[QUOTE=Anonymous;78885140]He told me he wasn't in contact with his ex that's why it came as a surprise to me and of course it would annoy me he lied. He even once said to me that he wouldn't like it if i were in contact with my ex. So it would be fair for me to accept the same so i don't understand the double standards.
I was in my room for more than an hour coz I was in there the whole night. And when I did call him out on his actions and he was putting her feelings as I personally feel like it's not appropriate to be in contact with an ex when you're in a relationship . And ex is an ex for a reason.a priority before mine. As his girlfriend my feeling should matter more to him but he seemed more concerned about his ex and making sure she had a great night while i was stuck in my room. So yeah I am annoyed. I'm f*cking pi*sed.
Everything in bold I agree with.
Anything underlined is questionable.
Told you he wasn't in contact? Lying (Red flag)
Double standards? (Red flag)
Her feelings before yours. (Red flag)
Now, look at what you wrote:"As his girlfriend my feeling should matter more to him"
Imagine we removed the word "girlfriend" and replace it with "your name".
If we were to do that, that would make you come across as self-centred. Your his girlfriend, does that mean he has to give all his attention to you?
Step out of your skin and into his ex's skin. She was with him for 5 years. Like it or not, they'll know each other a lot more, better than you know him. I'm not justifying majority of his actions, however there's noway you can expect him to totally ignore her and make it all about you.
Despite that, I do agree he should have been more concerned about you but also keeping his guest (ex) happy.
"I personally feel like it's not appropriate to be in contact with an ex when you're in a relationship . And ex is an ex for a reason."
An ex is an ex because the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship was not working out. Your ex doesn't have to mean totally Ghost them from your life.
Some people break up as a mutual agreement from both parties and want to remain friends as they enjoy being friends, just don't want anything serious yet.
How their relationship ended is beyond me, but I doubt it ended in a bad way as they're obviously still friends and you should do your best to respect that despite how childish she's acting towards you.
Ngl, this whole thing sounds childish and shouldn't even be happening in your 20s