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20 year old virgin Female

I am about 4'11 and weigh about 90 lbs, my skin is clear - but I am flat chested. I have really bad social anxiety and get scared easily, how do I stop being a virgin?!
Literally, create a profile on ANY online dating app. You'll lose your virginity in no time as a girl.
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Get some help for the anxiety. Take it from there.
Original post by Anonymous
I am about 4'11 and weigh about 90 lbs, my skin is clear - but I am flat chested. I have really bad social anxiety and get scared easily, how do I stop being a virgin?!


why do people have so much insecurities because you never had sex? Yup well I’m 20 and virgin too and so are the billions around the world
Original post by Guinevere Arthur
Oh my god. Here we go... why do people have so much insecurities because you never had sex? Yup well I’m 20 and virgin too and so are the billions around the world


Oh god he we go.... Another know it all who hasn’t personally experienced an insecurity so they think it’s stupid. Really if you don’t have nothing nice to stay, just go away
Original post by Anonymous
Oh god he we go.... Another know it all who hasn’t personally experienced an insecurity so they think it’s stupid. Really if you don’t have nothing nice to stay, just go away


No one should be insecure about themselves just because they have not had sex. Sure the anxiety side of things is important to get over but sex is not.
What is so important about losing your virginity? Do you think it will instantly make you better as if it is a disease that is cured? (It won't be it will just get you wanting more sex and if you can't have it due to unstable relationships or no relationships then you will just feel worse of than if you did not lose it in the first place.)
dont feel obligated to lose it i kinda regret losing mine. coming from a 16 yr old
Having sex is over rated. Honestly, work on yourself and being happy with you. That tends to attract people. There’s more important things to be worried about, like your anxiety and self esteem. Having sex isn’t going to make you feel validated or less insecure.
Girls shouldn't be virgins at 20 tbh, you can lose it sooo easy.

It's much harder for lads.
urgh. I'm the same but no anxiety. I just want a long term partner who loves me.
Yes, creating a dating profile is a good step. Next would be to inform your date about your anxiety and I think you should keep your dates short and frequent.
Many guys don't care about breasts if you have a nice butt. You should work out if you can but don't only target your butt.
Guys love short girls. :smile:
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Original post by Anonymous
Literally, create a profile on ANY online dating app. You'll lose your virginity in no time as a girl.


This advice just sounds like you're trying to get it over with. Try to not rush into if, even if you feel like you have to. I understand this was good advice, but it comes off as "you're a girl, many random guys want sex, you'll be done with it soon."

Don't mean to be rude, but that's how I took it at least, and I'M a girl too.
"I have really bad social anxiety and get scared easily, "
Work out. Meditate. Be free and live healthy. Socialise more. Find a purpose in life, this is a powerful one. When you got purpose you won't give a shyte about all these people and their uninteresting lives. Perhaps it's true what they say, social anxiety is about fear of failure and when you have purpose, you don't care about failing in front of these people. They do not define your life anymore.

"how do I stop being a virgin?!"
What does this have to do with social anxiety?

Just let it be. Don't whore with loosers. Be free and live healthy :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
This advice just sounds like you're trying to get it over with. Try to not rush into if, even if you feel like you have to. I understand this was good advice, but it comes off as "you're a girl, many random guys want sex, you'll be done with it soon."

Don't mean to be rude, but that's how I took it at least, and I'M a girl too.


Well, she asked how to lose her virginity and this is the quickest and easiest way to do it lol.
Original post by Anonymous
Well, she asked how to lose her virginity and this is the quickest and easiest way to do it lol.


The easiest way is not always the easiest option.
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You need experienced man to help you
Original post by AndrewBlue
The easiest way is not always the easiest option.


Exactly... nor the best either.
Original post by Anonymous
Well, she asked how to lose her virginity and this is the quickest and easiest way to do it lol.


I mean, yes, that's true, but I just wanted to send a warning about it.

I also have bad anxiety, and maybe we aren't all the same in every single way, but I just wanted to offer a piece of advice. I feel like I would be anxious about it or possibly more insecure than I already am if I "got it over with" with any person off a website. Not saying that you cannot find someone fit for you on dating sites, because I know many stories about people who find great love there... but just a warning about these things.

I feel as if I were to put myself out there for just sex, I would feel like an object. Although, if I went on the site and found someone genuine and comfortable I would not feel insecure... but like I said, different people, different situations, and different thoughts. But that was just mine. :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Girls shouldn't be virgins at 20 tbh, you can lose it sooo easy.

It's much harder for lads.


Shouldn't be? What are you trying to say? Is there this rule that girls need to lose their virginity early because they're GIRLS?
Don't worry about trying to lose tour virginity, sex is pretty boring

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