Height difference when dating - does it matter?

Why is everyone assuming OP is a girl?

Everyone is giving you the optimistic, fairy land answers. This is the real answer, at first you might not mind it but once it becomes serious, people will take the piss out of it, it'll hurt both of your confidence, he'll be made out to feel like he's under your control and you'll be told your dating a little kid. People will probably say stuff like, does he need a ladder to kiss you. Do you have to sit down to kiss him..etc.

Also, once you're serious, tm. You'll realise you want more masculinity from your boyfriend, which wouldn't really work out, end of the day, the guy always likes to feel like the bigger person and the girl always wants to feel protected and small.

Why is everyone assuming OP is a girl?

As the OP is worried about height, and society tells us the girl should be shorter??

Dont try and stir something up - is everyone homophobic now?

Have you looked around TSR, kiddo? Yes, lots of people here are homophobic.

But gay dudes also worry about height a lot. Since OP hasn't posted anything about what gender they are, I'm just saying people's advice shouldn't be entirely based on 'oh obviously OP's a girl, only girls ever worry about being short, I r smart'.

That wasnt what I meant.

They may do. However it is not wrong or homophobic to assume the OP is a girl. What you want people to do? Write out every possibility there could be in their replies?

It's not, to quote you, "stirring things up" to suggest people take two seconds to think about giving advice that's not based on an assumed gender, but YDY.

Maybe if you're literally children, sure. Once you reach adulthood people cease giving a **** about that kind of thing.

Why would you care what other people think?

It's up to you. If you don't care about his height, then go ahead. If you have reservations due to his height, that's entirely reasonable, but it should be a personal decision for you.

It matters if you let it matter.

People will look but that's them, if you're both happy then it can work.

I've definitely noticed an increase in couples where the girl is taller than the guy in the past year.

perhaps times are a changing.....

Everyone is giving you the optimistic, fairy land answers. This is the real answer, at first you might not mind it but once it becomes serious, people will take the piss out of it, it'll hurt both of your confidence, he'll be made out to feel like he's under your control and you'll be told your dating a little kid. People will probably say stuff like, does he need a ladder to kiss you. Do you have to sit down to kiss him..etc.

Also, once you're serious, tm. You'll realise you want more masculinity from your boyfriend, which wouldn't really work out, end of the day, the guy always likes to feel like the bigger person and the girl always wants to feel protected and small.

It's just height, if you're both happy with eachother then it shouldn't make a difference.

I fancy a girl who's 3-4 inches taller than me but I just feel like she'd think it was weird to go out with a shorter guy . . . sounds like there may be hope . . .

Maybe if you're literally children, sure. Once you reach adulthood people cease giving a **** about that kind of thing.

you might get some looks but those who care don't matter and those who matter don't care, you decide your life, not the norms of society

Looks a bit odd but shouldn't stop you, and if it does he can't mean much

I'm 5'9". Always dated shorter guys; when you really like someone, height becomes the last thing you think about

love have no borders or walls my sister.

haha wow I was in the similar situation as yourself once, I'm 5'9 too and also dated a guy who was 5'2. despite his short stature he was almost perfect in every other way - very confident, a real gentleman, funny, treated me well, he wasn't even insecure, I mean you could tell he knew he was small but didn't let it affect him etc I was happy to date him (despite all the nasty looks and comments we got - mainly from people who knew us). in the end it just didn't work out (the height difference had nothing to do with it) and despite the fact I miss him the only thing I don't mind is the sore neck/back I always had from having to bend down to kiss him good night. you know people say things like you should always try to overlook the flaws and thats true for the most part but if its detrimental to your health then you shouldn't have to make such a sacrifice for the sake of love. in the same way that everyone defends someone for not wanting to date a morbidly obese people (yes I know that the difference is the weight can be lost!) due to the fact that said person doesn't want to have his organs damaged when squashed during sex. or just doesn't want to lose their partner early from heart disease or diabetes. fact is I'm now with a guy who treats me just as well and hes taller than me and so theres no resentment.

1st- if you're really interested in this guy then you shouldn't be scared.
2nd- all of those other people won't be in your relationship, so there thoughts don't really matter.
3rd- follow your heart and do what you think is best

really depends on your personal situation, but if your a very confident girl then this likely wont work, because lets be real you wont respect him.

A guy being 5'10 and a girl 5'2 is very different lol.

A guy being 5'2 and a girl being 5'10 is just weird loo king on the street.

But if its true love attraction can prevail far worse barriers.

Why is everyone assuming OP is a girl?

I like a friend of a friend, and I feel he may like me too. We clicked instantly when we met and playfight whenever we see each-other... but I'm 5ft 9 and he's possibly the shortest guy I've met (maybe 5ft 2 - if that). He always finds me in a crowd and I kinda want to hint he take me out some time - but I'm nervous he only considers us to be flirting for bants... because of our height gap. I can't stop thinking about him and it's driving me crazy lol. As stupid as this sounds, I'm also conscious about people talking and / or staring if we date. What's everyone's thoughts?