How can I become the best person possible?

On a journey of self improvement at the moment. I've been very reserved with people recently and want to work on having more of a character. I get the impression that I am too reserved and socially awkward for people to want to be around. Also wanting to turn from introvert to more of an extrovert.

I haven't necessarily got someone to look up to that I know, so I will ask here.

Does anyone have some ideas of how to become a great person and ultimately one that people like?

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Reply 1

tashkent46

What does it mean to you? It is an entirely relative thing, but if we are to understand it to mean the stereotypes which surrounds our society like a shroud of mist:

Become a fitter person. Do exercise regularly, swimming, jogging, etc.

Become a spiritual person. Volunteer for a church or some kind of mental health organisation.

Become a more productive person. Work harder and contribute more labour.

Become a more educated person. Learn more about the world.

Become a more involved person. Develop emotional intelligence by volunteering through various charitable organisations, with a local authority or with an interesting and developing private sector company.

Become a nicer person. Take your family out, treat them etc.

Reply 2

username3161682

Original post by tashkent46

What does it mean to you? It is an entirely relative thing, but if we are to understand it to mean the stereotypes which surrounds our society like a shroud of mist:.

I'm meaning in terms of developing myself as a person but particularly in terms of personality. I feel a bit like I am inside a shell.

Reply 3

tashkent46

Original post by Joe2001

I'm meaning in terms of developing myself as a person but particularly in terms of personality. I feel a bit like I am inside a shell.

What do you like?
What do you dislike?

What foods?
Sport?
Jobs?
Kinds of people?
Traits?

What's your background like?

What experiences in the past do you remember most?

If you want to be unique ask yourself questions only your senses can answer, only you know you.

Reply 4

the bear

you need to like yourself first.... that is harder than it sounds.

Reply 5

tashkent46

Original post by the bear

you need to like yourself first.... that is harder than it sounds.

Not on Facebook it's not. That's how you get your posts up quickly.

Reply 6

the bear

Original post by tashkent46

Not on Facebook it's not. That's how you get your posts up quickly.

Facebook... is that a novel or sth ?

:dontknow:

Reply 7

awkwardshortguy

Original post by Joe2001

One quick and easy way to improve is to go vegan thereby reducing the suffering that is inflicted upon animals

Reply 8

username3161682

Original post by awkwardshortguy

One quick and easy way to improve is to go vegan thereby reducing the suffering that is inflicted upon animals

I'm not a vegetarian (but do support it) however I don't understand veganism and would never do it. Would not be able to eat much..

Reply 9

username3161682

I agree with the rest of what you are saying, however my opinion is that if other people don't like what I am doing, then I need to adjust how I do things. It's the same for everyone. We need feedback in order to ultimately make improvements.

Reply 10

sandytablet

scream "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA" and clench your fists until your hair starts flaming up into a yellowy blonde colour

Reply 11

spoonferret

Original post by awkwardshortguy

One quick and easy way to improve is to go vegan thereby reducing the suffering that is inflicted upon animals

Come on, man. People already think we're entitled elitists. This method of conversion / recruitment doesn't help (and arguably contributes to reductivism / short-term vegans) 😂

Original post by Joe2001

I'm not a vegetarian (but do support it) however I don't understand veganism and would never do it. Would not be able to eat much..

Don't get me wrong, I'm not in any way trying to convince you! But this 'I couldn't eat anything' is a common misconception. (Unless you have a lot of allergies? I mean, I do but they're allergies to animal products. If anything that makes it easier)

On to your original question, for self improvement:
-Read often, and broadly
-volunteer (if you can find time and are healthy enough to)
-Learn a language
-Join some kind of group / society / cause. Being like minded w/ a group will help ease the whole feeling awkward a little

Reply 12

username3161682

What about in terms of personality? That is one of the key things that I want to improve to get somewhere in life. I don't think anyone gets me nor do I really get myself.

Reply 13

username3161682

In addition to what has already been said, when asked about positive qualities about myself, I never really have an answer because I don't really believe there are any. I need the validation of others to really know if I am on the right track.

Reply 14

PrincipalSkinner

adopt nofap imo its the best possible thing u can do right now, hit the gym or if no money jog or ride a bike whatever, read books a mix of good fiction and non fiction such as on things ur interested on, but also on confidence (dr aziz is good), money, relationships i.e. how to talk to people especially potential romantic partners, spirituality, autobiographies. meditate, eat cleaner, buy nice clothes, get a decent haircut, develop new skills and hobbies, join classes/clubs, cut down on bs habbits like excessive internet, video game, smartphone, tv/netflix use. some yt u should check out are elliot hulse, infinite waters, blackwhiteguyinamerica, based zeus, alpham, mikkiois, practical psyhology, flockt v, les brown, eric thomas, tony robbins, gary vee, how to beast, Gabriel Kalei Bocanegra to name a few. a quick tip tho is to not become a selfimprovment wizard i.e. learning all this but never apply it

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Reply 15

username3161682

Original post by PrincipalSkinner

adopt nofap imo its the best possible thing u can do right now,

Really? Of all the possible things, that is at the top of the list?

Reply 16

PrincipalSkinner

Original post by Joe2001

Really? Of all the possible things, that is at the top of the list?

nofap changed my life it was the kick in the arse i desperately needed. nofap is the catalyst to great things. no man can honestly aim to become a bigger stronger version of himself if hes busting nuts to hardcore pornography. problem is only the very few are man enough to stop. i wish someone told me about nofap as a teenage id have a compeltely difffrent youth

Reply 17

username3161682

Original post by PrincipalSkinner

You can become a better version of yourself in your day to day life without participating in this program. What happens behind closed doors doesn't affect that.

And what does one do to fill the void?

Reply 18

PrincipalSkinner

Original post by Joe2001

dont mock nofap until u try it. 3.5 years ago if someone said to quit p and m id laugh at them say what the big deal watching p and m is normal and fine. but then i quit i was man enough to give it ago. because i didnt want to be that pussy anymore who was full of anxeity, socially akward, too shy, never really actually went out and lived. so i tried it and realised how fuc/king amazing nofap is. quitting for me gives me motivation, a clearer head, more confidence, ambitious, want to scoailise and actually live. sure u can say its a placebo and maybe it is. but if so its one hell of a placebo. its like the magic pill everyone is looking for

u do productive chit instead. and release that tension with a real life person in a meaningful relationship. but there is something behind semen retention something probably not recongised by the medical community and its that ur body doesnt think its reporducing any more and thinks chit whats wrong, and kicks u into gear to start making changes benefical ones to get laid again