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My boyfriend doesn’t have any friends

I’ve been with my boyfriend two years and I’ve never met his friends. We spend a lot of time together, but I’m going to university and working and I’ve got sports events to go to, so this year we’re going to be seeing each other a lot less, as in once or twice a week. We had an argument about this, because he thought it was unfair that I won’t have much time to see him, and that I should plan my time around his work schedule.
He’s on sports teams and he says he’s only there to play sport and he’s not interested in being their friend or even socialising with them after a game. Which, since he’s meant to be their teammate, seems a bit weird to me.
I just feel like by going to uni and working and whatever, I’m going to make him lonely. And I’m not sure what I can say to him because he gets really defensive when I suggest him hanging around with the boys on his team or going to see other people.
And I don’t know if it’s selfish or not, but I don’t want to stop doing the things I want to do this year, just because of him and me being the only person he spends time with.
Live your life the way you want to. Maybe he's a loner or socially awkward, but he has no right to control your life to that extent. Making time for him shouldn't mean that you have to give up your life.

Talk to him calmly about it without arguing. If he doesn't understand, then you may have to re-evaluate the relationship. You'll never have this level of freedom again, so make the most of it.
Original post by Anonymous
We had an argument about this, because he thought it was unfair that I won’t have much time to see him, and that I should plan my time around his work schedule.


This is the most important line in your post. It is not unfair that you will have less time to see him and he should not expect you to plan your life around his schedule. That is him being selfish by expecting you to plan your life around his. Never give-up the things you want to do with your life for a guy.

Your boyfriend not wanting to make any friends is his own problem. If anything it shows how he's too dependent on you for his social needs and that's not very healthy for a relationship. Go to uni, don't feel bad about it, and if he feels lonely try again to push him toward hanging out with the guys from his sports clubs.

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