Ahmadiyya question [discussion moved]

My friend told me today that she was an ahmadiyya. Her mum was a sunni but she converted to ahmadiyya and her dad was a born one. She told me something about how her dad said she can only marry someone they choose for her and they have to be from that sector (ahmadiyya). However, the problem is she told me that she doesnt want to do that because she herself only is not that strict of a muslim so she knows marrying someone from that sector she will be restricted and the lifestyle will be different.

So she decided that she would rather not get married at all? I dont know what to advice her. She said she can only marry a converted ahmadiyya if they been converted for 3yrs+ (apparently thats their rule)? I dont know if she likes arranged marriage?

My friend told me today that she was an ahmadiyya. Her mum was a sunni but she converted to ahmadiyya and her dad was a born one. She told me something about how her dad said she can only marry someone they choose for her and they have to be from that sector (ahmadiyya). However, the problem is she told me that she doesnt want to do that because she herself only is not that strict of a muslim so she knows marrying someone from that sector she will be restricted and the lifestyle will be different.

So she decided that she would rather not get married at all? I dont know what to advice her. She said she can only marry a converted ahmadiyya if they been converted for 3yrs+ (apparently thats their rule)? I dont know if she likes arranged marriage?

It is advised she looks into orthodox Islam as understood by those who first believed in and propagated it. Whether she is religious or not, we will all be raised on the Day of Judgement and judged by our deeds and beliefs; using "I didn't know (what was correct)" will not be a valid excuse for shortcomings if one had the capacity and opportunity to reflect and learn.

This said, her parents are arguably not Muslim (as per mainstream belief) or at the very least astray and therefore they have no right in deciding who she marries.

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I wish I could give you advice on this but I’m not sure myself. I would suggest her to ask someone more knowledgeable insha’Allah. Is she an ahmadiyyah herself? She should do her research insha’Allah and see what Islam is first.

They are muslims, her mum wears a hijab and both parents are on their deen and so is her whole family even extended. She herself is religious (well shes trying strengthen her beliefs). For her it doesnt matter what type of muslim they are but she did all her research to confirm and apparently its the part of the rule that it is prohibited for an ahmadiyya woman to marry a non ahmaddiyya man (she told me to read the last paragraph)

She told me because of this reason she doesnt want to get married at all because she can see herself not get along with a guy they choose.

We get told off by CT for saying this bluntly, but for the sake of clarifying my advice:

If they say they are Ahmadiyyah, then we presume them to be non-Muslim - even if they fast like us, pray like us, dress like us, speak like us - the consensus of scholars representing over 99% of Muslims agree on this; only Ahmadiyyah believe they are Muslims. The Muslims reject them due to them believing in another prophet after Muhammad (SAW), and they go against consensus in many things.

So what I am trying to say is that if she claims she is Muslim without believing in Ahmadi beliefs, then her parents have no rights over who she marries, nor are Ahmadi laws applicable to her. If instead she herself claims she is Ahmadi, then it doesn't matter what the rules are for her because she will not be viewed as Muslim by consensus. For other Muslim men considering it, marriage to her will be prohibited and invalid.

We get told off by CT for saying this bluntly, but for the sake of clarifying my advice:

If they say they are Ahmadiyyah, then we presume them to be non-Muslim - even if they fast like us, pray like us, dress like us, speak like us - the consensus of scholars representing over 99% of Muslims agree on this; only Ahmadiyyah believe they are Muslims. The Muslims reject them due to them believing in another prophet after Muhammad (SAW), and they go against consensus in many things.

So what I am trying to say is that if she claims she is Muslim without believing in Ahmadi beliefs, then her parents have no rights over who she marries, nor are Ahmadi laws applicable to her. If instead she herself claims she is Ahmadi, then it doesn't matter what the rules are for her because she will not be viewed as Muslim by consensus. For other Muslim men considering it, marriage to her will be prohibited and invalid.

As Ahmadiyyah is not recognised as a true sect in Islam scholars are against this group too. From that, one is then aware that they are not permitted to grant his daughter in marriage and they are disbelievers.(Apostates). This is confirmed in Surah Baqarah Ayah 2:21. One scholar states in his tafseer that do not marry a Mushrik men or a women if they still believe in shirk. Surah Maidah confirms this too, Ayah 5:5.

It is recommended that one must explain the relationship to their friend so that Haraam is prevented in such matters. Arranged marriages in such matters would be a better option, however for this sister, there’s an issue considering that her parents can easily get her married to an Ahmadiyyah. Therefore, the sister should explain to such parents that they are faltering upon such matters and this can then be resolved InshaAllah.

My friend told me today that she was an ahmadiyya. Her mum was a sunni but she converted to ahmadiyya and her dad was a born one. She told me something about how her dad said she can only marry someone they choose for her and they have to be from that sector (ahmadiyya). However, the problem is she told me that she doesnt want to do that because she herself only is not that strict of a muslim so she knows marrying someone from that sector she will be restricted and the lifestyle will be different.

So she decided that she would rather not get married at all? I dont know what to advice her. She said she can only marry a converted ahmadiyya if they been converted for 3yrs+ (apparently thats their rule)? I dont know if she likes arranged marriage?

The opinions of Salafi scholars you follow does not represent even a majority of Muslims let alone "99%". Please do not presume to speak for us when making takfeer on other Muslims.

The opinions of Salafi scholars you follow does not represent even a majority of Muslims let alone "99%". Please do not presume to speak for us when making takfeer on other Muslims.

The opinions of Salafi scholars you follow does not represent even a majority of Muslims let alone "99%". Please do not presume to speak for us when making takfeer on other Muslims.