Being Single
Basically I am 20 years old currently at university and I have been single the majority of my life, I just don't understand why as I do talk to girls, not out of desperation and as if I am hunting for a girlfriend. It is just really frustrating me to be honest, made worse by the fact I am staying in halls with 2 couples next year. I'm also a virgin which saps my confidence sometimes, any advice would help cheers.
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chill out
I’m chilled man, I just want to find someone to go into a relationship with.
obviously not that chill if you think the invisible 'virgin' label hanging above your head is a problem.
The right person will come along in good time, be patient man and focus on yourself.
It’s not a problem, it’s just at the back of my mind. The teasing I can take, but I do get annoyed sometimes and wollow in my own self pity a bit, which is silly I know.
Original post by uninteresting
The right person will come along in good time, be patient man and focus on yourself.
I try to focus on myself, go to the gym, play tennis which I love doing, be warm, friendly etc but it’s just not happening. So I try not to think about it too much, thanks though I’ll remain upbeat I could be worse off in life.
Try online dating. It might boost your confidence in talking with girls but you need to have the right mindset for dating. Don’t force yourself to date girls just because you’re desperate. Don’t be a douche to the girls who reject you. Don’t overthink it, just move on when it happens. Don’t be a “niceguy”. There’s nothing nice about niceguys.
Original post by Tlameloisstrange
Try online dating. It might boost your confidence in talking with girls but you need to have the right mindset for dating. Don’t force yourself to date girls just because you’re desperate. Don’t be a douche to the girls who reject you. Don’t overthink it, just move on when it happens. Don’t be a “niceguy”. There’s nothing nice about niceguys.
Well there’s my problem, I am a nice guy and what’s wrong with it, I feel I’m genuine with it? Yeah I’ve tried tinder and okcupid but don’t know any good online dating sites apart from match which costs.
haha. thats a tough thing. but i’ll give you a hint
-Money
-looks
-personality
if you havent gotten any of these.. you’ll have a hard time tbh. (Im not saying you wont get a gir* im just saying you’ll get a hard time)
-Money
-looks
-personality
if you havent gotten any of these.. you’ll have a hard time tbh. (Im not saying you wont get a gir* im just saying you’ll get a hard time)
Original post by Anonymous
Well there’s my problem, I am a nice guy and what’s wrong with it, I feel I’m genuine with it? Yeah I’ve tried tinder and okcupid but don’t know any good online dating sites apart from match which costs.
There are 2 types of nice guys.
1. The genuine kind who treat people with respect and don’t expect any payment for the kindness they give.
2. They act genuine at first but they call women whores the moment they get rejected.
Don’t be the latter. Tinder is okay. Maybe spice up your bio. Learning commutation skills might be beneficial. Be yourself but don’t be creepy.
PS. I’m a girl. I don’t have any experience with dating as a 20 year old but I have girl friends who tell me about their social life.
Original post by Tlameloisstrange
There are 2 types of nice guys.
1. The genuine kind who treat people with respect and don’t expect any payment for the kindness they give.
2. They act genuine at first but they call women whores the moment they get rejected.
Don’t be the latter. Tinder is okay. Maybe spice up your bio. Learning commutation skills might be beneficial. Be yourself but don’t be creepy.
PS. I’m a girl. I don’t have any experience with dating as a 20 year old but I have girl friends who tell me about their social life.
1. The genuine kind who treat people with respect and don’t expect any payment for the kindness they give.
2. They act genuine at first but they call women whores the moment they get rejected.
Don’t be the latter. Tinder is okay. Maybe spice up your bio. Learning commutation skills might be beneficial. Be yourself but don’t be creepy.
PS. I’m a girl. I don’t have any experience with dating as a 20 year old but I have girl friends who tell me about their social life.
Obviously you don’t know me, but I genuinely feel I am what point number one describes, and yeah I study a journalism course so I feel my communication skills are alright and my tinder bio is fine, so I don’t know what to do really apart from try other sites.
Original post by Anonymous
haha. thats a tough thing. but i’ll give you a hint
-Money
-looks
-personality
if you havent gotten any of these.. you’ll have a hard time tbh. (Im not saying you wont get a gir* im just saying you’ll get a hard time)
-Money
-looks
-personality
if you havent gotten any of these.. you’ll have a hard time tbh. (Im not saying you wont get a gir* im just saying you’ll get a hard time)
I thought I had a personality, but I am doubting myself with me being single so long.
Not saying I have it bad, it’s more of a what should I do type post, and I’ve had one relationship at high school, which I don’t count because it didn’t last long and wasn’t mature enough yet for a proper one. This isn’t an “I have it so bad” type of post which you’re making it out to be, thanks for your comment anyway.
Try talking to a guy....
Original post by Anonymous
Try talking to a guy....
Nah, I’m good thanks.
Original post by Zarek
Just keep at it, it's about patience and resilience. Get some tips from more successful mates. Work on your repartee.
Thanks, solid advice
talk to men cos guys do that if they can't hack it wid girls and they're happy with men or just go on some dating websites and try ur luck. Good luck.
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