Should I out her on facebook?

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Move on...get an std check if you haven't already and forget her.

She aint responding to you, so take the hint.

Best revenge is to forget her and ignore her if she gets in touch.

Reply 41

ZachDalt

Yes you should, not only is it retribution for yourself, you're also potentially saving another man that could fall for her and ending up being hurt also!

Reply 42

999tigger

Original post by Forestieri

Lol you are a moron. I'm a nasty piece of work?? Consider everything she has done to me for one ****ing moment. Right now I couldn't give two shits about how she might feel...because she has sold me out and destroyed me for dirty money. Where was her thought for me when she had the postman in our bed, where was her thought for me when was sucking bare cocks and putting my health at risk, where was her thought for me when she sold me out and ditched me without any reason just so she could go and whore herself to the dirty perverts who use such services.

As I said you are behaving like a child. Grow up and move on. You run the risk of eventually falling foul of harassment laws and then you can have a criminal record for your troubles.

Reply 43

sn0per

You said you wanted impartial advice, but you are not listening to any of it so what is the point? Everytime someone has commented to tell you the opposite of what you want to hear (not to post and just move on), you shoot them down. We are giving mature answers as we are not clouded by anger and a thirst for revenge like you are. You're being rude to everyone that tells you not to do it, which means you clearly posted on here for the validation and not because you genuinely wanted advice.

Reply 44

Forestieri

Original post by Good bloke

No it isn't. I suspect many of your friends and acquaintances are not yet aware of how vengeful and untrustworthy you are.

Untrustworthy? With respect, this isn't an innocent little secret that I have promised to keep. This is my girlfriend of 3 years, shagging men in my bed whilst I am out, ditching me without reason and right now being in a hotel or house having sex with random perverts for £50 a pop, all the while laughing down the phone at me with her friends about how I am a poor student. **** her secret, I have no obligation to keep her dirty little secret shut away, especially when it has been at my expense.

Reply 45

Forestieri

Original post by ZachDalt

Yes you should, not only is it retribution for yourself, you're also potentially saving another man that could fall for her and ending up being hurt also!

That is my thinking. If another man falls for her, at least if people know then somebody could warn the guy before he falls into her trap.

Reply 46

CookieButter

Don’t do it out of a sense of revenge or anger. You will wind up hurting yourself.

I agree with you. It is important for you to expose this person because she will most likely abuse and exploit other people the same way she has you....but you need to do this in a controlled calm fashion.

Reply 47

Good bloke

Original post by Forestieri

Untrustworthy?

If you don't think this action will show you as vengeful and untrustworthy then I suggest you do it and find out. All the best lessons are learned from making mistakes, after all.

Most sensible people try to make sure those mistakes are the ones made by other people but you don't have to follow the crowd.

Reply 48

Forestieri

Original post by cat_mac

Malicious, petty revenge.
What happened to you was horrible, but two wrongs don’t make a right. She ruined what you saw as a good relationship, this could ruin her life. All this can harm for you is your past, posting something like you plan to can ruin her future. Not justified at all, if you post it then I hope you can live with the consequences.

After everything she has done to me, leading me on for 3 years and meanwhile screwing me over behind my back before dropping me like I don't even exist, I really couldn't give a damn about her future.

Reply 49

Forestieri

Original post by CookieButter

How would you recommend?

Reply 50

cat_mac

Original post by Forestieri

Then you must never have had any care for her in the first place. No matter what someone did to me, I would never actively attempt to ruin their life. I would never do something to jeopardise the future of someone who I spent 3 years loving. Especially nothing as petty as trying to “out” them on social media, it’s extremely childish.

Reply 51

ZachDalt

Original post by Forestieri

That is my thinking. If another man falls for her, at least if people know then somebody could warn the guy before he falls into her trap.

She wasted 3 years of your life, even for revenge purposes alone it shouldn't be frowned upon, but the fact that you'll be helping others too, you should definitely go for it

Reply 52

uberteknik

Original post by D3LLI5

Holding him responsible for harassment that stems from people knowing the truth about her is absurd

The difference is the OP wants this to be publicised as much as possible to cause personal maximum damage.

This is akin to revenge porn - it's designed to destroy her character, humiliate her, and ostracise her from her friends, family, employment and any future relationships. He wants to inflict maximum pain.

The OP won't have to harass her himself, if it goes viral, then thousands of others will pour hate mail on her, most likely threaten to rape and kill her. This is the kind of thing that ends in suicide.

Think that can't happen? think again.

Once posted, it cannot be retracted and the whole sorry saga can spiral rapidly out of control. That's the risk.

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 53

Andrew97

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No, all you’ll do is provide her with free advertising.

Reply 54

Forestieri

I know people are saying I am not thinking rationally and I am being led by anger and vengance. It's true to some extent i suppose.

You just have no idea how it feels. I am sitting in my room right now, reminiscing over how beautiful things were, and the life we were going to have. Right this moment, the dearest person I have ever loved, the one I poured my heart and soul into and who i have loved with every inch of myself...is sitting in a room with a dirty pervert having his hands all over her like she is an object for mens sexual gratification, and she has ditched me and everything we were to do it, forgetting I ever existed. Meanwhile I am thinking about all the times I came home and gave her a peck on the cheek and laid in bed cuddling her at night, unknowing that just before, some dirty old man had been roaring her up and the mouth I was kissing had some dirty ****ers bare **** in it.

Yes, I am very emotionally ****ing charged. I have been contemplating suicide ffs, so all the whines of how she could feel and how it could affect her...I really couldn't give a damn right now.

Reply 55

CookieButter

Original post by Forestieri

How would you recommend?

i think it’s important for you to cut all ties with her. The longer you keep trying to contact her the weaker your case against her. She can use this against you. If your intentions are to warn people about her then make sure whatever you do you make it clear that that is your intention not revenge. Don’t even mention revenge. Tell the story, what she did and make it about how it has effected you and how you don’t want it to happen to anyone else. Be polite. Be respectful.

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 56

999tigger

Original post by D3LLI5

He has evidence so it’s not libel. A single post is not harassment. Exposing the truth is not abuse.

Except you dont know what else he has done. He may already have broken harassment laws if the tone of his posts are anything to go by.

Reply 57

Forestieri

One more thing that I haven't mentioned yet.
She actually did something very similar to me before. On freshers week, she was obsessed and sure that I was cheating on her and shared a post basically calling me a cheating dog. She removee it quite quickly before many could see it but it showe if she were in this position then she would do it.

Reply 58

sn0per

Original post by Forestieri

I know you're hurt, and I really am sad for you. Forget her, and think about yourself. Just try to think without emotions for a second - what will happen to you if you post it? Will anything positive happen? Will you be revered by your friends and/or family for exposing her? Or will you just be seen as a nasty, immature ex who is trying to ruin her, out of anger?
If you post it and it ruins her life, you will feel proud for a moment. You'll feel great because you got your revenge. But then you'll probably have criminal consequences. How will you feel then?
I know it's hard, but you gotta delete the draft and make an effort to try and move on. It obviously won't happen straight away, you were with her for 3 years. Talk to a friend or a counsellor.
You'll probably ruin her life if you expose her, which means you'll also ruin yours, too.

Reply 59

Going Back

Move on. Bad situation for you, yes. But consider what might have happened earlier in this woman's life to cause this behaviour. People don't usually prostitute themselves for fun. It's a vile and dangerous life. I can see why you take it personally, but it almost certainly wasn't about you at all. As painful as that may be, the healthiest thing you can do is leave it and move on. Otherwise you are letting it control you, not taking back control.