I love my boyfriend and someone else..

only read the title. im gonna point the obvious op you're a slut

Hey, I will probably sound like an awful person for asking about this but I really just don’t know what to do..

My boyfriend and I met at college half a year ago where we are still studying together. He is one of my best friends and I care for him dearly. I don’t think I have ever met anyone sweeter, and he cares about me so much which makes this all so much worse.

But I also have a best friend let’s call him “Daniel” that I’ve known for over three years now who I’ve always had feelings for but never felt “ready” enough to act on them. I know that he feels the same way because at the start of our friendship he asked me out I just didn’t feel comfortable enough yet. We get along perfectly and we couldn’t be more similar. We have the exact same sense of humour and we are never not having a great time together. We have a flirtyish relationship but we have never been physical or acted on it. But recently our friendship has become more intense and we see each other more often, and the feelings are becoming impossible to deny. It’s not like Daniel is more attractive psychically than my boyfriend or anything so it’s not even a lustful attraction.

The feelings I have towards my boyfriend and Daniel though are so different. It feels like me and my boyfriend have been married for 10 years. I never felt “butterflies” around him really, even at the start but I do care for him dearly and love him and can’t imagine my life without him. But with Daniel it’s always been exciting. My boyfriend couldn’t be more loving and kind though, there is nothing wrong with him, he’s perfect, and there’s nothing wrong with our relationship, maybe just something wrong with me. I feel like whoever I chose I will regret. I’ll never meet a guy as kind as my boyfriend but I’ll never meet someone as similar as Daniel. I’m 20 by the way so I’m not really young and over exaggerating the situation. I just don’t know what to do. Daniel won’t be around forever and I feel like I’ll regret it forever if I let him go, but cheating just isn’t an option obviously. I’m not even sure if I could be sexual with Daniel so it could end up being such a regret leaving my boyfriend for something I’m not certain about. He loves me so much and I feel so awful for even having feelings about someone else.

I was thinking about going on a break with my boyfriend but I’m sure that’s fair on him and I’m not even sure about my reasons for going on a break..

Not sure what I’m even asking now, I just need advise...and ideally not advise that feels me in an awful person because I always feel bad about it.

Hey, I will probably sound like an awful person for asking about this but I really just don’t know what to do..

My boyfriend and I met at college half a year ago where we are still studying together. He is one of my best friends and I care for him dearly. I don’t think I have ever met anyone sweeter, and he cares about me so much which makes this all so much worse.

But I also have a best friend let’s call him “Daniel” that I’ve known for over three years now who I’ve always had feelings for but never felt “ready” enough to act on them. I know that he feels the same way because at the start of our friendship he asked me out I just didn’t feel comfortable enough yet. We get along perfectly and we couldn’t be more similar. We have the exact same sense of humour and we are never not having a great time together. We have a flirtyish relationship but we have never been physical or acted on it. But recently our friendship has become more intense and we see each other more often, and the feelings are becoming impossible to deny. It’s not like Daniel is more attractive psychically than my boyfriend or anything so it’s not even a lustful attraction.

The feelings I have towards my boyfriend and Daniel though are so different. It feels like me and my boyfriend have been married for 10 years. I never felt “butterflies” around him really, even at the start but I do care for him dearly and love him and can’t imagine my life without him. But with Daniel it’s always been exciting. My boyfriend couldn’t be more loving and kind though, there is nothing wrong with him, he’s perfect, and there’s nothing wrong with our relationship, maybe just something wrong with me. I feel like whoever I chose I will regret. I’ll never meet a guy as kind as my boyfriend but I’ll never meet someone as similar as Daniel. I’m 20 by the way so I’m not really young and over exaggerating the situation. I just don’t know what to do. Daniel won’t be around forever and I feel like I’ll regret it forever if I let him go, but cheating just isn’t an option obviously. I’m not even sure if I could be sexual with Daniel so it could end up being such a regret leaving my boyfriend for something I’m not certain about. He loves me so much and I feel so awful for even having feelings about someone else.

I was thinking about going on a break with my boyfriend but I’m sure that’s fair on him and I’m not even sure about my reasons for going on a break..

Not sure what I’m even asking now, I just need advise...and ideally not advise that feels me in an awful person because I always feel bad about it.

