why can’t you always get over your fears

Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.

But what happens if you face your fear over and over and something bad happens every time and it compounds and gets worse

say you’re scared of public speaking and when you do it you might turn a bit red. so you face the fear more and you still turn a bit red. but now when you speak up you expect to turn red like you did the last time 20x you ‘faced your fears’ and spoke up

so what happens now I faced it over and over assuming I’d be fine speaking up but now I feel worse cos might turn red has gone to will turn red

Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.

But what happens if you face your fear over and over and something bad happens every time and it compounds and gets worse

say you’re scared of public speaking and when you do it you might turn a bit red. so you face the fear more and you still turn a bit red. but now when you speak up you expect to turn red like you did the last time 20x you ‘faced your fears’ and spoke up

so what happens now I faced it over and over assuming I’d be fine speaking up but now I feel worse cos might turn red has gone to will turn red

'Picked on' is an interesting choice of phrase. If you try to see being wrong as a necessary elementary step to being right, then it loses its power over you. Nobody ever got anywhere of note without being mistaken a few times.

I have done drama last year as a GCSE so I thought I would not be nervous when it comes to speaking in front of the class, but I just got even more nervous

That's unusual. I spent my undergrad degree avoiding doing presentations etc, then I got a teaching job and sort of had to do it. It really was one of those where having to do it killed off the nerves, it doesn't bather me at all these days.

hard as it might be, maybe you could benefit from putting yourself into positions where you need to speak in front of people?

Well I'm planning to do an apprenticeship in Forensic Science because I want to be a Crime Scene Investigator but I'm worked that maybe I have to present things in a room full of people.

I think that it is a given that you will. You just need to find some sort of coping strategy until it gets to a point where you have built a little confidence. Confidence is the key here, I think!

Have a bit of whisky beforehand.

My face gets red and hot when I do public speaking... my voice shakes up a bit sometimes. But I laugh it off and keep speaking.
I´ve taught a couple classes at uni and had some pretty embarrassing moments, but I laughed it off and kept going. We all have fears and get nervous some times, so if you´re worried about other people´s reactions, don´t. They most likely have been through it as well.

Ps. If you´re shy about public speaking or interviews, go into the bathroom and jump or do a little dance minutes before starting. I swear it helps.