Question for all people that are LGBT+

For Gay/Lesbian people:
If gender is a social construct:
Why do most lesbians dress up/act/have mannerisms that are male?
Why do gay men dress up/act/have mannerisms that are female?

For Transgender people:
Do transgender people think themselves/yourself to be ACTUALLY biologically male/female? As most trans people just act out stereotypes?
I've also heard of the fact that transgender people have different brains, but I believe that the differences between the female and male neurological structures are pointless according to science. There isn't any evidence that suggests the differences in neurological structure between men and women have anything to do with their cognitive abilities. So, a man can have a brain that is similar in structure to the average woman and he will still identify as a man. Feel free to disprove/correct, I'm here to learn.

Sorry if this comes across as bashing/hate/offending. I don't intend to offend at all, I just want to learn more, which is why I've presented my thoughts as questions. I've tried to research but I like it better if I can actually speak to people and converse with them and ask more questions, also since none of my friends are apart of the LGBT+ community.
Thanks.

Firstly, not all gay men are feminine and secondly, I feel like some gay/bisexual men act a bit feminine because they don’t have to be masculine like straight people because they like their own gender

Yes, sorry, I know it wasn't in my post but I am fully aware that not all gay men act feminine. So are you saying that gay men feel more free to act themselves because they aren't in the confines of masculinity, as straight men very much are? Which, I have to say, is a good point. However, again, because being feminine is a social construct why is it that most gay men always seem to act in a very feminine way? Very flamboyant, etc.... Same for lesbians.... Shouldn't a sexuality just be apart of a person? Like, the person has their own personality but they just happens to be gay/lesbian/etc...? Why is it that most have, (what seems to me) a very specific and same personality ("yaaaas girl, work it b" for lack of a word to describe it) and lesbians act very masculine as well. That's what I don't get.

For Gay/Lesbian people:
If gender is a social construct:
Why do most lesbians dress up/act/have mannerisms that are male?
Why do gay men dress up/act/have mannerisms that are female?

For Transgender people:
Do transgender people think themselves/yourself to be ACTUALLY biologically male/female? As most trans people just act out stereotypes?
I've also heard of the fact that transgender people have different brains, but I believe that the differences between the female and male neurological structures are pointless according to science. There isn't any evidence that suggests the differences in neurological structure between men and women have anything to do with their cognitive abilities. So, a man can have a brain that is similar in structure to the average woman and he will still identify as a man. Feel free to disprove/correct, I'm here to learn.

You might be confusing sex and gender. A social construct is an idea that has generally been created and accepted by society. Being a biological man or woman is not a social construct, it is your sex. It has nothing to do with society. The idea of being masculine or feminine is biologically inclined, however the concept of what makes a man or a woman in society is a social construct. That doesn't invalidate or validate anything. Being masculine or feminine is inclined by biology, so you could also it isn't a social construct because of that. It's just an odd discussion, because it both is a social construct in some ways and isn't in others.
To answer the two questions:
Societal influence has an incredibly understated role in a child's development. You may end up being a dominant person or a submissive person. Masculine behaviours and mannerisms are typically dominant and feminine behaviours and mannerisms are typically submissive. Any man or woman can be dominant or submissive. Sexuality isn't too related, however, a dominant person will make a much better couple with a submissive person than two dominant or two submissive people. Dominant females that are lesbians may adopt more masculine behaviours because they are more dominant people. Gay men may end up adopting female behaviours and a preference to be feminine because they're submissive (hence how traps are a thing). I don't know if sexuality affects if you are dominant or submissive, however I suspect that there are biological inclinations that play a role too. Gender is a social contract in a sense that society has generally accepted that one is dominant, strong stoic etcetera and the other is submissive, physically weaker and more emotional.

Honestly, I'd ignore the whole social construct argument. It doesn't make a difference if is or isn't anyway. People are biologically one or the other, however, societal influences and sexuality may make one prefer to be the other.



Absolutely not. Transgender just means trans (on the other side of, in this context, biological sex) gender. Aka the other gender that isn't associated with their biological sex. There are two types of trans people. Not Female to Male (FtM) or Male to Female (MtF). The two types are people with gender dysphoria and transtrenders. I know no one with gender dysphoria what is actually crazy enough to believe they are actually a male when they're female or vice versa. They all know they are what they are biologically. They just have a very heavy preference to have been born as the opposite sex instead. They want to be the opposite sex really badly, they know they never will be. The reason why they become transgender and take hormones and have surgery is that it is the closest they will ever be to being the opposite sex.
How to determine if someone has gender dysphoria:
• They feel uncomfortable being their current sex, they may even feel uncomfortable just being in public.
• They actually want to be the other sex for reasons that aren't related to politics at all.
• They are willing to / have put in extensive effort into trying to look like someone of the opposite sex.
• They would rather be known as the opposite sex than transgender.
• They may not actually become transgender, mostly to the fault of the transtrenders, or they feel like they can never become close enough to the opposite sex.
How to determine if someone is a transtrender:
• They are Brianna Wu, a very popular transtrender.
• They identify as some bizarre gender made up to feel special. Aka anyone who calls themself 'Demiboy' 'Transqueer' or anything like that.
• They obviously have no intention of ever transitioning or want to act like their original gender still.

For the brain structures argument, it's just another example of how societal influence during young ages has a colossal effect on who you grow up to be. A man with a brain structure more similar to a female may be more likely to feel gender dysphoria, however, that brain structure is most likely a symptom and not the cause. The cause is probably societal influence at young ages. Studies have shown that young children that have been isolated or treated badly have grown different brain structures to those treated well and given attention when needed, I'd cite it but it's been ages since GCSE psychology, probably ask the GCSE psych students.

TL;DR
Actual transgender people want to be the opposite sex really badly, they know they can't be. They don't believe they are, because that'd be delusional.
The whole 'social construct' thing is a non-issue, having a dominant personality or submissive personality is a big factor, and having either personality is a result of societal influence at young ages and some biological inclination.

For Gay/Lesbian people:
If gender is a social construct:
Why do most lesbians dress up/act/have mannerisms that are male?
Why do gay men dress up/act/have mannerisms that are female?

For Transgender people:
Do transgender people think themselves/yourself to be ACTUALLY biologically male/female? As most trans people just act out stereotypes?
I've also heard of the fact that transgender people have different brains, but I believe that the differences between the female and male neurological structures are pointless according to science. There isn't any evidence that suggests the differences in neurological structure between men and women have anything to do with their cognitive abilities. So, a man can have a brain that is similar in structure to the average woman and he will still identify as a man. Feel free to disprove/correct, I'm here to learn.

Sorry if this comes across as bashing/hate/offending. I don't intend to offend at all, I just want to learn more, which is why I've presented my thoughts as questions. I've tried to research but I like it better if I can actually speak to people and converse with them and ask more questions, also since none of my friends are apart of the LGBT+ community.
Thanks.

For Gay/Lesbian people:
If gender is a social construct?????

Huh? Sexuality is not a social construct, it's a biological fact. People who are homophobic would love to think it's "constructed".