It would be really *****y of you to dump your lovely boyfriend to go out with a friend who he trusted you to be around with. Do you realize the heartbreak & long-term trust issues that you will cause the poor guy?

My vote: Leave your boyfriend and go out with neither guy (for a long time). Clearly your current relationship lacks more genuine fundamental chemistry (and that isn't going to change). But you likewise shouldn't leave someone just so that you can immediately get with someone else. Only after you have separated from your boyfriend (and actually separated, not just some lame-ass "break"!) for at least a couple of months should you start dating again and considering this friend as an actual relationship option.

If I was single and a guy I liked suddenly dumped his girlfriend to be with me, as much as I liked him, I would no longer respect him as much (for doing that to his girlfriend). Such behaviour is very duplicitous and scheming (infidelity of the heart beginning long before the actual break up) and I just couldn't trust someone like that.
Every relationship goes through trials and tribulations, and the last thing you want to worry about during such times is that you've signed up to being in a committed relationship with, if someone who has been known to jump ship whenever they see a better deal!

Leave your boyfriend not because your heart is straying, but because its not right to keep on kidding yourself and himself that you're genuinely interested in being with him long-term. You're duping the guy. At the very least your "lovely" boyfriend deserves to have the chance to go off and find someone who will love him as much as you do your friend (does he not deserve that?).

This is what happened to me at University. Ex gf cheated on me with my best friend.

It'l give him a dose of realism that most people are ***** lmao. It's good if OP dumps her boyfriend cus she's not good for him. People with good morals need to stick together and people with bad morals need to find each other and leave the rest of us in peace lol.

This is what happened to me at University. Ex gf cheated on me with my best friend.

It'l give him a dose of realism that most people are ***** lmao. It's good if OP dumps her boyfriend cus she's not good for him. People with good morals need to stick together and people with bad morals need to find each other and leave the rest of us in peace lol.

Hey, I will probably sound like an awful person for asking about this but I really just don’t know what to do..

My boyfriend and I met at college half a year ago where we are still studying together. He is one of my best friends and I care for him dearly. I don’t think I have ever met anyone sweeter, and he cares about me so much which makes this all so much worse.

But I also have a best friend let’s call him “Daniel” that I’ve known for over three years now who I’ve always had feelings for but never felt “ready” enough to act on them. I know that he feels the same way because at the start of our friendship he asked me out I just didn’t feel comfortable enough yet. We get along perfectly and we couldn’t be more similar. We have the exact same sense of humour and we are never not having a great time together. We have a flirtyish relationship but we have never been physical or acted on it. But recently our friendship has become more intense and we see each other more often, and the feelings are becoming impossible to deny. It’s not like Daniel is more attractive psychically than my boyfriend or anything so it’s not even a lustful attraction.

The feelings I have towards my boyfriend and Daniel though are so different. It feels like me and my boyfriend have been married for 10 years. I never felt “butterflies” around him really, even at the start but I do care for him dearly and love him and can’t imagine my life without him. But with Daniel it’s always been exciting. My boyfriend couldn’t be more loving and kind though, there is nothing wrong with him, he’s perfect, and there’s nothing wrong with our relationship, maybe just something wrong with me. I feel like whoever I chose I will regret. I’ll never meet a guy as kind as my boyfriend but I’ll never meet someone as similar as Daniel. I’m 20 by the way so I’m not really young and over exaggerating the situation. I just don’t know what to do. Daniel won’t be around forever and I feel like I’ll regret it forever if I let him go, but cheating just isn’t an option obviously. I’m not even sure if I could be sexual with Daniel so it could end up being such a regret leaving my boyfriend for something I’m not certain about. He loves me so much and I feel so awful for even having feelings about someone else.

I was thinking about going on a break with my boyfriend but I’m sure that’s fair on him and I’m not even sure about my reasons for going on a break..

Not sure what I’m even asking now, I just need advise...and ideally not advise that feels me in an awful person because I always feel bad about it.

People would be happier if they only kept friends of the same gender as themselves.

Avoid temptation, if you want to marry and have kids (which is the ultimate goal of most women) pick the one you love the most who you'd be most compatible with. Avoid all other men.

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