never seems to initiate anything and rarely gives me much affection when we see each other.

I don't like bringing it up with her as I'm the complete opposite and seem to always be horny. It makes her feel bad and very conscious. It's just hard for me when we've not seen each other in a week and she falls asleep at 9pm on a friday night and I'm itching.

Any similar? :/ thoughts?

My relationship was exactly the same, been together 3 years. She would never get horny, not even at the beginning. Some girls are just like that, you have to stimulate themselves to get them going which tbh isn't that hard to do so it's perfectly fine. But about her not initiating anything and not being affectionate, my girlfriend was like that too, but we talked about it and I told her that she needs to initiate things regardless of her being turned or not. We did argue at first but I think what changed it for her was when I made her realise that even if she initiates it, I would still take the lead 5 minutes later and she would become turned on too. So just suggest to you girl that she should initiate stuff to make you feel wanted etc.. and that if she just forces it herself for the first few minutes, she'll get it back and it'll end great.