guys why do you loose respect after sex?

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Anonymous #1

OP

Also this guy would tell me to leave his place, even though I lived on other side of city. He would laugh at me and tell me the station is not far and I can go home. this was after he pressured me into giving him HJ and BJ. I dontnundersyand why he hated me. I think all these sxx hormones have me bonded to s guy who does not want me.

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Dunnig Kruger

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Jasmin, the 2 most likely explanations are:

1. In sleeping with you he discovered something about you that would be a deal breaker for him in terms of having a longer term relationship with you. So he decided to effectively break it off with you. Impossible to say what this might have been as I'm not inside this man's head.

2. He may have been perfect on the surface: handsome, intelligent, confident, charming, but inside he's ugly. He has no inner beauty. The thing with inner beauty is that can take up to a year of living with someone to discover whether they are beautiful on the inside or not. In this case it sounds like he may have a putrid soul, and this came out after he got his wicked way with you.

You were there. I wasn't. Which of those 2 do you think is the more likely? Or is there another plausible explanation for his hot and cold behaviour?

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Original post by Dunnig Kruger

Jasmin, the 2 most likely explanations are:

1. In sleeping with you he discovered something about you that would be a deal breaker for him in terms of having a longer term relationship with you. So he decided to effectively break it off with you. Impossible to say what this might have been as I'm not inside this man's head.

2. He may have been perfect on the surface: handsome, intelligent, confident, charming, but inside he's ugly. He has no inner beauty. The thing with inner beauty is that can take up to a year of living with someone to discover whether they are beautiful on the inside or not. In this case it sounds like he may have a putrid soul, and this came out after he got his wicked way with you.

You were there. I wasn't. Which of those 2 do you think is the more likely? Or is there another plausible explanation for his hot and cold behaviour?

definately the 2nd, he seemed to be really enjoying himself though in the beginning, like it was just physical but then after a month he made an excuse and said he was moving, classic. i saw him every other month or so I would see him and I would book the hotel. he is really evil inside but I am hooked to him. he takes risks not wanting to use protection and I buy the condoms. once he said if I got pregnant I had to deal with it on my own and then ignores me for 4 months. he doesn't even talk when we meet. it's just sex which is not even great anymore as he is less affectionate and only gets himself off and wants me to leave so he can meet someone else in the hotel I have booked for him! he makes me feel worthless I don't understand what kind of person he is.

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Anonymous #5

You're inexperienced with men
Unfortunately your first experience is with a piece of ****
Don't question what's wrong with you, it's him
Lesson: some people are just scum. It's hard to understand, but you will realise more when you meet new, nicer people.

Start talking to other people. You will become as infactuated with them as you are with that scumbag. Good luck girl

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Anonymous #6

Not to be rude or anything but you sound unhinged, you met a guy online and you met up for sex obviously it's a hookup, plus if you want a guy to have respect for you after sex, you have to give him a reason for liking you other than sex i.e share common interest etc.

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Bang Outta Order

Original post by Anonymous

I've was speaking to a guy I met online, he was perfect, smart good looking and we had been calling and texting a few weeks.

We finallymet and I thought he was acting a bit serious and I couldn't read him. seemed like he didn't want to be in a coffee shop.

Eventually we went to his place, I realised he was alot more attractive in real life and he made a move and we almost slept together.

We slept together whenI went to his place the next day again.

he quickly became distant and started talking to me disrespectfully and being rude. he isn't usually like that.

I continued seeing him and carrying on this routine even though he was acting like a prick. I was in love with him. he was soo good looking, very smart and simple guy, he was reallynconfident too but he has a superiority complex.

I am so hung up on him but he is really bad for me.

Original post by Kanairee

This guy sounds really toxic. I know how hard it can be to break things off with someone who you love

lmao love? She said they only texted a few WEEKS. How does she love him?? And how can he possibly love her, they only knew each other for a short time and never met. And the first day they did she slept with him...

This post is sexist and reflects the problem in society now and why there are so many single parent homes. Stop sleeping with someone you just met unless you're a pornstar who's legendary enough in bed to make a stranger fall in love with you. For people to call him a prick or to coddle the OP is absurd.

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Bang Outta Order

Original post by Anonymous

Not to be rude or anything but you sound unhinged, you met a guy online and you met up for sex obviously it's a hookup, plus if you want a guy to have respect for you after sex, you have to give him a reason for liking you other than sex i.e share common interest etc.

YES. Come out anon you are absolutely right, there is nothing to be afraid of! Is this what this website is? A place that clearly gives the tolerant left wing a platform yet posters are too scared to openly defend their beliefs? Why is that tsr? I thought tsr was a tolerant place.

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Kanairee

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Original post by Bang Outta Order

lmao love? She said they only texted a few WEEKS. How does she love him?? And how can he possibly love her, they only knew each other for a short time and never met. And the first day they did she slept with him...

This post is sexist and reflects the problem in society now and why there are so many single parent homes. Stop sleeping with someone you just met unless you're a pornstar who's legendary enough in bed to make a stranger fall in love with you. For people to call him a prick or to coddle the OP is absurd.

With all due respect it was OP's first experience with a guy and it's a known thing that some people tend to invest an awful lot in someone after thier first time with them. It may not be love but it's certainly infatuation and these feelings can be very strong, and it stands to reason they'd provoke a strong response. People are perfectly free to sleep with someone they've just met if they choose to, provided they're happy to deal with the consequences. What this thread is, essentially, is OP asking for advice on how to deal with those consequences considering this is the first time they have had to. It's not about coddling anyone, it's about being supportive

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username3482522

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Original post by Bang Outta Order

For people to call him a prick or to coddle the OP is absurd.

He is a prick (have you even read through her posts? Yes, at times, she does sound like an unreliable narator but there are things she says, without a doubt, point towards the conclusion that he is, in fact, a prick) but she's, to put it softly, a 'child'. She doesn't have any self-respect (I don't mean having sex on the first date) for herself, a lot of insecurity and poor relationship skills.

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Bang Outta Order

I am entitled to my opinion.

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Anonymous #7

Sounds like he just wanted to get you in bed, if he is as you describe him then he probably has a million of you lined up waiting to be with him, which is why he does not value you because he knows one you lose interest he can very easily get another willing person into bed. Just my opinion. You have to decide if yo want to continue seeing him though i would not advise it.

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username3095760

It looks like he used you for sex

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username2337287

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Online relationships have one end goal, sexual relationship. If you seriously have respect for yourself,have the courtesy and find someone you know the old fasioned way, take the effort to get to know someone. Simply do not use technology or "dating apps" which wrongly lable indvidiuals, categorising them into groups. People are not labels, or categories, they have unique personalities, which takes time to know. An app can not infer or explore these traits! Moreover, it would be ironic if a male wrote a post regarding women.

There is an inherent sexism against men across TSR, it would be appreciated if female thread starters that intentionally attempt to stur up controversy, should first consider a male writing a simialr post, emphasising the other perspective. This is a false generalisation, not backed up with any evidence at all, just petty anecdotes. In addition to this, you need to recognise that as our moral values and perception towards society changes, so should your views (Not obligatory), but you need to understand that it is cardinal to realise that making posts like this comes at a consequence; sexism for both genders is now considered offensive, before it may have been allowed to make sexist generalisations against men, but men too face pathetic discrimination.

Moreover, it is your responsibility to decide whether you wanted to be with this man, or share your body with him. You had the power to decide, and therefore you are fully entitled to your mistake, not him. He didn't use you, he simply exploited your idiotic weakness and naiviety, which you presented, and you showed no resistance too.

What is the meaning of this thread, since the sole reason why this scenario occured was because of your negligence and so he is not to blame, you just want attention and attempting to convey your regret onto him.

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storm95

Seems like he doesn’t want a relationship he just wants you to be available for sex and that’s it. Not all of us are like that, just move on.

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