Relationship advice

So recently i've been going out with this girl for nearly a month now, she is possibly the most kindest, loyal person there is for me and i honestly think myself of a **** for thinking this but the looks kind of get me and honestly i don't want that i want to love her like she does with me. Should i stick with her and see how it goes, wait for her to dump me or just dump her?

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Reply 1

Leslie Knope

Wait so you have a nice girl by your side and now you want to dump her? Thats out of order man

Reply 2

Realitysreflexx

move on, likely your young she will get over you, maybe quicker then you think, but if you end up liking or meeting another girl because of your lack of physical attraction and wandering eye... you could break her heart.

Reply 3

Luca Km

Original post by TheGirlFelonXxXx

Wait so you have a nice girl by your side and now you want to dump her? Thats out of order man

i completely understand your point but when you have a girlfriend everyones like who cares about looks but honestly to most people looks do matter somewhat. do i want to dump her? not necessarily

Reply 4

flabi

You can't help who you're attracted to, and if you're not really feeling it then you should break it off and not lead her on. Perhaps don't tell her it's because of the way she looks though, be a little more vague about it so she isn't self conscious

Follow your heart

Don’t hurt her. There are plenty of people who don’t have that opportunity.

Reply 7

Luca Km

Original post by flabi

yeh i see where you're coming from i am feeling it i mean tbf though i did ask her out under the influence but that aint the point is there anyway to like move past the looks?

Reply 8

Luca Km

Original post by TheAlchemistress

Don’t hurt her. There are plenty of people who don’t have that opportunity.

you're right i really shouldn't.

Reply 9

Luca Km

Original post by Realitysreflexx

i guess i mean before her i had a huge crush on someone else and i still sort of like her after she rejected me (i know it's stupid) and she asks me out and i say yes.

Reply 10

TheAlchemistress

Original post by Luca Km

you're right i really shouldn't.

Just think about her. You probably make her smile like no one else does.

Reply 11

Realitysreflexx

Original post by TheAlchemistress

Just think about her. You probably make her smile like no one else does.

i have a feeling OP is about 15 lol.

Reply 12

Leslie Knope

Original post by Luca Km

i completely understand your point but when you have a girlfriend everyones like who cares about looks but honestly to most people looks do matter somewhat. do i want to dump her? not necessarily

But if she is kind and loyal, what else do you need from a person? Looks aside, those traits in someone is the best thing ever and its hard to find someone like that

Reply 13

Luca Km

Original post by Realitysreflexx

i have a feeling OP is about 15 lol.

its student forums isn't it...

Reply 14

Luca Km

Original post by TheGirlFelonXxXx

But if she is kind and loyal, what else do you need from a person? Looks aside, those traits in someone is the best thing ever and its hard to find someone like that

you know what you're right ill see where it goes for now.

Reply 15

Luca Km

Original post by TheAlchemistress

Just think about her. You probably make her smile like no one else does.

yeh i'll try

Reply 16

Realitysreflexx

Original post by Luca Km

its student forums isn't it...

which is why you making her smile more then anyone else is a bit overkill.

if you dont like her that way its fine... but dont ignore it then hurt someone later, get a clean break.

Reply 17

flabi

Original post by Luca Km

yeh i see where you're coming from i am feeling it i mean tbf though i did ask her out under the influence but that aint the point is there anyway to like move past the looks?

I was in the same situation as you - guy with a good personality and we got along but I wasn't really attracted to him. Therefore I ended up seeing him more as a friend and we broke up. I don't want to sound shallow and I'm certainly not a 10/10 but if you're not attracted to her you can't change that, and you should probably break it up now because if you put it off it'll just be worse for both of you