Boyfriend mad at me for a silly reason

I shouldve also said that we are long distance for a year and we're gonna meet in a few months. And everytime we argue he says he's basically been a "virgin" and ****ed no one for the past year because he has been waiting for me. I dont know how to take this but I feel bad when he says things like this.

ok so he also uses threats of his behaviour if you break up with him. girl whether you love him or not he sounds abusive and you need to run as far away from him as possible, for your own sake please get out of this controlling unhealthy relationship.

the fact that he seems obsessed with you to the point of not respecting your boundaries when you're annoyed shows that he does not respect you.

the fact that you feel obligated to 'help' him with his abusive tendencies is another sign that this relationship is unhealthy and unbalanced and you deserve much better

good luck

Isn't this like domestic abuse or something. You should get out before this turnsinto something bigger and far worse. To the point that you wont be able to get out in future, even if you wanted.

He wasn't swearing verbally then just messages. If it's a regular thing do you think it's normal? If you swear at him still not healthy but a tad toleratable but still not a healthy relationship. Seems paranoid

Im so confused on how to feel about it You're so right but its most definitely not easy.

Is life for you, in general, better with or without him there? When do you feel more happy and less stressed/depressed etc.?
He sounds like he's trying to make you feel guilty for not being able to see him-he should be more focused and happy on seeing you and wanting to spend time with you than rather than not having sex for a while

Before it was great and I was really looking forward to being with him and whatever but now I find it to be a drag to even message him and lie about how much I love him.

he's guilting you into having sex with him, all of the behaviours you've described are textbook manipulation and I strongly urge you to break up with him as soon as possible.

I shouldve also said that we are long distance for a year and we're gonna meet in a few months. And everytime we argue he says he's basically been a "virgin" and ****ed no one for the past year because he has been waiting for me. I dont know how to take this but I feel bad when he says things like this.

this sort of situation is incredibly difficult and if you can talk to a friend or parent I would recommend it, it helps to have support and to know that someone has your back and cares about you to help you feel able to break up with him.

He is like 24 and Im a 19yr old so yeah I know what you mean, and he is always like, I just want to spend one night with you before I die thats my only wish. Pfffff okay I am but the only thing that worries me is him and his health after I leave him

Erm no one knows about this.

I take it you haven't actually met him yet then ? If that's the case I urge you to NEVER meet him. He sounds like he could be dangerous.

he should not be obsessed with you to the point of saying things like his only wish is to spend one night with you, that guilts you into staying in a relationship you are unhappy in.

for him the only hope of him becoming a better person is for him to work on it and do a bit of growing up, it is not up to you to hold his hand through making him a decent human being, that's something people have to learn for themselves, and breaking up with him could help him move on and grow in a way this relationship has not forced him to grow up.

tell a friend you trust, again it's not healthy to have to bottle all this up

Honestly, I can't. I could never.

perhaps consider speaking to a counsellor? if you're a student there should be support available at your uni for someone confidential to talk to just as it really helps to get it off your chest.

my immediate advice as you're long distance and this man seems abusive, controlling, and quite frankly dangerous, is for you to cut contact completely. tell him the relationship is not working then don't give him a chance to guilt trip, abuse, or threaten you and just block him. block his number block his social media.

I know this seems harsh but as he's threatened to react badly to any attempt to break up and has badly over reacted in the past I genuinely believe this is the only option for you to have a safe, clean break up.

good luck, I really hope things turn out well and you are able to break up with him x

I dropped a long paragraph to him as soon as I responded to this, and I shouldn't have checked it again because its been 15 minutes and he starting the emotional abuse again and isnt stopping like he is continuing right now. I feel like absolute ****.