Personality means nothing for attraction, only appearance matters - PROOF

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As someone's already pointed out, reality TV is very scripted and only shows cuts that appeal to the brainless audience its supposed to attract. Adding in cliches and creating drama is what the show is supposed to do. You also have to realise the type of people who actually take part in this sort of show in the first people.

Reality TV is far from reality, or at least you'd have to search for that sort of person to come across it in real life.

Appearance does matter, and I do think ive seen more ugly guys with hot girls than vice versa. Ugly women definitely have it harder.

I do agree though in a sense that personality hardly means much to women. Most women pretend to care but really theyd settle for someone a bit boring but looks good

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username1339858_

Original post by Quaviousthe2nd

But that sort of extremity isnt really hugely common, most women would be able to compromise if theyve got an okay personality

Faced with two options
a) absolutely awesome personality and okay looks.
b) absolutely attractive and okay personality.
I would go for a. Not b. Can't speak for wveryone though,

Reply 42

username1339858_

That would be some terrible duo :rofl:

Reply 43

Quaviousthe2nd

Fair enough, OP is a bit ridiculous anyway, men are far more shallow than women

Reply 44

JDieMstr

Eh, the way I see it, the golden ratio of good personality to good looks would be something like 40:60 (especially for our age range).

I think it would lean more towards personality as you grow older (50:50 after 25, then probably 60:40 at 30s) and you start caring about other things over attraction e.g. job/income, life values, convenience etc.

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 45

cat_mac

Original post by RockyDennis

Thanks this is very helpful.

It's a shame that women are so much more shallow than men. I think most men can fall in love with personality...

Okay I admit that PERSONALLY I can't, because I physically cannot get hard for average girls. But that's something I have NO control over so I don't think I can be blamed for this (even with Cialis or Viagra).

MOST guys though, you'll see in the show, don't care so much about the way the girl looks.

So you’re allowed to not be attracted to an average girl, but girls are supposed to grit their teeth and bare it with guys they aren’t attracted to? That’s some top quality bs right there. If you aren’t physically attracted to someone then why should you have to pity date them because “he’s sooo nice and really likes you!!!”.

Also you repeatedly call yourself severely deformed when from your pictures you are clearly not deformed. You’re either begging for affirmation and the approval of others or are using someone else’s pictures. Both options are pathetic and annoying, two qualities that probably contribute to girls wanting nowt to do with you.

Reply 46

Notoriety

Also the fact he's a manlet with tiny testes can't help.

Reply 47

RockyDennis

Original post by cat_mac

Lmfao I didn't say you have to go for ugly guys, just thought I might catch flak for saying I can't sleep with average girls. I've tried a few times but yeah I just literally can't unfortunately. Give me an overdose of Viagra and Cialis and it still won't work with them.

I can only get (and stay) hard with really hot girls.

Almost every girl I sleep with wants to get into a relationship with me, so the evidence is very clear that my personality is bangin' :smile:

Reply 48

cat_mac

As a person with body dysmorphia, posting selfies and asking for rates from extremely attractive girls because that’s all he’ll date isn’t a trait. I think it’s why his posts grate me so much, he just wants people to say he’s 10/10 and can date supermodels and he gets it by pretending he thinks he’s deformed. Trust me, when you have BDD looking in mirrors is hard so taking pictures and looking to date 9/10’s is not on the menu...

Tbf I think i’m too radge to see past what’s annoying me. He’s clearly got something going on to be posting like this.

Reply 49

cat_mac

Original post by RockyDennis

Huge double standard from you. So these girls see the person from dating in the dark, they aren’t attracted to them so “personality means NOTHING” and “appearance is everything” but when you see someone you aren’t attracted to it’s just a matter of you aren’t physically attracted to them? It’s the same thing mate.

Your personality clearly isn’t that bangin’ by the way you incessantly beg for compliments on here. You clearly think you’re something special so maybe go actually use that to find someone instead of banging on about what a tragic life you have on here.

Reply 50

RockyDennis

Original post by cat_mac

I don't have BDD. I am just LEGITIMATELY hideously ugly some days, and good on others. I swear to god.

It's not psychological or in my head. If I go out on nights when I look good I'll get hit on, if I go out on nights when I'm looking "off" literally nobody will be interested in me and I'll practically be invisible. So I think it's literally a real thing that my face magically changes day to day.

I didn't say you have to like ugly men lmfaoooo.

Reply 51

cat_mac

Original post by RockyDennis

That’s physically impossible, but you do you.

Your OP strongly suggests that you think women should be attracted to ugly men if they have a good personality. If that’s not your opinion then you have a strange way of showing it, in a thread called “personality means nothing for attraction, only appearance matters” when in the real world it’s a combination of the two. Only having personality isn’t enough, only having looks isn’t enough. For a real relationship you have to be attracted to who they are as well as what they look like.

Reply 52

username3025040

Original post by RockyDennis

Dude you literally just admitted my appearance is severely lacking.

Women only sometimes like me because they're into butterfaces.

This has nothing to do with me though, I just found this show for the first time and it is very eye-opening.

You said you were d e f o r m e d :facepalm:

Reply 53

danixoxno1o-d

Original post by RockyDennis

Just watch "Dating in the Dark". A show where people "date" in pitch black and decide whether they like each other. Then if they do, their looks are finally revealed to each other.

The men (much less shallow) are more often willing to date the slightly less physically fortunate women.

But for the women there is NO compromise. Look good or go home. Personality means NOTHING. You can have the most amazing connection with a girl, but all their brains are wired to think about is your looks, and to an extent how popular/famous you are. They instantly reject men they had amazing connections with because he was ginger, or bald, or looked like Bob the Builder.

I believe this proves that for men, appearance is everything.

I understand where your are coming from however its a bit unfair to group all women together. Looks are the thing that attarcts you to a person, so therefore it does impact the level of attraction. However I've found that sometimes when people aren't my "type" but are midly alright looking and are good in conversationalist and funny then I find myself attractive.

But like I said before it is a good idea to find the person you're with just a tad good looking.

Reply 54

danixoxno1o-d

A bit blunt... but very true.

Reply 55

RockyDennis

Original post by orderofthelotus

You said you were d e f o r m e d :facepalm:

Who cares whether I'm literally deformed or just a 4/10, either way I'm ugly as you've confirmed - and in a picture I feel represents me on a day when I look okay, so I'm way uglier than even that on some days like today.

If you're even slightly ugly you might as well have a severe deformity it makes literally no difference whether you're a 4 or a 0, so I just use the term "deformed" interchangably.

But roids are my salvation. With roids there are two options: They make you look good, or they kill you. Both of these options are more acceptable than being ugly. If there was literally a crystal ball that told me my future and said "you will always be ugly" I would commit suicide instantly. Life as an ugly person is completely unacceptable to me, I would rather be dead than ugly.

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 56

gjd800

Original post by Notoriety

It's nowt to do with personality or beauty. Lasses just don't wanna shag a lad who's liable to steal her make-up.

Hahaha

Reply 57

It's****ingWOODY

The types of girls to go on reality shows to find a date are bound to be shallow.

Reply 58

cat_mac

Original post by RockyDennis

I’m pretty sure people with actual physical deformities don’t appreciate you falsely labelling yourself as deformed because you’ve got low self esteem. You’ve got no clue of the struggles they go through. It’s like spraining your ankle and telling everyone you’re an amputee.