Sorry for the long into, it's needed though x
Before I got with my boyfriend I used to sext lots of guys especially in the summer - it was all casual, nothing serious, like I used to talk to a few but never with the intention of getting together with them or anything (kinda friendly I guess?).
Fast forward to a few months later, me and my boyfriend (let's call him J) started dating and we've been extremely happy ever since (I would say I'm in love and can honestly imagine spending the rest of my life with him). J's faultless - he's kind, caring, understanding, literally he has all the qualities a perfect boyfriend would have.
Anyway, a guy I regularly used to sext suddenly messaged me saying he has feelings for me. EXCEPT, we never used to talk after - he was a textbook fboy, but he now claims to have changed due to certain events in his life. Once he told me I felt like I had to be there for him as a moral obligation.
Of course, I told J all of this and he said he doesn't care as he trusts me. I had blocked the former fboy before but I can't avoid him as he just makes new accounts to message me on, but he doesn't get the message that I don't want him, what should I do?
Part of me feels bad and I've tried hinting that nothing will happen, but he wants me to give him a month as a chance to see if anything could happen? Should I just let the time go by and then say I don't want you?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated x