I don’t think it’s as simple as “born that way”. Like you said, we can control a feeling. But we can’t stop the feeling existing.
You talk like all “natural” feelings are good? There isn’t such thing as natural feeling VS wrong feeling. We don’t choose how our brains work, we do choose what we do with them. We choose our actions, not our impulses. Whether or not the feelings are approved by society doesn’t stop them from existing.
You’ve presented good and well thought out responses before so I know you’re not an idiot, but you are clearly uneducated about the psychology of paedophillia. We’re influenced by nature and nurture, but if it wasn’t “natural” this wouldn’t be such largely spread issue. If somehow people were unnaturally experiencing a feeling, how did it get in their head in the first place? Why has this happened throughout history all over the world?
You can not agree with something and also try to understand it. If we just pretend the paedophiles are people who made bad decisions, that does absolutely nothing to protect children or prevent someone for becoming a danger to society.
I’ll provide some links from a quick google if you’d like to be more educated on the issue:
https://neuroanthropology.net/2010/05/10/inside-the-mind-of-a-pedophile/amp/“There is significant evidence that indicate structural abnormalities in the brains of pedophiles (Schiffer, 2008). Abnormalities occur when the brain is developing and can be on-set through certain experiences, such as sexual abuse as a child. Abnormalities in the brains of pedophiles may result in compulsion, poor judgment, and repetitive thoughts.
These abnormalities in the brains of pedophiles are caused by early neurodevelopmental perturbations (Schiffer, 2008). The use of functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRIs) and positron emission tomography scans (PET) has revealed that the abnormalities of pedophiles exhibit appear in the frontal and central regions of the brain. In particular, there is a decreased volume of gray brain matter in the central striatum. As a result, the nucleus accumbens, orbital frontal cortex, and the cerebellum are all affected (Schiffer, 2008).”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/pedophiliahttps://theconversation.com/amp/psychology-of-a-paedophile-why-are-some-people-attracted-to-children-59991