Is anyone else not bothered by cat calling?

Ive been to bars and I definitely didnt see that, I guess it was because it wasn't packed.
I've also been to one club in central London and again, dint see that either. I saw girls, my age sitting down. People older were standing up dancing though

I am not saying it doesn't happen, it just doesnt really happen often.

Got to disagree with “it doesn’t really happen often”, within the first 10-30mins of being in a bar i’ll be approached, first minute of dancing in a club I get approached. Me and my friends do bets on who can pull first and we’re all relatively successful. The drinking scene is basically a hook up destination.

No, the guy that approached me in the library wasnt after sex. It was the one that approached me in the computer shop.
No, bars are pointless a smost guys would be drunk whilst approaching. Internet dating is also not that good

Depends on what is classed as catcalling! I checked out good old urban dictionary, which lines up with what I would class as catcalling. A lot of people seem to think kind compliments are catcalling which, in my opinion, isn’t a catcall.

most women who have come up to me in such venue's have not been drunk, therefore it is logical to expect that most men coming up to women will also not be drunk


Internet dating is good for women, but thing is you will need to weed through the players and ****boys before finding a decent guy

The same goes for guys approaching you in public places like computer shop or the street, you will still get guys wanting just sex and will have to sift through them [as you have already found out]

for a girl meeting a guy through friends/family/work is more ideal because most guys will not mess women around [pump and dump] if he is within her network

Because a girl might have first experienced this as a schoolgirl from grown men and feels threatened by catcalling as a result. Just because one does not understand something, doesn’t mean it’s not accurate/true. Your attitude is exactly why men do it - they think it’s a compliment but it’s not to every to woman. And that’s ok, and so they should just keep their mouths shut.

No I understand. I've never catcalled anyone anyway - only complimented a girl on her looks after conversing beforehand.

Then why did you say you don't understand, I'm a bit confused?

And good for you, encourage all your mates to do likewise

What about if guy calls you beautiful/stunning/gorgeous? Is it still bad to compliment a girl saying stuff like that?

For most in most situations probably not, but why do you feel the need to compliment a girl anyway? What do you gain from it?

Have you ever been nice to someone?

What do you gain from it? Do you thinking 'complementing' random people is "nice"? How?

I quite like that guys go out of their way to compliment. Girls don't do it to guys as much. I personally can't imagine having the balls to cat call a guy but I don't think it would be a horrible thing to do.

You'd be surprised. I've had it a lot throughout my life, admittedly not so much nowadays because I'm 28 now and girls my age are mature, but when I was a bit younger and especially when I was at college, it was an almost daily occurrence. Girls tend to get really ballsy when they're in groups, but if you approached them when they're on their own they'd get all shy. Girls are just as bad as guys or sometimes worse for it when they're with their friends.

I'm not even a boy?
But I often compliment other girls on their makeup or outfit or tell them I think they're pretty. Sometimes you just can't help it and want to let them know. It's a minor thing for me to do but it can make the other person's day. I'm not trying to gain anything.

I don't tend to compliment boys randomly as much just because I don't want to give them the wrong impression and lead them on. But if a guy's got a cool t shirt or pair of trainers then I'm probably going to mention it.

I think it's nice to compliment people. You don't necessarily have to gain anything from it.

Often, you will also see these men get upset/annoyed if the woman doesn't acknowledge them. Hence I ask, why do it? For so many men it's because they want a reaction from the woman. To be so ever thankful that they bothered to compliment her.

Well then there's no problem. However as a man, why would you say anything about the appearance of a woman you don't know?