So I'm seeing this guy, we've been out on 5 dates or so, some of which have been whole days sometimes and spent a fair amount of time chatting. I did see some warning signs, as in the first few times we went out he asked me about 'my number' and what sort of relationships I've had and what things I like sexually etc. But, he also said that he's always just had girls that want to hook up and not really anything meaningful lately, and that I'm different as I don't just want that. (to give some context we are both mid 20's)
He said that if he genuinely likes a girl, he will want to wait if she does.
I got that, and thought I would give him a further chance and went out with him a few more times, because I do actually think we get on well and I enjoy seeing him and spending time with him (rare for me).
But - he does still keep bringing up sex, and asking and talking to me about things I'm not comfortable with. I may sound like a prude, but I just want to be able to trust someone and get to know them for them- thats what makes me want someone, not sex. I just don't feel that strongly about it - I think its a nice by product of being with someone, but not the forefront of what I'm looking for.
He knows this - and he says he respects it and that I've told him off about it so much that in person, he doesn't try much with me. and he doesn't. physically he doesn't ever force anything.
Its more over text and phone it all starts, and I end up being uncomfortable and reverting back to my shell like state where I don't want to open up to him anymore.
He says he wants something serious like eventually to find a girlfriend, but I wonder what that means to him - someone for sex, or something more meaningful?
My question is - this guy, who is genuinely a nice guy, and doesn't try it with me in person since I said what I said, and says he will wait and isn't seeing anyone else, but still talks about it a lot and makes me feel like this - is this normal? am I overthinking this too much, or does this sound like red flags/warning signs and time to end this?
I do like him, and I just feel confused because we get on so well, asides from this aspect ....
thanks for any advice